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Topic: A little advice?
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Scorpio Chick
Knowflake Posts: 59
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Registered: Jun 2006
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posted August 23, 2007 02:43 PM
 
First of all, I'm 28 and have been single for over a year. I'm going to school and haven't been interested in a relationship for a long time now. In fact, I have probably stayed home for the past 2 years and haven't gone out with the intention of meeting anyone. So, my friend encouraged me to join a free dating site just so I could meet other people in my area. I did. Immediately a flood of men came knocking, lol. Well I viewed all the profiles, and no one really sparked for me. Upon a search I found a Cancer man that I found irresistable and told him so. We IMd later that day and exchanged numbers. 2 days later he calls me and we have great conversation and I can't get him outta my head. Now, my problem is, who makes the next move? I feel like I want to rush this, but then again, I'd like to take my time and not get too caught up. When we finished talking on the phone, he mentioned hanging out some time. And I did meet him on a dating site. I guess I'm just really shy about these things and prefer to let the man do all the courting. My mistake is that I approached him and now I feel like I have to take the lead. On one hand, I know that if I'm not aggressive enough, I might miss out on a good guy -- and on the other hand, I'm so out of my comfort zone it's unbelievable, but exciting too. LOL.
Thoughts?
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Xodian
Knowflake Posts: 872
From: Canada
Registered: Dec 2006
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posted August 23, 2007 06:34 PM
You so have a Libra moon don't you?  Its scary how much you sound my girlfriend ATM Lol!But getting to issue at hand: Personally, I am bit of a skeptic about online dating and meetings but what I would recommend is do atleast a week's worth of telephone convo, web-cam chat, etc. and then 'suggest' a casual get-togather  . Guys don't find it odd at all if the girl takes the lead and wants to arrange a face to face meeting (taking into account if the interest is there offcourse.) Hope everythings works out for ya . IP: Logged |
capnsag
Knowflake Posts: 54
From: Davis, CA, USA
Registered: Jun 2007
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posted August 23, 2007 07:53 PM
I sympathize with you! I just went through the online thing, and it is a whole new ballgame. and after a month of weeding, I finally met a really wonderful man, where we're mutually working for a 'stable relationship'! And I did wink at him first, hinted strongly at what activity I wanted to do together, and did much more pursuing than I felt I was 'supposed' to. Basically, my guy was shy, and as unsure of the online rules as I was. A casual IM or email certainly isn't out of line, IMHO. Good luck! IP: Logged |
Scorpio Chick
Knowflake Posts: 59
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Registered: Jun 2006
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posted August 23, 2007 11:27 PM
Libra Moon?? Who, me??You hit the nail on the head, Xodian. Indeed, I do. IP: Logged |
Lunar Chick
Knowflake Posts: 2
From: FL ,USA
Registered: Jul 2007
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posted August 24, 2007 01:30 PM
I am new here, I'm a double cancer, so maybe I can help...I am also friends with a ton of male cancers (heck, I was born on my father's b-day!). My best friend of 11 years is a scorpio, so let's see...
I feel the best way to carry on is with humor, in other words, if you haven't already met up, kinda jokingly ask him where he is taking you (meet up safely tho). Hopefully, he should take that cue, and lead from there. Many of us cancers are very "socially aware" as are you guys. He should be able to pick up on subtle things like that...especially with a scorpio like yourself. ------------------
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