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Topic: Too many doubts to work?
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ScrpnBliss
Knowflake Posts: 18
From: CA
Registered: Nov 2005
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posted May 20, 2007 02:07 AM
 
I love my bf A LOT and often envision a future together that is mutually beneficial where we can both grow and learn a lot from each other and from life, but he has so many doubts. Sometimes I just shrug them off b/c they usually have an insecurity undertone on his part.. but then other days I wonder if I'm not paying enough attention to his doubts and if they will end up being our demise.Help! Is there anything in our charts to indicate major areas of conflict? Sigh.. I'm 23 and he's 27 - Me: 11/13/83; 6 AM; Ibadan, Nigeria; Scorpio Sun, Scorpio Rising, Aquarius Moon Him: 05/30/79; 12 PM; Sacramento, California; Gemini Sun, Leo Rising, Leo Moon IP: Logged |
GypsyDancer1221
Knowflake Posts: 91
From: Charlotte, NC, USA
Registered: Oct 2006
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posted May 31, 2007 04:05 PM
Well, first of all, before I analyze your charts, talk to him about his doubts especially if they do involve insecurity, it's ALWAYS good to get things like that out in the open. It's hard for me, being a Cancer, Cap moon, to put my feelings out there and tell people WHY I feel the way I do and why I act certain ways, so perhaps there IS some deeper meaning behind his doubt. If there isn't though, then tell him to STOP being so negative! Negativity is the bane of EVERYTHING, so if he's negative within and about your relationship he's drawing negativity TO you; he needs to stop. Now onto your charts. ^_^Housewise, your moons are trine, so definate emotional compatability, but sign-wise they're opposed. That means that there may be conflicts or barriers that keep you from understanding each others emotional needs or processes. Your Mars is trine his, sign wise, which is also very good, and they are sextile according to housing. His sun is in the tenth house so status and career, especially fatherhood, will be very important to him, yet your sun is in the first house so you may be more self-centered, which IS good as well. Try looking at your solar chart; in explanations of having sun in first house it explains that it is VERY good for self improvement and planning things that will profit you and such. Anyway, your sun being Scorp with a Scorp asc and he being Gemini with Leo Asc, you're MC, Asc, etc are square, which is good for attraction but CAN cause negative as well as positive tension. Your moon is conjunct his neptune in the fourth house, which is GOOD because both of those signs are water signs, associated with emotions, and being in the fourth house of Cancer (family, emotions, etc) then you should have similar ideas and such in family issues and most likely express yourselves in ways that each other will understand and appreciate. I hope this helps. I don't have enough time right now to add to this, but I'll try to find time to check up and see how things are. Please update us on any changes! Take care, sorry it took so long! (I started writing this post last Friday... I just got sidetracked and left it up on my CPU.) Be safe! I hope things go well! Gypsy IP: Logged |
ScrpnBliss
Knowflake Posts: 18
From: CA
Registered: Nov 2005
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posted May 31, 2007 07:06 PM
Hi GypsyDancer! Thanks for replying. What you said is pretty spot on. He is VERY into his career and rising status and a lot of his doubts stem from his need to be away from me at times to tackle career matters. And he felt that since he can't make me a priority for some time I might be better off finding someone who could. We actually had a good talk about this recently. He was being very paternalistic - and you're right fatherhood is EXTREMELY important to him - anyway I told him that he couldn't base his doubts on assumptions. He's had relationships in the past that have fallen apart when his career ambitions got in the way. So we've decided to take it slow for now and see how it goes. Interesting though, I put in his information using an astro program and it calculated his rising sign to be in virgo, not in leo as I originally thought. I dont know if that changes anything.. But for the most part you're right, there is a lot of tension and I'm not even sure where all of it comes from. Everything will be going perfect one minute and before you know it we just hit another road block. A friend even commented that we get caught up on the weirdest of things. I wonder if part of his doubts are due to the fact that he wants to have a family one day and he thinks I'll be too wrapped up in my career to give him that? Not sure... Oh and what do you mean by positive AND negative tension? Do a lot of squares mean that its always going to be an uphill battle with us? IP: Logged | |
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