posted November 24, 2007 09:10 AM         

Setting astrology aside, the creep is a controlling stalker.

I have been stalked before and sure I still am as beer bottles end up in my front yard from time to time and I know the origin.

The basic rule of thumb with stalkers is DO NOT give them any attention, even negative attention as in "leave me alone, I do not want to see you anymore," etc. is positive attention to them.

The freaks even see a change in phone number as attention because it is an act on your part that was caused by them.

Blow him off, blow him off, blow him off!!!

posted November 24, 2007 03:18 PM         

These type of individuals do not live in the world of the norm...and that is why I am looking out my front window now at a beer bottle flung upon MY property last night.

They do not take responsibility for their actions, they do not respect others.

Do not make excuses as to why you do not want him in a "relationship." All that should be good enough for him, and for any sane, self-respecting individual is, "no."

But not this way with these kinds...

They are scary and a force to be reckoned with.

Law enforcment could not help me because he never harmed my physically in any way. Too bad he has destroyed my proterty, sent hate e-mails, and threatened me via text and voice mail...threats mean nothing to cops....

So I am quite well equiped and armed and quite well capable of protecting myself and my kids.

Awful creatures the stalkers are...

Be so very ware of him and do no give him ANYTHING to go on.

I have decided to leave the beer bottles in my front yard and explain to my neighbors why, because in this sociopathic/psychotic mind even taking the bottles from MY yard is positive attention to him.

Big freakin looser~

This is SO not Aqua behavior. One thing I like about Aquas so much is their ability to live and let live. Your individual must have some 8th hse stuff going on.

posted November 24, 2007 10:08 PM         

this guy sounds like double trouble. period.
after ending such a long relationship, it sounds like you need some time for yourself. i just wanted to give another voice to what hippichick is saying. she's making a lot of sense here.

Good luck.

posted November 25, 2007 10:07 PM         

The last time I tried to press charges on my looser individual a very nice detective assured me I did no wrong. I told him how stupid I had been, for believing the creep, for giving him chance after chance at friendship, etc.

The detective was SO cool. He said women are like that. Women are nice, and generally do not want to hurt people.

However.....

Men....are quite different. If a woman answers the phone and says "no" what a man hears is "yes," on the mere fact that she answered the phone!

Strange but true!!!

(and this is based on the mind of the rational individual, throw in some psychosis...ewwwwww I shudder )

I suppose that is why so many stupid cases of molest, rape, etc. have not been prosecuted because some woman was nice, or dressed sexy or spoke to a man....the man hears "yes!!!"

Actions....stand by your decision with your actions!!!

And please, do not ever feel bad for this individual, for giving him the wrong message in any way is doing him no good, nor you!

Blessings

posted November 26, 2007 01:14 PM         

Some guys are soo stupid, some where out there, there's a women willing to jump through hoops for this kind of attention
he needs to go find her..

posted December 02, 2007 02:29 AM         

This behaviour transcends sign...why can't people see this?

Tell him in no uncertain tones to leave you alone or you'll call the police and get a TRO.

this has nothing to do with astrology. He is staliking you. Period.

And I'm an aqua.

posted December 07, 2007 05:15 PM         

*QUOTE*
everyone around me knew about her operation including my ex aqua and all 3 aquas who are interested in me but guess what !!.. none of them was there to comfort me during this time.... no one even called to comfort me or just say that they are there if i need anything... all 4 auqas just vanished in thin air!!! they didnt even call to ask if my mom had survived the operation since there was a 50 - 50 chance... such losers i cannot believe how can i ever share my life with one of them if they left me all alone at a time when i needed someone the most.
it is really very very sad how could people act so very cold!? its just not humane *QUOTE*

This is EXACTLY what I am getting from this Aqua guy I am 'seeing'. He doesn't seem to give two sh*ts about anyone but HIMSELF. It's soooo very sad. AND HE DOESN'T EVEN REALIZE IT!!! What is going on here!? Is this really how most Aquas are!?!? Normally, I would just associate someone with that behavior as simply just being an as*hole! But, apparently there's a pattern here.

posted December 07, 2007 05:49 PM         

The problem with expressing concern for others is that concern for others equates to emoting to them, and this takes alot for them to do and they do not often do it comfortably.

They ARE concerned and they DO care, they can just not express it as easy as most folks do.

Their energy is cold and airy, not warm and fuzzy.

I have refered to my Aqua friend as "The Ice King" from time to time.

The really grand thing is, that when they do express emotion, caring, when they finally tell you "I love you," is the most genuine caring and love you will ever come across!

posted December 08, 2007 04:31 AM         

However... I wouldn't put them on a pedestal and claim that once they finally do tell you they love you, their love is the most genuine there is. You simply cannot grant them that much - not to any other sun sign, for that matter.
I think it's just that because you've been frustrated by their colder, aloof, detached behavior for a long time, you feel so happy and suprised and wonderful to see the soft side in them.

You kind of learn to appreciate the rare moments... ;-))

Genuine love is genuine love, no matter who is the one feeling it. IMO, it's the contrast between the 95% cold and 5% warm that gives the illusion of Aqua love that it's "more special", the fact that it's not so often expressed, at least not in the traditionally romantic way...

I had to give my 10 cents here, as I've noticed during my participation at LL that there is an Aqua Fan Club (for Aqua MEN) here which, I really think, they do NOT deserve any more than men of other sun signs.

Been there, done that, still with my Aqua, though.

posted December 08, 2007 09:07 AM         

I have seen so many people tell you they care, or even they love someone TOO easily, and it is not from the heart, it is often very fake.

Aquas are tough nuts to crack, and maybe their "fans" are so because their fans recognize that they are not fake in the business of emoting. I would much rather have cool, aloof Aqua (or Gem) who is uncomfortable expressing his emotions than some one who will tell you what you want to hear just to pacify an emotionally insecure individual.

An individual has to have a huge amount of self-esteem to be involved with an Aqua for any amount of time, because they just do not give out emotionally that often, it is not a need of theirs, they are not, for most of the Aquas I have known, co-dependent in relationships.

posted December 10, 2007 12:51 AM         

People who say "I love you" often or very easily, do IMO misuse those beautiful words.

However, the fact remains there are lots of people who do indeed find it easier to express their emotions than Aquas, and it does not make their love less genuine (or Aqua love any better).

I am in love with my Aqua man, but looking back at my life I can say that the love I had with some other men was also good :-)