posted December 09, 2007 10:26 PM         

I do however been in this situation a couple times in my life and I never acted on my impulses or those thoughts.
You have to remember who you are first and what your values are , also you have to think that if you do this you will be hurting tremendoulsy another human being that loves you and that is not fair to him.

It is not easy but I would not try to contact this guy to see what kind of "extra" feelings can be born out of this attraction, instead I would evaluate the current relationship you are in and try to find yourself and figure out why your mind is escaping your marriage/husband; I am willing to bet that there are other reasons within the relationship that is pushing you, but I am no expert so I am not sure.

I also do have a little story to tell you...There was a guy I met before I got divorce and I was extremely attracted to him, I thought of him all the time; we worked together and everytime we would be around it was nothing but flirting and his eyes were very captivating, but years went by and after I finally got divorce I end up meeting him once by accident at a bar and he took me outside and kissed me....well, I have never been so dissapointed all that flirting and excitement for so long did nothing! I mean nothing! and don't take me wrong I still think he is a cutie and I still find myself attracted to him (in a much lesser level though) but I was so glad I never did anything with him while married, I feel good I remained true to myself and my values

If this guy is really the one for you then you would have to move on first from your marriage, it would not be fair to your husband.But, as I said I am no expert and you have to find who you really are and what is going to make you feel happy, remember every time you look at that mirror it is only you who you are seeing, can you live with you if you did something that would make you feel less?
You are the only one that can answer that, just don't lie to you.

posted December 10, 2007 10:52 PM         

I am sorry if I confused you, but I am not married! Not at all!! I not involved with anyone at this time either. Can you tell me what gave you that impression? I don't see any indication of that in what I've written.

posted December 11, 2007 02:27 PM         

The guy I kissed and felt nothing after is still out there and when I see him we talk and laugh like we did before.No hard feelings at all.