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Lucia23
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posted September 01, 2007 01:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lucia23     Edit/Delete Message
I could really use experienced astrological advice right now.
Since I left my last boyfriend, I am worried that no one will love me again. I fell hard for someone who does not want me back. What does my chart say about this?

In the past (before I was in a long-term relationship) I had many men who were very interested in me, and I always had my pick between them. Why are things so different now?

I've tried to read my own chart for insight about this, but I am too close to the situation.

Please help me "get" my own chart! http://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?rs=3&btyp=w2gw&&cid=7xyfile44g9vK-u1188582809

(Born August 14, 1974, 5:50 pm , Cleveland, Ohio, USA)

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girlloveboy
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posted September 01, 2007 05:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for girlloveboy     Edit/Delete Message
Hi

Im just a beginner in AStrology so i rather would approach your question in a psychological way.

I believe everything is depend on how and what you feel inside.
You said, "I am worried that no one will love me again."
Why you think like that?
You know, usually if we want sth too much, then we could not achieve it, because we get worried - even if only unconsciously - and this would lead you into frustration.

I think you need to find in yourself, why do you feel worried?
Especially, if earlier you had good experiences. (except that current one)
And only you can give the answers for yourself, the only thing you need is to be honest.

Try to relax, and try to make a step back from your current situation to be able to see the picture clearer.
Make questions for yourself..
For example:
Am i really ready for a new relationship?
Do i really want one?
If yes, then what makes me feel worried?
If not, why not....

And if you can answer these questions, then you will realize why you feel like this.

Maybe the things are different, because YOU are also DIFFERRENT.

Saturn is transiting your 8th house now, which a good time for being "reborn".

Also interesting that your chart ruler (Saturn) conjunct your DC ruler(Moon) which can be sth like that you can be your own partner. This aspect can help you do not feel alone, even if you dont have a boyfriend now.

If you find the reasons, you will feel better,and then you will be able to find the suitable person for yourself.
With Saturn in 7th you might look for someone responsible but still in a way unconventional(Venus square Uranus) with some Scorpio/Pluto influence (Mars and Sun in 8th)

With that Saturn-Moon conjunction you can have tendency for depression or insecurity- but dont let it, rather explore yourself.

All the best

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Lucia23
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posted September 02, 2007 12:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lucia23     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks, girlloveboy!

I have been struggling to ask myself meaningful questions about what I really want. I think that falling hard for someone new and having it not work out has hurt my confidence. I guess when I'm honest with myself, it's not that I want a relationship--it's that I want to be with HIM.

Definitely this is a problem of insecurity. I also see, looking at my own chart, both that I'm insecure about relationships and very attached to them.

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girlloveboy
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posted September 02, 2007 05:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for girlloveboy     Edit/Delete Message
Hi,Lucia

When you said you "I want to be with HIM",
its your long term ex, or that man for who you have strong feelings?

What you mentioned about being insecure but still wanting a relationship is sound familiar to me.
I can understand that a bad experience hurt and makes you insecure.

Have you always had that paradox feeling about relationships, or just recntly?

Becuase in my experience, until you cant realize what exactly makes you feel insecury you would struggle with it.
Guess with your Cap Asc and Cancer placements you fear rejection wich can hurt much your Leo's Sun pride also.

For me what worked, that i was constantly asking questions from myself to get know whats the root of the fear.
Its not easy, but surely beneficial.

Thats the best i can advice you

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MysticMelody
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posted September 02, 2007 02:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MysticMelody     Edit/Delete Message
quote:
In the past (before I was in a long-term relationship) I had many men who were very interested in me, and I always had my pick between them. Why are things so different now?


Maybe it is your gift from the Universe (and from HIM) that you are allowed to spend time focused on yourself and your interests and dreams. Just trust whatever way the wind blows and spread your wings. Surely you are being taken somewhere beautiful.
Pray every day to do what you are meant to do and be who you are meant to be.

Keep loving him and keep loving everyone who will accept your love, and even a few a who won't

My t-shirt I had a buddy make for me at his work in Colorado about 10 years ago:

On the back:
"You can't always get what you want
but if you try some time
you just might find
you get what you need"

On the front:
"All you need is Love"

(The Rolling Stones and The Beatles)

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Lucia23
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posted September 02, 2007 04:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lucia23     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks for your insights! I hope I "get what I need"!

The "HIM" I want to be with is the new guy I met about a year ago, who does not seem to return my interest.

I was in a committed relationship with my ex for fifteen years, from the time I was eighteen until in my early thirties. I still love him and we are very close friends, but I'm not "in love" with him anymore.

When I was a teenager, before I met my ex, I was very popular with boys and I felt like I had my pick!

I'm worried that the fact that I have one-sided feelings for a man now means I'm not sexy, alluring or powerful enough anymore to attract the men I'm attracted to. Having lots of men want me was always a big part of my identity. I guess I'm wondering if there's anything in my chart that indicates popularity/sexual allure when young that goes away as I get older.

When I say I want to be with "him", this new man I'm interested in, I mean that I want the chance to get to know each other. In the past, there was never a man I felt that way about who didn't want to get to know me.

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Lucia23
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posted September 02, 2007 04:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lucia23     Edit/Delete Message
MysticMelody, I've been thinking alot about what you said. It's very profound.

Instead of feeling like a whole person who can feel love for others, I've been feeling like if I'm not attractive to people then I'm not a full person. I wish I could stop feeling that way.

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MysticMelody
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posted September 03, 2007 01:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MysticMelody     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Lucia

You can feel any way you want. We all do. Feelings are transitory. Just know that at your core you are a powerful spiritual being.
We attract people when we increase our Light.
You were probably happy with yourself at that "time" and you believed you were attractive. Maybe the struggles of relationship and learning have left you wounded or uncertain. Find yourself again. Find your dreams. Live them. You will attract everything you desire.
You are a glorious child of the Universe!

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let ther b light
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posted September 03, 2007 10:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for let ther b light     Edit/Delete Message
hey lucia
i'm not sure what advice to give u since i'm feeling pretty much all the feelings you're feeling

in fact i came here to post a new topic to vent. but when i saw this thread i felt i have already recieved the advice i wanted thanks to Mystic Melody..

really sorry to hear about your troubles. i can totally understand how you are feeling and i hope that "you get what u need"(quote from MM's post)

have been feeling a little unattractive myself and my ex whom i was seeing for seven years just told me he's dating someone and is getting serious about her. even tho it was mostly my decision to break up i'm still feeling bad. dunno why...

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Lucia23
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posted September 03, 2007 01:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lucia23     Edit/Delete Message
Aw, let ther b light, it's so hard when an ex moves on, even when you're the one who ended it.

Maybe the end of the Venus retrograde will give us a boost?

I need a change.

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MysticMelody
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posted September 03, 2007 01:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MysticMelody     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks for the love you two. I've been feeling close to God lately. It is a blessing and I am glad the Universe can use me and speak through me to share the Light. I have felt the same feelings you two have expressed. I'm just blessed to be surrounded by love and to see things clearly at this moment.

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MysticMelody
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posted September 03, 2007 02:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MysticMelody     Edit/Delete Message
http://www.karmaair.com/archive.aspx?showid=2

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let ther b light
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posted September 04, 2007 02:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for let ther b light     Edit/Delete Message
MM
thanks fr the link!!

lucia
i just did not realise i'd feel like this...just hope i get over this phase quickly...i saw his messages to her on one of the chat sites....he's been speaking to her like he used to speak to me!!! with all those dumb, cute nicknames and all!!! that somehow really hurts..

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