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Topic: Should I break up ? now....
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freebird
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posted August 23, 2007 08:35 AM
 
I am Scorpion female and was sometime with Libran male. I am just wondering whether I should break up as I don't feel that we are together for right reasons. It is more like living with stranger than anything more.I am not sure is it due to Venus retrogade or is it just time where it is telling that relationship was started for all the wrong reasons and should be ended for good. IP: Logged |
cancerrg
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posted August 23, 2007 09:02 AM
there can be no better judge than you !
if you feel the relation doesn't have a meaning , its time to call it quits .
but i would suggest to know and understnd your bf's feelings too . does he think so too?
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freebird
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posted August 27, 2007 11:11 AM
Thanks CG: I think he wants to break up too or he is confuse and circumstances around us. I think as Libra he wants to be friends even after break up. I think he helped and also destroyed me in certain manner but anyways we have no favorable planet aspects.I guess our progressed chart was great. It was just passing by or should I say till Libra makes up his mind but this time I am sure I don't want the relationship further as I have just got my sanity back. IP: Logged |
Aphrodite
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posted August 27, 2007 10:07 PM
I think Libras will tend to waver until their partners make the ultimate decisions.IP: Logged |
freebird
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posted August 28, 2007 01:01 PM
The thing is I have made my decision and I think that's the best decision is to leave.
I guess I never wanted that relationship and for all the wrong reasons it was started.I asked him lastly as he never had a lasting relationship. I wonder why he never committed with anyone longer. He came up with that feelings change and when feelings change I think he doesn't feel the same for me. We have fallen out couple of times but this time I am very determined. His bad side reminds me of my past and I don't want to make same mistake again. Once bitten twice shy.However he is very good at charming people and yes I was charmed.
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RainbowDay
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posted August 28, 2007 02:23 PM
This is a bit stubid... I mean, NO-ONE but YOU could possibly answer that question!! I'm not even gonna try. You should be grownup enough to be able to make your own descions now, not hideing behind other people's advice. IP: Logged |
cancerrg
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posted August 29, 2007 09:52 AM
ok , i am answering this one for FB , Its not about hiding behind someone advice , its just plain simple that she wanted to have an advice as everyone here( be it you or me) does , that is infact the reason we are here on the site , ain't we ? if you see iot closely , we all do the same one or the other time . IP: Logged |
freebird
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posted August 31, 2007 06:19 AM
Rainbow Day : I was asking firstly question because of Venus Retrogade.There are moments in your life where you are confused and I guess everyone gets through that. It is most difficult when you are clouding your judgement with emotions and not logic. I would say then again love is emotion. I have tried to cut my ties with that person and it hasn't been easy as he insist on being a friend.It is difficult to do that. I totally agree that I shouldn't be taking any advice probably that post was too offload and share feelings. As I am presently in London and I understand drinking pint of beers ,watching football,finance market, office gossip and talking load of **** in pub will be more suitable to many. Giving and talking advice on minute things are more important than personal feelings.I know some people can't be bothered in English culture. I have got nothing against the culture and I am not judgemental and yes I do see lot of good things in the same culture like politness, diplomacy ,being cautious and considerate,efficient people, architecture,etc. To be honest I merely pity those who are dying with stress from inside and wouldn't come out and talk about things just to keep pleasant atmosphere. Some people are not taught how to talk about their personal feelings. There is nothing wrong in seeking advice, talking about your feelings and then making decision. I am not that weak minded that by some people who has no idea about what's going on in my life will be able to decide my fate however when someone like me who believes in Astrology.I believe Planets do play their part lot in the day-to-day living. As CG said yes we do ask advice to everyone when we are learning. I am learning in my life.I am immature in relationship. I assume you are elder to me and you might had your moments of confusion and wish somebody would have been there and told you what to do. If you never had one of those moments I wish you have one and realise what it feels. As things which you can do today,can be easy one moment but difficult other times.I have experience it.There are things which I have blamed and told people how can they be so weak same things have come back to me and I have realised probably it was just their circumstances. Being Scorpio I always knew what I wanted but now it's not same. I don't think anybody would object me sharing my feelings. You might not try to give any advice as you might not want the blame if that guy was right for me.That's a different thing. It's not good to give unsolicited advice but it always helps to lend an ear to a needy. IP: Logged |
cancerrg
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posted August 31, 2007 08:49 AM
baap re baap , yeh to senti ho gaye !  IP: Logged |
cancerrg
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posted August 31, 2007 08:50 AM
chalo choro , saadi ka plan kar rahe ho ya nahi !
