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Topic: Scorpio jealousy ruining relationship... HELP!!
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scorpluv
Knowflake Posts: 130
From: new york, new york, USA
Registered: Jun 2006
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posted March 28, 2007 02:13 PM
 
Hey guys... Its been awhile but I just had to get this off my chest... My scorpio jealousy is rearing its ugly head again and I can't stop it... Just a brief overview here... I mistook one of my "personal items" for someone else's and completely lost my **** this morning w/my very patient Cappy. God bless him because I really don't know how he deals w/my crap most of the time... Don't get me wrong, he's guilty of his own jealousy moments, however I believe I just went too far... Both of us are going through an extreme amount of pressure for the past two weeks and I just can't see how we're going to survive this... Honestly, after what happened this morning I don't believe that we will be together much longer at all... I'm just confused and emotional and generally a mess... Anything in our chart that would indicate a "rough" period right now? I really need some help or advice or anything to help w/this jealousy thing... Sometimes I can't control it and I don't want to loss my relationship over my own insecurities... Or is it just destined that we separate in order for me to learn how to let go of my control issues and work on my jealousy... Our chart information is below... Anyone with some insight, I'd really appreciate it... ThanksMe: 11/2/1979, 4:19a.m., New York City
Him: 12/24/1977, 11:45 p.m., New York City IP: Logged |
CrankyCap
Knowflake Posts: 665
From: Powell, Ohio, United States
Registered: May 2006
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posted March 28, 2007 03:26 PM
Just sent you an email SL...hang in there!  - CC IP: Logged |
hereisgone
Knowflake Posts: 114
From: Neverland
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted March 29, 2007 12:58 PM
Hey, Scorp. Fellow Scorpio here. Seems like this is a bad time for our jealousy streak to be rearing it's ugly head. I too am having problems now with jealousy and my guy. Sorry, can't give any advice, just wanted to let you know that you're not alone. *hugs*IP: Logged |
SweetCappie
Knowflake Posts: 187
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Registered: Oct 2005
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posted April 04, 2007 08:58 PM
HI
Its cool seeing another Scorpio-Capricorn couple. My bf is a Scorpio and we both have jealous & possessive natures. I think its a matter of building up trust and reassuring each other to the fullest (both with words and actions) that you won't cheat because you love & respect your partner. When my Scorp reassures me, it really helps, plus his honesty is helping me to find reasons to trust him. I find it hard to trust so hopefully he can earn it as time goes along.Think about the root of your insecurities and how they manifest. If your man is understanding & patient, he will be there for you and try to not push your jealousy button. I know I try not to do that with my Scorpio but I understand he has insecurities and fears, I accept that and I try to reassure him daily. My cancer moon helps me with being intuitive to his needs. Linda Goodman also mentioned the whole "reassurnace" thing in Love Signs (I forgot what chapter it was but she said constant reassurance is a cure for jealousy). He also reassures me too and it really helps me. I need reassurance on a regular basis so I gotta let him know that because I overanalyze things too much and sometimes jump to conclusions when I don't get the reassurance I need. How do you like being with a Capricorn? Do you see some of yourself in him? What attracts you to him? I think Scorpio (the evolved type) is the best sign for me, especially because I have a real sensitive Cancer moon. Does your man have a problem with your jealousy or is he understanding and accepting? IP: Logged |
SweetCappie
Knowflake Posts: 187
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Registered: Oct 2005
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posted April 04, 2007 09:08 PM
Hey I noticed your guy's birthday is the day before mine. We have the same placements except his rising sign, his moon is in Gemini and mine is Cancer (my rising is Gemini). I was on a different site today and did alot of reading on Gemini moons. Here's a link if you're interested: http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/messages.asp?id=829992 IP: Logged |
InLoveWithLife
Knowflake Posts: 1481
From: Wonderland
Registered: Aug 2006
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posted April 05, 2007 06:00 PM
did i hear 'cappy with gemini moon' ?well, i am at your service...  i checked your bf's chart....and i see a lot of sadge and gemini in there. even tho he is a cappy, and they r possesive (and he has mars in leo too!), i think all tht sadge and gamini might make him averse to displays of jealousy. i know tht's double standards, but...  personally, i don't know how i'd handle jealousy. bcoz none of my bf's ever went tht way. somehow my girl friends have this tendency to think they own me. those kind of control issues make me very resentful. then in my typical gemini way, i try to slip out of their fingers rather than confront them, though my mars in aqua seethes with anger. but then jealousy/posssiveness is different from being controlling/manipulative. there is a very important difference. i think i wud enjoy it in a man  wud make me feel loved.
