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Topic: Pisces Woman Breakups w/Cancer Man
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Stella
Knowflake Posts: 26
From: oregon,usa
Registered: Feb 2004
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posted November 21, 2007 11:22 PM
 
Hi All,
I am curious about my former love. A cancer man. He was irresponsible and bad with money. I know this isn't typical for cancer's and I was wondering if anyone had some insight. We live in Arizona. He was born in Laos, not sure where exactly. Date: 7/13/76.
I am a Pisces Sun/Moon. Sag rising.
On cusp with Aquarius. The main reasons I had to end the year relationship is his partying and not good with money. I want to settle down, save for travel and build a life with someone. Plus he did say he wanted this too. But actions speak louder than words and he partied almost every night of the week. He doesn't really have any hobbies, which I think would have helped. I am still holding hope for us, as he was one of the most loving, caring loyal men I have ever dated. The breakup has only been a week. But I am moving on and often feel I did the right thing. Breakups are hard, as you all I know. Any advice or clues as to why this guy is PRESENTLY so bad with money would be helpful. He used to have a great job and nice cars. Now, he's working min. wage for only 35 hrs a week. Gets money from parents, they give it freely. He seems okay with this and that is why I had to go. They is lots more to it, but I am trying to sum it up. Feel free to reply with questions.
THANK YOU!!!!
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Heart--Shaped Cross
Knowflake Posts: 5567
From: 11/6/78 11:38am Boston, MA
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted November 22, 2007 12:29 AM
I'm sure someone can help you with that better than I could.I just wanted to say it took guts to do what you did,
and I hope you feel better soon and things work out for the best. Love to you.  IP: Logged |
hippichick
Knowflake Posts: 1685
From: The Ether
Registered: Jan 2006
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posted November 23, 2007 10:02 AM
Not maybe so much a Cancer thing as a transit thing.If you could post his chart many knowledgable folks here could have a look at his transits. May have had something to do with his Saturn return, tho without a chart it is difficult to imagine. IP: Logged |
Virgo/Aries75
Knowflake Posts: 98
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Registered: Jan 2007
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posted November 23, 2007 12:47 PM
Hi Stella.
I'm very sorry to hear about your break-up.  I have a Cancer ex who behaves in a similar manner. He works a full time job and has lived in the same place for 3-4 years, but receives eviction notices every other month. When he's not receiving eviction notices all of his utilities are being cut off for non-payment. He's always "catching up" on his bills and rent. At 32 he rarely has food in his home but constantly makes sure he has liquor and beer. To his friends he has the ultimate "bachelor pad" where all the guys know they can always go there to drink, party, play video games, crash, whatever. He drinks every. single. night. Whether it's at home or at a bar or club. He makes sure he has money for that, but not money for food or to pay his bills. Oh, and he also has 2 children. Needless to say, he isn't winning any "Father of The Year" awards. He was/is capable of being very kind and loving. Is capable of being in a relationship. But the irresponsibility and his "partying" is what turned me off from him. If you want to be with this guy anyway, I think it can be done, but you'd have to know that YOU are going to be the responsible one while he parties. I've seen relationships like this and it's always draining on the "responsible one" to be the only adult in the relationship, but it can be done. However, if you want a relationship with a mature, responsible adult like yourself, then you'll have to look elsewhere. And, unfortunately, astrology placements have very little to do with how a person acts. It can be indicative of what motivates a person. Sometimes. But it isn't as accurate as I would like it to be. Good luck and I hope things get better for you soon.  IP: Logged |
Stella
Knowflake Posts: 26
From: oregon,usa
Registered: Feb 2004
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posted November 23, 2007 03:28 PM
Thanks Virgo.Aries 75!
It's always helpful to know when someone else has been through the exact same thing.
It is draining to always be the adult and so, I guess I will have to look elsewhere. I am not sure how to post a birth chart. Plus don't know exact time or location, so it wouldn't be too accurate. I think it is encouraging to hear it may just be a transit, that means he may change. Who knows if it will be in time for "us" or not. At this point, likely not.
It's so funny that during a breakup, the heart remembers all the good so much easier than the bad. At least, thats how it is for me. Okay, I will see if I can post chart now. Thanks!
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Stella
Knowflake Posts: 26
From: oregon,usa
Registered: Feb 2004
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posted November 23, 2007 03:41 PM
http://alabe.com/cgi-bin/chart/44286409.gif
Here is a link to his chart.
Thanks for ALL feedback. Is there a transit and thats the reason for irresponsibility and partying in his present life? IP: Logged |
Virgo/Aries75
Knowflake Posts: 98
From:
Registered: Jan 2007
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posted November 23, 2007 05:35 PM
Hey again Stella!I'm glad what I had to share helped a little even if it wasn't much help astrologically. I'm not good at "transits" and things like this. Maybe others will share their expertise soon? Just wanted to share that aside from the Cancer sun and outer placements, all of my ex's placements are different from your Cancer ex. And if it is indeed a "transit", my ex has been experiencing this "transit" for the past 10 years with no sign of ending  (although I hope it ends soon if for nothing more than health reasons... ). I feel everyone is capable of change but it has to be something they want to do. Until that time, you can wait around and hope that they'll change.... But I'm the last person who should give advice on that. I'm not one for waiting around.  I hope you can find the answers that you're looking for. IP: Logged | |
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