mere to rishte aa rahe aaj kal  IP: Logged |
freebird
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posted September 01, 2007 04:15 AM
Badhahi ho badhai....kiske saath shaadi honewali he aapki..pata nahin kab India mein jaaoongi....anyways good luck....kabhi kabhi kya choose karein pata nahi...Western aur Indian,Traditional aur Modern,Feminine aur Masculine, Practicality aur Idealistic,mein bohot sentimental aur emotional humeinsa thi per confusing nahin???
Her ek cheej ka itna confusion he.pata nahi kabhi kya sahi he kya galat he.Aur phir mein itni musibat mein pad jati hoon ke poocho mat.aur aise bhi mein apni family se door reh rahi hoon to abhi socha he ke jo cheeze mujhe zindagi mein karni hain mein kar nahin payi thi, voh karoo.Shaadi bohot badi responsibility hain aur agar kisi wrong insaan ke saath ho gayi to bohot problem hogi.Aur abhi toh mein relationship nibha nahi sakti hoon shaadi kya karoogi.haan mere liye 2 proposal aayein. 1-2 saal shaadi nahin karni he. IP: Logged |
cancerrg
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posted September 01, 2007 08:54 AM
Are bhai ,abhi saadi nahi ho rahe .sirf rishte aaye hai .
and as far as confusion are concerned , this happens with each one of us . it is for you to decide waht you want in life .
i have recently been transfered to a lesser dept. bcos i was too idealistic and honest for corrupts .
do i regert it , naah i dont think i do.
and one more thing , go with what your heart says . bcos that is something that will give you inner pleasure . believe me ! abhi tumne , did you get to see metro ? there is a sequence where irfan kahn explains the answer to the same dilemma to konkana sen gupta about the right partner in life !
see it ! but dont dont even think of seeing rgv ke aag , worst movie that i have seen in my life ! aur haan , abhi i recently saw million dollar baby too , and i was so moved !
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freebird
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posted September 01, 2007 06:57 PM
You know talking to you is like getting review to all the movies. Cool....I will try to find movies you have mentioned..thanks CG as usual..I wish there were more water signs near me, I miss emotional people.So much earth and air suffocate me.IP: Logged |
cancerrg
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posted September 02, 2007 08:22 AM
Haan ! all my friend tell me this .
there have been times when i started at 9 am morning show and have come out of the theatre at the end of night show only .
five movies at one go , straight ! and most of the times i couldn't even understand the last movies
if you want emotional people , be in here ! nowadays , you tend to be so unavailable .
its a good place to unwind yourself .
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MysticMelody
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posted September 02, 2007 02:43 PM
I'm a Libra and I have been insanely emotional in my life, it is something I've worked to channel properly. I think people might view me as less emotional though since they don't know me. If you sit down and share your thoughts, I think in general, he would be comfortable doing the same. At least you would fully understand that you are making the right decision, and that you gave it your best try and you had all of the facts, even if you choose to break up. No matter what you decide to do, it will take courage.  IP: Logged |
alchemiest
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posted September 10, 2007 09:44 AM
Freebird,
Sounds similar to my situation. I made the decision to end it, as, I think, did you (as per your response on the other thread). I thought I was ok with that decision yesterday, but woke up this morning in tears. Even though I know the relationship was not going to work out in the long term, was not what I even WANTED in the long run, it still hurts. So, although I cannot know exactly what you are going through, I would like to think that I can sympathize and empathize with you somewhat. The best thing to do is probably just take it one day at a time. There will be days when you waver uncontrollably and feel unsure about things, but that is when you have to push those emotions aside and think about matters rationally. Most times in such instances, it is not so much the actual PERSON that we miss as much as the comfort and security of the relationship itself. You just have to remind yourself of that and know that something much better, much more perfect, will come into your life when the time is right. IP: Logged |
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