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Topic: Waitnig for Libra
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Firegirl
Knowflake Posts: 1
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Registered: May 2007
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posted May 30, 2007 08:56 PM
 
I have been seeing a Libra man for about a month now. From the very first time we met we had a strong connection. And even at professional encounters before officially dating, we could talk and laugh and were totally comfortable with one another. The dates we've had been pure fun and I know part of our attraction comes from our being opposite signs--I'm an Aries. Everytime we get together we find more commonground that we share and the chemistry feels electric. But then we go through quiet spells where I don't hear from much from him. This goes against my Aries nature which wants to plunge high speed into a relationship when it feels this good, and normally, if we weren't spending serious time together by now, I would probably cut the guy loose, assuming lack of interest. But from what I read, this is typical Libra in a new relationship. I am atyical of many Aries in that I am practical and grounded in many areas, as well as rational and analytical --I'm trying to be patient and to slow down and give him time since it seems that he really does like me...except if he liked me, wouldn't he want to spend more time with me? We talk about lots of fun things we would like to do together, but he seldom sets dates to do them, and has not yet asked me to do anything involving any of his friends. I've tried pushing things a little to see if he just needs more encouragement to get moving, but I doesn't seem to help and I want to pressure too much. A month feels like plenty of time to get the party going, at least by Aries standards, but do Libras really need much more time to start letting someone into their life? How do I know the difference between one who needs time and one who is not really into me? I don't want to waste my time or his on something that is not likely to go anywhere, but on the other hand, a lot of what I see in this guy says he might be worth waiting for. This is my first experience with Libra and I could use some advise. Thanks for your imputIP: Logged |
lotusheartone
Knowflake Posts: 10745
From: piopolis, quebec canada
Registered: Jul 2005
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posted May 30, 2007 10:56 PM
Hi Firegirl, and Welcome to Lindaland!My thougts  it's only been about a month, like 30 days, he's proabaly use to his own routine. He's just busy with regular life stuff. I'd definitely give it more time.
How do you feel, when you look into his eyes? LOve and Magic! IP: Logged |
Lucia23
Knowflake Posts: 47
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Registered: Feb 2007
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posted May 30, 2007 11:21 PM
My two long-term relationships were with Libras.I don't know why kind of pushing you've tried, but in my experience, the Librans respond very well to a woman taking the initiative UNSUBTLY...this sounds so cliched, but they love it when you make a decision and they don't have to. If you want to see more of him, call and invite him somewhere specific. If you want him to say yes and be really excited about it, have some friends involved. Libras LOVE friends, even other people's friends. My last Libra bf...who I was with for fourteen very committed years...was happy every single time I made a great plan and let him know. IP: Logged |
ScarlettSoul
Knowflake Posts: 91
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Registered: Apr 2006
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posted May 31, 2007 01:18 AM
Welcome!I too am an aries woman. Your situation sounds EERILY similar to a situation I was involved in last year. I met a Libra man and our chemistry was ELECTRIC from the first day... it was one of the most incredible things I'd ever experienced. We were SOOO similar in so many ways and would finish each other's sentences. I could look into his eyes and "hear" exactly what he was thinking or about to say, and vice versa. It was almost like no words needed! We had this incredible rapport... our time together was ALWAYS great... BUT... when we werent together... quiet. I was so confused by this man. He had a side that was really private and withdrawn and though women would flock to him, he rarely let anyone in... Basically, although they are amazing... lots of Libra men are more trouble/worry/confusion than they're worth. Although, one of my best friends is a Libra man - married to my best friend and he's pretty much the perfect man in every way. So they can be great partners, too. My Libra guy ended up moving, but the last time I saw him when he came to visit (April), ALL the electricity was even more intense. He's all over me like a cheap suit. I call him, and then don't hear back for a week... annoying. Too much stress for me! I hope you have better luck, but from what I hear those Libra charmers are often hot and cold like this. If I were you, I'd have an open conversation about what he's looking for right now... Good luck! IP: Logged |
Diandra23
Knowflake Posts: 348
From: portugal
Registered: Mar 2007
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posted May 31, 2007 09:01 AM
Hi and welcome  I Took the liberty to say something because im in my first relationship ever and itīs with a Libra.
In my own experience iīll tell you that itīs true that they enjoy when you make the 1st move,without he necessarily shows you he wants you to.
Literally, it was me who pushed my Libra guy into the "more serious" relationship ( but i already knew he wanted it for long time) and only then i made the move. Yes,they sometimes tend to go into their inner world and seem a bit detached but its not because they dont love the person,itīs just that they need to put their thoughts together...
Maybe its cause my bf has cancer asc but he is really very nurturing,caring and sweet, and it was worth all the time waitting. We met online and talked about hours by msn and phone for 3 months everyday , before we decided to meet.
Libra men has to be sure what they wants and thatīs why sthey are slower than others when making the moves.
But once they decide it... they are the most lovely guys you can meet IP: Logged | |
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