posted June 25, 2007 02:13 PM         

I am friends with a Scorpio female and have always had a "thing" for her, you could say. Lately it seems that she's been inconsiderate--not returning calls about specific plans that we were making until well after the time needed, not calling me to cancel things (she waits till I call) etc., and I'm wondering if I should just give up on the whole thing. I'm on the verge of just cutting off communication because even though we're just friends it annoys me too much.

However, this seems to be a very common trait with the Scorps I know...

Anyway, here's our synastry chart: (I don't know her time of birth, I just used 12pm)

posted July 06, 2007 07:18 PM         

You should not have to always read btw the lines. It's fair to let her know it annoys you, and it's disrespectful of YOUR time.

Since you've made plans w/her, you don't really have the time to make plans with someone else until it's too late.

I know scorps like this too, and actually AM a scorpio myself. If ever I've done this (and I have) it's because:

1. I got seduced into something that looked, seemed, felt or truly was, a better opportunity at the last minute, and didn't have the heart to cancel so late (shame on me, though, being a no-show is worse). I will admit, it's the wimpy way out. Having to explain myself is humiliating, and I'm ashamed by leaving the other person hanging . . . being rather impulsive. . .I have Gem ASC, too, so that doesn't always help in the keeping plans department. . . however, I do most of the time, because I feel other peoples time is very important.

2. I've blown plans with people I, for some reason or another, couldn't say no to, mostly because they would lay on a guilt trip or NOT let me say no, or wouldn't hear it,

3. I've blown plans with a person who was suffocating me. An all consuming, Pisces whale fish with whom I had a platonic relationship. As a single mom, I had very limited time for play, and he knew every waking moment that my son was at his dad's, and made plans for every single breathing second. After a while, I realized that he couldn't handle when I said no. He'd pout and get angry, and demand explanations, or just give me the silent treatment. I realized that I would not move on, or meet men, if I was with him every second I had to spare. There were times I just needed breathing space. So I just slowly went away. I blew plans he made, stopped returning calls. . . etc. It was all or nothing with him, on his terms, so I had to make it nothing.

4. In hindsight, it's rather passive aggressive. I look back at my situation where I was doing this, and I think subconsciously, I may have been trying to be rather thoughtless, just so he wouldn't like me. Sounds rather immature, and it was. But it's how I handled it. Treated him poorly so he'd move on.

Call her on it, without being angry or demanding. Just let her know if she doesn't want to do something w/you,just say so, so that you can make other plans.

Sometimes we get into patterns with people (like, "every Friday is movie night"), then because of those patterns, we form expectations. Scorp females don't want to feel like someone owns us, or that we have to explain our whereabouts (unless we're married, that's common courtesy). . .
that can literally become irritating, and give us a reason (so we think) to rebel and act cruel.

posted July 06, 2007 07:24 PM         

The Pisces guy, too, wanted more out of it than I did.

It got more intense, though he didn't express it in words, and as it got more intense, I couldn't continue like we were because I felt he was seeing more potential in "us" than I ever could. I did NOT see him as a love interest, and it made me uncomfortable, and that's another reason I pulled away.

Maybe she sees you as a friend, and can see you perhaps are looking for something more.

Is there a sun/mars aspect between you?
Or a mars/pluto aspect?

posted July 14, 2007 06:08 PM         

i told her it upset me and she agreed that it's a very ****** thing of her to do. however, she said she'd call me back about it because she was busy at the moment and she didn't call me back for a couple weeks. we only talked for a few minutes. then she said that she was sorry but it's not like she flaked like that all the time.