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Topic: The biggest pain
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The Mutable Night Force
Knowflake Posts: 1439
From: England
Registered: Dec 2004
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posted July 07, 2007 05:19 PM
 
Ohhhhh on Monday I dumped my wonderful boyfriend. For some **** I've been dangerously inamid and obsessed with for three years plus. We talked like we were going to meet up, saying we wanted to, him quite aware of the fact I was going to choose between him and my boyfriend. Him saying, let me know what you decide.
So I did it. I couldn't believe I did. I cried. I was miserable, but I convinced myself it was right, and now it seems that way.But oh.
Oh today he told me. He started seeing someone last Monday.
How very stupid I am. To have forgiven him for things so many times. To not be able to destroy that human hope.
So now I suppose everything is evened out. It is only fair I should have fate punish me for disposing of someone so wonderful and good to me. And for being so very stupid to love someone so callous. Oh hahaha and you'll never guess what he said when told me.
Apparently for this, he really is blameless. IP: Logged |
Azalaksh
Moderator Posts: 4709
From: New Brighton, MN, USA
Registered: Nov 2004
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posted July 07, 2007 05:37 PM
Don't really have much to say, TMNF -- but here's a hug 
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Taurus80
Knowflake Posts: 678
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Registered: May 2005
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posted July 07, 2007 06:39 PM
((((((((((((((Mutable)))))))))))))))IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
Knowflake Posts: 1439
From: England
Registered: Dec 2004
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posted July 07, 2007 06:49 PM
Thank you. Hugs are good.IP: Logged |
miss_muffet
Knowflake Posts: 652
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Registered: Mar 2004
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posted July 07, 2007 09:56 PM
I know this comes a little too late but...Never leave one guy for another. Break up with someone because you feel in your heart that you do not belong together. But never to be with someone else.  It's a lesson I am still learning. Take care. Things will work out for the better... when you are hit rock bottom, there is nowhere else to go but UP. MM IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 9302
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted July 07, 2007 10:30 PM
That sucks. IP: Logged |
MysticMelody
Knowflake Posts: 2192
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Registered: Dec 2005
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posted July 07, 2007 11:46 PM
Being single IS NOT A BAD THING! Its ok to take some time to yourself and decide what is really best FOR YOU. You don't have to keep someone dragging along behind as a back-up. If things are meant to work out with your guy, they still will. (Its part of every love story, after all...)  You are going to be ok. You are going to be GREAT!!! Maybe that is what #2 was meant to give to you... the push to move on. Focus yourself and ask the Universe what is next.  You are free and beautiful and ready for adventure!! Date Date Date Date Date Then if you do finally realize that #1 is the ultimate man for you and that no other could ever compare... then you can go back and tell him so.
I'm glad you are in good, loving, hugging arms for now, and go ahead and take what I said and pummel it to the ground and stomp on it and just keep whatever you find left that still sparkles with beauty when you feel better. You did the right thing. Sounds like you are free of #2, and you won't ever torment yourself while you are with the good man you choose to love wondering what "might have been" with #2. Unless you still feel like there is more unfinished business... if so, just wait a minute and #2 will be back after the initial thrill of the new gf wears off. He didn't deeply learn about her heart, mind, and soul in the last couple weeks between now and when he was trying to get with you.
God bless you
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The Mutable Night Force
Knowflake Posts: 1439
From: England
Registered: Dec 2004
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posted July 08, 2007 09:41 AM
miss muffet- You are right. I'm sorry if you have had to experience something like this too? I wish I had realised your advice before I did what I did.AG- Hey Thanks it's always nice to see a comment from an old LL friend. MM- That is brilliant advice. You have already made me feel better and a bit more hopeful about my future. Thank you. I shall try to adhere to what you said. IP: Logged |
Dulce Luna
Knowflake Posts: 3886
From: The Asylum
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted July 08, 2007 03:00 PM
Awww, I don't know to say MNF. I hope you feel better. 
(((hugs)))
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MysticMelody
Knowflake Posts: 2192
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Registered: Dec 2005
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posted July 09, 2007 04:50 PM
How ya doin'? Need any good chick flick rec's? Did you go out this weekend?
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AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 9302
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted July 11, 2007 12:08 AM
Hi MNF! Welcome back. IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
Knowflake Posts: 1439
From: England
Registered: Dec 2004
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posted July 12, 2007 07:00 AM
Thanks Dulce Luna. You are a sweet moon (maiden).MM- Oh, yes please! I love a good chick flick. Fire away. Bet I've seen a good few of 'em though! Our band had a gig on Sunday, which went ok. My Sag came along and it was quite strange! I think we are going to be friends now hopefully. How was your weekend then? AG- How are you at the moment? Is it true you have a girlfriend now? IP: Logged |
Sunny Mavericks
Knowflake Posts: 80
From: CA, USA
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted July 18, 2007 01:32 AM
MNF, I just responded to your older post, without seeing this one first. I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you. Best wishes and lots of hugs. Sunny IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 9302
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted July 18, 2007 02:25 AM
Yes I do. A Sag herself. IP: Logged |
CoralFrequency
Knowflake Posts: 400
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Registered: Feb 2007
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posted July 19, 2007 04:23 AM
This actually happens to people more often than you'd think. My friend broke up with his gf of 3 years to be with a girl. I told him she wasn't a very nice person and seemed untrustworthy to me.. but he didn't listen at the time.Now his gf won't take him back and the girl is with another guy.. She is the sort of person who only cares about money and my friend isn't very rich, so she was basically just leading him on oh well, people like that aren't worth your time. At least you've learnt something from it.. Like Miss_Muffet said - never leave one person for another. You'll be ok! Capricorn guy seemed shifty all along, from the way you described him.. so I'm not very surprised by this. Don't get in contact with him again, even if he wants to.. He seems to have 'issues' (more specifically ego issues), and thus leads ppl on. IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
Knowflake Posts: 1439
From: England
Registered: Dec 2004
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posted July 19, 2007 09:56 AM
I AM BACK WITH MY SAGGIE!  He took me back. I wasn't sure whether it was the right decision to get back... but then realised after all this **** I couldn't possibly be with the Cap cos any self-esteem I've got left just wouldn't allow this. Sadly, I just can't see it changing... he does have issues, yes...
But I realised apart from the Cap, the Sag is the only guy (not famous haha) I've ever fancied, and I was very happy with him, so hopefully it was a better decision than just moping around the house miserably. If we do ever split up again, I want it to be natural, more mutual and efinitely not for another person. I figured if I'm not going to attempt anything with the Cap again, then there is nothing threatening my relationship with the Saggie anymore I still feel a bit unresovled I guess but after two years of this cr*p, I suppose you learn some things will just never be resolved. Which is infuriating for a Virgo!! lol Thanks for everyone's posts. They've really helped. IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 9302
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted July 20, 2007 10:13 AM
Oh good. IP: Logged |
MysticMelody
Knowflake Posts: 2192
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Registered: Dec 2005
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posted July 20, 2007 02:15 PM
How could I forget your movie rec??? Spacey air sign, sorry. Well, I guess you aren't depressed anymore. My favorite break-up/single chick flik for any and all future references... is Waiting to Exhale. Its strong women (all different and complete with emotional ordeals) when men suck type of film.
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