posted December 01, 2007 10:34 AM         

I'm torn between two men and they are both such lovely people whom l get on with so well.

Is it possible to see which one is better for me in synastry please?

Here is synastry of me and Mr X
his............to my...........

moon conjunct sun
moon trine jupiter
mercury sextile mars
mercury opposing pluto
mercury conjunct ac
venus sextile mars
venus opposing uranus
venus opposing pluto
venus conjunct ac
mars conjunct sun
mars conjunct mercury
mars trine jupiter
mars trine mc
jupiter trine venus
jupiter square mars
jupiter square neptune
saturn conjunct moon
saturn conjunct venus
saturn conjunct saturn
uranus trine mars
uranus conjunct vertex
neptune opposing mars
pluto opposing ac
pluto conjunct uranus/pluto
n node conjunct moon/venus/saturn
vertex conjunct ac
ac conjunct vertex
ac opposing ac
ac sextile neptune

Me and Mr Y
his.........to my.......
moon quintile sun
sun opposing moon/venus/saturn/n node
moon square moon/venus/saturn/n node
mercury opposing moon/venus/saturn/n node
moon trine AC
venus 150deg from moon/venus
venus opposing mars exact
venus square jupiter
venus sextile uranus/pluto
venus trine AC
venus conjunct neptune
mars trine mercury
mars quintile neptune
mars conjunct pluto
mars opposing AC
jupiter conjunct uranus/pluto/vertex
jupiter opposing AC
jupiter square MC
Saturn conjunct moon/venus/saturn/nnode
saturn trine MC
uranus trine uranus/chiron/AC
pluto trine mars
pluto conjunct uranus/pluto
pluto conjunct vertex
pluto opposing AC
juno 150deg from vertex
juno opposing mars
juno sextile pluto
juno trine AC
eros trine moon/venus/saturn
AC opposing mars
neptune opposing mars

Are there any major red flags please? I recently escaped from an abusive relationship and really don't wanna go into another one... seems like so much saturn conjunct... :O

posted December 11, 2007 04:52 PM         

I like the first one better. I like your sun/moon conjunction. I'd think you'd support one another and understand each other.

I also like his node on your planets.

posted December 12, 2007 02:30 AM         

I agree, it's much easier to have a visual chart in which to see potential strengths and weaknesses...

If you chose to avoid a potential abusive relationship the best advice I can provide is the following:

#1 Respect yourself

#2 Set clear limits as to what you consider abusive, then stand by these no matter what!

#3 Recognize that it's ok to walk away if need be, this does not mean failure.

#4 If you recognize previous patterns or feel uncomfortable in any way or form: you have the right to speak up, seek alternatives, and not feel an obligation to pacify another soul.

#5 If you havn't already done so, I would suggest that you get in touch with a free local program (In the US it's called "Project Dove")

This program teaches you healing techniques from previous abuses, as well as patterns within your self that may attract these sort, even seek them out and how to break these patterns, etc.

They give you excellent free resources and help you design a safety plan just in case you ever did find yourself "there" again...

Offering truly smart ideas, most people would never think of. They also help you build a network of supportive friends and family members to help keep you on the path to safety and sanity.

Also here is good online resource
SAFE stands for: (Stop Abuse For Everyone)
here's another 681 resources listed

I hope some of this is useful to you...

posted December 12, 2007 03:53 PM         

Ok, l will post the charts - let me see if l can do it now.

Thank you so much for your time. It really helps

posted December 12, 2007 04:07 PM         

I am inside (the one with the bigger aries stellium) LOL !!!

Is it just me that looks at this chart and feels like a nice cool swim in some WATER!!!
http://i235.photobucket.com/albums/ee149/larita26/DJLC-1.jpg

and this is Mr Y and me... *l am inside again) and for some reason l must have copied down the wrong aspect details as on the chart they are completely different. My bad, sorry
http://i235.photobucket.com/albums/ee149/larita26/JOLC.gif

These men are so different l am at a loss!
I really have my head and heart in a spin, it's dreadful and l don't like to feel unbalanced.

Both have mercury in Pisces but apart from that, they seem like chalk and cheese!

Please help!!!!!! I can't date both of them, i'm such a faithful Taurean and my Aries side is too honest that l feel uncomfortable.