posted September 15, 2007 06:11 PM         

But I just feel like he isn't "the one" for me. I don't know why. There is so much synchronicity, so many weird coincidences, it feels like the universe is trying to keep us together. But I don't love him, and I can't understand why. He says he's in love with me... and I feel nothing. He's perfect for me, yet I don't miss him when he's gone, I don't feel weak in the knees, I don't yearn to spend time with him. I'm just numb.

posted September 15, 2007 10:59 PM         

Is there anything in your mind you want to do besides what your normal routine is now?

Also, you say "no one in particular right now", does this mean that you have been attracted to other people before? how long have you been in this relationship?

posted September 16, 2007 04:22 AM         

There is nothing wrong with you i think.
Every relationship has something to teach for us, but after we learned our lesson or our karmic debt from the past, we need to go on and find other challanges what helps us grow.
If you feel that theres nothing more to learn from this relationship, then maybe its time go.
But it sth only you know.

When you said "There is so much synchronicity, so many weird coincidences, it feels like the universe is trying to keep us together"
what do you mean on this?

Maybe would help if you would post your sinastry chart.

posted September 16, 2007 05:28 AM         

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Do you feel satisfied with your job/school?

Is there anything in your mind you want to do besides what your normal routine is now?

Also, you say "no one in particular right now", does this mean that you have been attracted to other people before? how long have you been in this relationship?

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I am pretty satisfied with my job and school, though both are kinda stressful. But I felt this way about my boyfriend even when it was summer and I wasn't in classes or working very much.

About the second question, I'm not sure. I might like to do some traveling and see more of the world, meet more people.

I've definitely been attracted to people before. My current guy doesn't rev my engine, if you know what I mean, even though he's very good looking by most people's standards. There's just something off with the chemistry. I also feel like I need someone who sees eye-to-eye with me spiritually... this guy is a hardcore atheist, while I have a strong need for spirituality in my life. (I know that didn't have anything to do with your question, haha!)

posted September 16, 2007 05:34 AM         

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When you said "There is so much synchronicity, so many weird coincidences, it feels like the universe is trying to keep us together"
what do you mean on this?

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Examples: I see his name EVERYWHERE... once I saw a building at a college campus that was named after someone with his exact name (which isn't a common one) -- that was shortly after we first started dating. We call each other at the exact same time... I get a feeling right before he calls or shows up at my door... I always see words, numbers, times, etc. that remind me of him. He can definitely read my mind, and it seems I can read his. A huge psychic connection. I know we are soulmates in some sense, but I don't know if we're meant to be in a romantic relationship...

posted September 16, 2007 06:23 AM         

Looking at your synastry (though im just a newbie yet) i see his Asc and Sun-Venus conjunction fall in your 11th house, so you might see him rather just a friend?
Though his Moon activates your 5th house, so love is also there.(or at least was)

I saw you posted a question about Moon-Saturn square DW, and DD said very good things: its a vey hard aspect, but also karmic, and hard to break from it.
Your Saturn also conjunct his IC, another indication for a possible past life connection.

Your Asc is not far from his Pluto, maybe this cause that highly spiritual connection between you two.

You being Taurus, and he with his Virgo stellium indicate great compatibility, however, it may lead to feel bored.
Which is a quite a stress to your Aries Venus and Gemini Mars: You definetely need a relationship with excitement i think.

His North Node conjunct your Mars which is the ruler of your 7th house, which can indicate he definetely wants a romantic relationship with you.

BTW, i know very well about those coincidences you mentioned, i had similar experiences.

But again, if you feel you're not in love with him, and that you need more challange then maybe its time to go on.
Interesting that Saturn will conjunct his Sun-Venus in a short time, which definetly indicates hard time for him regarding relationships.

All the best to you

posted September 16, 2007 11:14 AM         

I wanted, and still want, to eventually fall in love with him. But I see him as one of my best friends, not really as a boyfriend... hmm, I think that's the heart of the problem.

He says I am his ideal girl and he used to have "soulmate dreams" about me, before we even met. Me on the other hand, he's not the type of guy I'm usually attracted to -- he is a typical jock, kind of vulgar (which drives me nuts), a heavy drinker (I don't touch alcohol), really into porn, etc... he treats me like I'm a goddess... but maybe I can't fall in love with him because some aspects of his personality really bother me.

He is also four years older than me, and is closer to the point where he wants to settle down and start a family. Whereas I'm only 20 and I only started dating when I turned 19, so I still want to see what else is out there.

posted September 17, 2007 05:04 PM         

And go find that someone who gives you the feeling of having butterflies in your belly

posted September 18, 2007 01:23 AM         

Ignoring anything astro for a moment...please do not settle for second best for yourself. As others have said you are better to wait for the one who sets thos butterflys flapping.

its perfectly possible you are not "meant" to be together, whether one of you feels it or not. Ultimately as you will read elsewhere here. Astrology gives the signs, the potential framework and some pointers, but you have to add into the equation "free will" these things that are show or hinted at can only happen if they involve the free will of the two people saying yes please this is what I want.

The more I learn, about life and astrology the more I see that some things are more about either fixing or clarifying to ourselves aspects of our life or psyche that need taking in hand, so perhaps take the lessons you can take from this with you, but move on, knowing that you are using you free will, and that one day hopefully things will click more or less equally with you and another.