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lioneye68
Knowflake Posts: 6054
From: Canada
Registered: Apr 2003
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posted April 07, 2007 04:06 PM
Jealousy is a b*tch . It will ruin as many of your relationships as it takes for you learn to overcome it. When you're tired of letting yourself sabatage your own happiness, you will let go. But, not until you get it. I just hope for your sake, that happens sooner rather than later. In the end, what is the worst thing that could happen? Someone will cheat on you, and you'll have to terminate the relationship? Well, that's not the end of the world. You'll go on to live and love again. You won't ceace to breath without that person in your life. It's not fun to be cheated on, but the way you respond to it makes all the difference in the world. And guess what....YOU can't control what other people do, but you CAN control how you respond to it. There's where you true control really is. So, always take the high road, wish them well, smile and send them on their way. Don't resort to revenge, because that only perputuates the karmic teeter totter. ....Once you're equipped with an action plan in the event of infidelity, you don't need to live in terror of it happening. So, don't worry about out, unless it actually happens. Until then, live, laugh, love - Be in the moment, don't worry about "what if's" - You got it covered.
Hope that helps.
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scorpluv
Knowflake Posts: 130
From: new york, new york, USA
Registered: Jun 2006
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posted April 12, 2007 03:52 PM
Hey Guys,I just wanted to thank you for all of your responses... Things have been going better between Cap/Gem and myself... lol.. As is always, he had the cool head when mine was out of sorts and we worked out our differences... I wouldn't say we're in a better place but definitely a more open and honest place... Sometimes I'm not sure where this is all going, my Aries Moon makes me very impulsive and the urgent need for instant gratification can really get in the way of the cool, calm and collective Cap/Gem combo... The funny thing is that he too can be just as jealous and possessive when he feels his place is threatened... He's just not as verbal about it as I am... lol frustrating, but I deal with it since I know I'm no picnic either... apparently... LOL... Lioneye, I'm definitely taking your advice on the whole insecurity thing... I've just decided to let it go for my own sake... I hate living my life with such anxiety... I guess it's just that Scorpio pride doesn't like to be hurt.. but as with all my other relationships, if it does happen, I'll let him go and just move on... eventually I'll get over it and be stronger... I'm finding out more about myself now and with my Saturn return beginning I've just been all over the place lately... Just pray everyday for better days and strength to keep it moving no matter what... I'll keep you guys up to date on the goings on... With my Scorp Sun and Aries Moon, there's never a shortage of that... LMAO TTFN IP: Logged |
Astrid
Knowflake Posts: 96
From:
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted July 07, 2007 01:49 AM
I know this one is a little older, but I had to comment on it. I so relate to ScorpioLuv.
my jealous streak would push any man away. I'm bound to be an old maid if I don't get a grip. lol.I have a zero deg taurus moon, so in any way, shape or form can that ever be Aries-like in tendencies? I am VERY MUCH a taurus moon, but scorpio thru and thru. But sometimes I am so impulsive and impatient, like you describe with an Aries moon. I have to say that I, too, am extremely passionate, scared to death of being abandonded, and very jealous (which is basically fear of being abandoned!). The more I feel for someone, the more jealous I can be. I am NOT proud of it. At times, it's hard to be in my own skin. Spitting out a sentence or two or four of horrible words, wounding my beautiful, sensitive, scorpio boyfriend, and his leo rising, and sensible cappy venus. He's so patient with me. He understands. I feel sorry for him that he has to be with me, sometimes. lol Thanks for your lovely post, s.luv.
I saw myself totally in your words.
I think alot of people give up on us.
Let this be a tribute to those men, ie, SAINTS, who see the WHOLE us, and love us. They understand.
Astrid
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GeminiLover75
Knowflake Posts: 1320
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Registered: Apr 2006
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posted July 07, 2007 07:40 AM
I think my ex must be a saint for being so understanding of me. I remember one time I started up a jealousy trip and instead of getting mad with me or anything he just came over and hugged me and said "it's ok". He completely understood the fear that was behind it, and was nothing but reassuring. I think men like that are very rare! In a way it probably mollycoddled me too much and it certainly did not prepare me for a Gemini/Aries/Aries, lol. But again that's been a learning curve in itself and has been teaching me different things about how to deal. I honestly think I'm a much less jealous person now... and he can longer push my jealousy buttons... within reason! (Taurus/Scorpio/Sag rising).IP: Logged | |
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