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proudarcher
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From: cambridge,ontario,canada
Registered: Aug 2006

posted January 17, 2008 11:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for proudarcher     Edit/Delete Message
So here I am , a mess. I have been seeing my boyfriend for a couple a months and it was the greatest experience I have ever had. I have truly never felt so comfortable with someone. He was almost like a boy version of me. It figures though. I feel like its a sag trait that nothing that good stays forever.I feel like i've been kicked in the stomache.

Me and him have quite an age diffence me 79 and him 63. He has been under so much pressure because his whole life is basically changing and same with me. I had noticed that in the past couiple of days that he has been kind of distant , so I brought it up last night. He told me that he keeps thinking of our future and he doesn't feel right about it because of our age difference, so he's worried that it mon't last. I hope I did the right thing. I told him that if he was stuck in the middle and didn't know what to do then to me that means he has meade his decision. So I called it off. And it was the hardest things I have ever had to do. We just sat there holding eachother and crying, it was awful. I told him not to text me because it would be to hard on me.

I don't know what to do. I feel so lost. I feel like someone has literally ripped half of me away. I am going to miss him so much, and I can't stand that he can't get over our age difference. It just seems so wrong that something so good is tarnished by something that we cannot control. I'm kinda hidoing out because I work with him. I called in sick 2day because I need at least 1 day to pull myself together.

If your reading this I am so sorry for the rambling I just feel so lonely and isolated, and empty....I needed somewhere to vent and advice. Thanks

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Taurus80
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posted January 17, 2008 01:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Taurus80     Edit/Delete Message
(((((((((((((proudarcher)))))))))))))

so sorry you are hurting, wait and see what happens. In the mean time try distracting yourself, I know hard to do...but something that makes you happy, maybe TV, book or just being outside.

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let ther b light
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From: bombay, india
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posted January 29, 2008 12:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for let ther b light     Edit/Delete Message
sorry to hear about your breakup...i'm sure you feel like a mess...but the reason does not sound good enough. unless of course u'll are at 2 different stages in life and u'll cant go in the same direction.....but otherwise it does not make sense...try to keep yourself as occupied as possible...dont bunk work...you need it to divert your attention..
i know it hurts like crazy...and really i wish there was a way to make these things easier.....if its meant to be he'll come back...but dont wait...just try to do things the way you would normally...date other ppl etc..

((((hugs)))))

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let ther b light
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From: bombay, india
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posted January 29, 2008 12:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for let ther b light     Edit/Delete Message
P.S: are you 79? or were you born in the year 79?

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proudarcher
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From: cambridge,ontario,canada
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posted January 29, 2008 04:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for proudarcher     Edit/Delete Message
Let ther b light, I never realized how that sounded. But no I was born in the year 79 and him 63,lol...

Well to give u the update , I never contacted him the next day and he ended up texting me that night apolagizing and I just basically said that I thought he was lame to give up something so good just for his own insecurities. Anyways we went out that night for coffee and talked everything over and we are doing even better!!!

I find that we both put up these walls that prevent us from expressing ourselves and since i'm a sagittarius I cannot stand WAITING for someone. So sometimes it takes a little longer to get our true feelings out without fearing rejection.

But now were on the same page (Thank God!!) lol

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miss82
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posted January 29, 2008 08:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for miss82     Edit/Delete Message
Lol. For the longest time i thought it was two old couples. i get it now. lol.

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proudarcher
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From: cambridge,ontario,canada
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posted January 30, 2008 10:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for proudarcher     Edit/Delete Message
LOL!!! I guess I should start proof reading my posts when i'm having moments of histaria,lol

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Taurus80
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posted January 30, 2008 11:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Taurus80     Edit/Delete Message
lol i did too miss82

i'm so happy it all worked out proud

yay!

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AcousticGod
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posted January 30, 2008 02:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
Yeah, I was wondering why a 79 year old was working and texting people.

I'm a Cap male with a Sag female, and it took me about a year to really have confidence in our relationship. There's an age difference with us as well, but I'm the younger one, and that's never really played into any insecurity I had about the relationship.

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Geocosmic Valentine
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posted January 30, 2008 05:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Geocosmic Valentine     Edit/Delete Message
Well...add me to that list of people who thought you were 79 years old. I was thinking, "Wow, what a hip older woman. Good thing she dumped that stick-in-the-mud 63 year old whipper snapper. He couldn't handle her awesomeness."

And I bet it was the same with the 45 year old. Astrologically he is going through his Solar Arc Grand Semi-Square which is the classic age of "Midlife Crisis". It definitely exists astrologically. While you're in the middle of your Saturn Return phase. He's right that you are both at different places in your lives. It doesn't mean you don't love each other or that you don't love each other enough, it's just a matter of respecting the separate life cycles you're in and learning different lessons that have to be followed through.

That's the best I can tell you now, and you never know what will be.

Geocosmic Valentine

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"Everybody is a star!"
Sly & The Family Stone

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proudarcher
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From: cambridge,ontario,canada
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posted January 31, 2008 10:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for proudarcher     Edit/Delete Message
Geo- Valentine, I never thought about it before but when I read your post it really hit me. You are so right. I think that is part of are attraction at the same time though. We get the feeling like were a team. Like its us against the world. I have learned so much from him and he has learned a lot from me. And we both appreciate that about eachother. It does make it it a struggle sometimes. But I must say that our relationship is so worth it. I've never felt so complete in my life.

I wonder how many other people thought I was some old lady,lol

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bunnies
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posted January 31, 2008 04:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for bunnies     Edit/Delete Message
I did, until I actually read it through again after my chin hit the floor!
It made me feel happy and sad at the same time.

Happy because I thought "Hey, there's life in the old dog yet (Me)
And sad because I thought "Oh my God, don't relationships EVER get any easier!

But you know what? We shouldn't be aegist.
I thought the whole point of Lindas teachings was to not believe that untruth.

And I remember my mother when she was 75 coming in after a night out with her "boyfriend" (a mere 78 yrs) slamming the door and storming up to her room, like some stroppy teenager, huffing "I am NEVER speaking to that man again"

I thought it was cute.

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