posted July 08, 2007 12:18 PM         

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What the hell am I doing??!?!

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I have to admit some prurient interest here:

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Faced with my shocked silence, she quickly added, “What, you’re not into that?”

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I hope you don't close the door yet on this interesting friendship -- The Man may be a bit eccentric, but if you enjoy each other's company.....
A few minor warning bells went off when you wrote that he would move to your city in order to be close and pursue a serious relationship. Perhaps that's MY Paranoid Pythagoras saying "be careful, you really don't know anything about him and his past, he could be an ax-murderer" -- but generally I follow my intuition and dump my Pythagoras rudely off my shoulder onto the floor If you feel comfortable with him, and like his company, then enjoy your new friendship

Zala

posted July 09, 2007 12:16 AM         

Yes, I completely agree with Zala:
You had me on the edge of my seat while reading this post.

You my dear have an amazing talent with words!

My insides were giggling:
You see... what I saw was:
A gemini scared of being with someone so much alike themselves.
Two Geminis make 4 people ya' know..LOL
That's quite a handful to deal with,
quite complex -but OH SOooooo Exciting!
I say enjoy, and see where it goes.
Experience is good.

Find out his birth info and put it up let's explore some more...
Oh, oops, well perhaps in the Astrology Forum?

posted July 09, 2007 08:36 PM         

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something tells me that Virgo plays a large part in his horoscope

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I just don't fancy being part of some daddy-complex fantasy. To be honest, that is just creepy.

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posted July 09, 2007 11:01 PM         

Speaking from the point of view of the female incarnation of "man in the robe" I will calmly conjecture that maybe he feels so familiar because he was your sister in a past life... lol
Nah, he is just "metro-sexual" And he probably enjoys the occasional spanking... hehe

Yes, "into" WHAT??? What does this woman know that you DO NOT!?

Nothing wrong with getting to know him better. No moving though!!!! hehe for EITHER of you!

posted July 11, 2007 11:28 AM         

There is a world of difference between really caring for someone and caring for the dream.

When you examine the blueprints of your relationship, do you honestly see a sturdy building, or a house made of cards? You have to make rational decisions about your relationship early on.

You seem to be on the fast track to a wonderful and successful life so don't start getting scared of the unknown.

Trust yourself.

Don't mix up feelings comprised of familiarity, investment, sex, promises, hopes and fantasies with love. Lead with your head.

When it comes to a long term comitted relationship, love is not enough. There are issues of honor, respect, mutuality, sacrifice, acceptance, supportiveness, similarity of of life values and morality, to name only a few.

Those things don't happen over night.

posted July 12, 2007 02:26 AM         

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When it comes to a long term comitted relationship, love is not enough. There are issues of honor, respect, mutuality, sacrifice, acceptance, supportiveness, similarity of of life values and morality, to name only a few.

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Isn't love supposed to imply/include respect, honor, mutuality, support, etc etc ??

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Lead with your head.

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And perhaps listen to your heart??

The question i think is this:

whether it is fear of love/commitment/intimacy etc etc that is making you shy away, and is your pythagoras in disguise?

Or are there really some red flags?

And that can only be answered by you. Most likely, if you consider yourself a very rational/logical person, you may have some trouble dealing with sudden, intense feelings. But that doesn't mean that those feelings are not valid.

Or if you are an emotional/impulsive person, it might be well worth to listen to your pythagoras for a change.

posted July 12, 2007 01:50 PM         

Isn't love supposed to imply/include respect, honor, mutuality, support, etc etc ??

Love does not imply respect, honor, etc.

There are many times when (and I know it's not the case in this situation) women stay with a man they love and are abused or mistreated. When you ask a woman who is abused why she stays with her abuser, her defense is often that "she loves him".

Sometimes women are willing to overlook alot of bad qualities in a man just to have an attachtment and feel validated.

posted August 24, 2007 04:48 AM         

you are using to much of your mind ,when you should have not !
call it the cance's excessive sentiments or whatever but i sincerely feel , there was nothing wrong in what you felt or what he did .
life isn't only about logics ! its much more than that .

posted August 24, 2007 05:10 AM         

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life isn't only about logics !

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Blasphamy!!!

Lol! No we all have had our moments of insanity (and if you haven't had one, ...man have you wasted you life thus far .) But one has to come down to earth from the oh so ever fluffly cloud 9 and actually analyze as to what the future has in store for you and your partner.

Personally though... I would be a total hypocrite if I said to go on all logic when it comes to finding certainty in relationships since my girl and I are anything but your "run of the mill" couple Lol!

posted September 09, 2007 11:51 AM         

I was very rational and to be honest planning every day of my life.Somebody had to definitely teach me how to be spontaneous, relax, stop analysing and living.I had lot of expectation from my partner although I was very satisfied with myself.I had to learn to share and so on.

I had lot to learn and unlearn.I think we all go through that. The new life or new challenges which life throws us do not necessarily mean we can go with the same set of values, thinking pattern,etc.

Person I was involved also had lot to learn too. So no matter whether this relationship ends up.I guess it will be learning and teaching experience for you too.