posted January 13, 2008 06:20 PM         

I would just add that it is a very personal issue,
depending greatly on the individuals.

Its not always about maturity, self-esteem, or openness,
although, in most cases, and in large part, it is.

There are benefits to one-on-one connections,
just as there are benefits to one-on-one-on-one connections.

I think, regardless of maturity, etc.,
the chances of making a three-way relationship work
are proportionally more slim than they are
when only two people are involved.
If two of the three have a falling out,
there is still the connection of the third party
to each of them, to be considered.
"Taking sides", etc., comes to mind.
Of course, when one relationship ends,
you still have another, so....

Again, there are pros and cons to each scenario.

Once you are open, mature, self-secure, etc.,
enough for a three-way (or four-way, or five-way),
you still have to decide if it is right for you,
as an individual, in that particular situation,
with those particular individuals.

One could make an argument that,
at a certain point of maturity and self-sufficiency,
the choice to be alone with oneself
("the greatest love of all")
would be the most likely and appealing.

Its all very personal,
and an individual has a right to
form a conclusion on this matter
only as it regards him or herself.

Thats my opinion.

posted January 13, 2008 06:49 PM         

The main reason I wanted to bring this topic up was to make people think about whether or not it is possible to have deep feelings for more than one person, not whether it is right or wrong, etc.

Some people think it isn't possible, therefore if it should ever happen that the person they are with one day finds they have feelings for another, that it means they don't or never loved them......but it isn't like that.

posted January 14, 2008 12:54 PM         

The possibility of having romantic feeings, -
true, deep romantic feelings, - for more than one person
depends greatly upon the make-up of the individual
(their psychological openness and general disposition)
as well as upon ordinary happenstance.

Some people would NEVER consider it,
or allow themselves to consciously experience
that type of love for more than one person,
unless they met the right two people,
capable of changing their mind/heart.

I think maybe the signs of Gemini, Libra, Scorpio, and Pisces
would tend to be more open to this sort of thing.
But that is just a hunch.

posted January 14, 2008 01:14 PM         

I feel like a "stranger in a strange land".

Sex isn't really that important, but reaching out to others is.

I wonder if many others feel this way....as if they are somehow lost in a strange world here.....and maybe come from another planet?

posted January 14, 2008 01:19 PM         

No-one who I have met, as yet has shared a similar frequency to me, though I have great respect for the inner beauty and have felt the deepest, most profound love.

Maybe it's not a question of love when it comes to finding someone we fit well with, as I've already tried to explain- true love is infinite, and knows no boundaries.

Maybe we just need to find people who share a similar frequency.

posted January 14, 2008 03:46 PM         

Or perhaps......

posted January 14, 2008 09:44 PM         

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I hope someday I can meet others in "real life" who think and feel so deeply about things.
I feel like a "stranger in a strange land".

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