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Topic: Everyone Can't Be in Your Front Row
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Mama Mia
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Registered: Jun 2005
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posted January 18, 2008 02:50 PM
 
Life is a theater - invite your audience carefully.
Not everyone is spiritually healthy and mature enough to have a front row seat in our lives.
There are some people in your life that need
to be loved from a distance. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you LET GO,
or at least minimize your time with draining,
negative, incompatible,
not-going-anywhere relationships/friendships/fellowships! Observe the relationships around you.
Pay attention to:
Which ones lift and which ones lean?
Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?
Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and
which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people, do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have DRAMA
or don't really understand,
know and appreciate you and the gift that lies within you? When you seek growth, peace of mind, love and truth,
the easier it will become for you
to decide who gets to sit in the FRONT ROW and
who should be moved to the balcony of your life. You cannot change the people around you...
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bunnies
Knowflake Posts: 89
From: U.K
Registered: Mar 2007
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posted January 18, 2008 03:05 PM
Just recommended that whole piece to "Help with Cancer man thread" from It's just me.
Sometimes something like that says it so much better than our own opiniated ramblings could ever express!!IP: Logged |
Node
Knowflake Posts: 1162
From: Crowded House
Registered: Nov 2005
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posted January 19, 2008 10:35 AM
Thanks for posting that! It is a philosophy I have yet to master, so repeated bops over the head are necessary. Sigh, maybe one of these days I will have the maturity to not only *know* what is more healthful in relationships but to actually embrace it.  *Edit- I have been *weeding* out a lot of late. Laughs IP: Logged |
yourfriendinspirit
Moderator Posts: 2509
From: California, USA
Registered: Oct 2006
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posted January 19, 2008 05:04 PM
Mama Mia  Excellent choice for an article to post! Really, there is a great deal of wisdom in there... Thank you for sharing this! ------------------
Sendin' love your way,
"your friend in spirit"  IP: Logged |
Nephthys
Moderator Posts: 3784
From: California
Registered: Oct 2001
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posted January 19, 2008 07:04 PM
Excellent perspective! Thanks for articulating it in the perfect way!   IP: Logged |
Nephthys
Moderator Posts: 3784
From: California
Registered: Oct 2001
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posted January 19, 2008 07:08 PM
P.S. I hope you don't mind I posted it as a bulletin at myspace and I credited you "originally posted by Mama Mia". (I don't know if you wrote it or got it from some other author) IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 2309
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Registered: Jun 2005
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posted January 21, 2008 10:33 AM
Pass it on as you like, each one teach one..IP: Logged |
LibraChickety
Knowflake Posts: 287
From: usa
Registered: Jul 2007
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posted March 26, 2008 12:00 AM
Thank you for that. That was eye-opening.------------------
Sun in Libra
Asc. in Sagittarius
Moon in Virgo
Mercury in Libra
Venus in Scorpio
Mars in Leo
Jupiter in Libra
Saturn in Libra
Uranus in Scorpio
Pluto in Libra Stellium in the 10th
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I feel so naked ;) IP: Logged |
Kal_El
Knowflake Posts: 209
From: Seattle
Registered: Jan 2008
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posted March 27, 2008 03:16 AM
I liked this one. Thank you for posting it. ------------------
"You can't deny laughter; when it comes, it plops down in your favorite chair and stays as long as it wants." Stephen King IP: Logged |
Heart--Shaped Cross
Knowflake Posts: 6921
From: 11/6/78 11:38am Boston, MA
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted March 27, 2008 04:14 PM
There is truth in this, but, ultimately, there are no easy answers. One could easily carry this philosophy too far and say, "Scrape 'em off. You want to save somebody, save yourself," and justify a predominantly soulless and selfish existence. This thread expresses a bit of solar wisdom, but it does not give equal attention to the lunar side. Those wounded people, who we unconsciously and unintentionally give our power to, only to end up resenting them, and blaming them for our lack of awareness, seeing them as "draining, negative, not-going-anywhere", etc., are the people that Christ spoke of when he said, "Whatsoever you do for the least of my brethren, you do for me,". Kwan Yin, the Bodhisattva of Compassion, refused to enter heaven until all sentient beings were liberated first. This selflessness is an example of true Lunar wisdom. It is feminine and receptive. Without the solar energy, it can easily become weak-willed, and a doormat. The answer is not to take refuge in the opposite extreme, becoming cold and indifferent to the people who are most in need of your time and energy. But, to find a healthy balance between giving and withholding. The first step is to become aware of the situation. If you are giving unconsciously, you will come to resent it. But if you give consciously, it can be an act of compassion and charity. Of course we need to develop ourselves, in order to become more effective catalysts in other people's lives, but there is no better way to do this than by loving those who are difficult to love, and who are most in need of that love. As long as you do it consciously, it can be a spiritual practice. Unconsciously, it is just a drag, and you end up blaming, and possibly hurting, the very people who you could have helped. Remember, those "negative" people who seem to not want help, or to not want to change, are the ones who need it the most, are least capable of doing it for themselves, and, often, they are some of the most sensitive people you will ever meet, with rare gifts for those willing to take the time and effort to help bring them to light. Everybody wants to grow, but some people are too deeply mired in fear and self-destructive thoughts and feelings to perceive the light. It is not their choice to be this way. That is just a self-serving philosophy that has taken root in our present day. The concept of free will has its place, but it must not be used to justify an "every man for himself" mentality, as is all-too-often the case. If we reflect on the unity of all life, and the illusory nature of the ego, it becomes easy to see how we may in fact not be as separate from these "undesirables" as we would like to think. Really, there is a shared, collective karma, which we may avoid for a time, but never escape. Whatever individual grace we may have, we ought to be thankful for, and not fall into the trap of taking credit for what is, ultimately, the work of God. In all things, balance. Dont go in for easy-answers. There is a flip-side to every coin. We may find temporary relief in going to an opposite extreme, but this feeling is not a true indication that we have found the answer. Observe the pendulum that swings in all human affairs. IP: Logged |
Heart--Shaped Cross
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From: 11/6/78 11:38am Boston, MA
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posted March 27, 2008 10:57 PM
What keeps most people from suffering very much is lack of imagination.... Everything great that we know has come to us from neurotics. It is they and only they who have founded religions and created great works of art. Never will the world be aware of how much it owes to them, nor, above all, what they have suffered in order to bestow their gifts upon it."
- Marcel Proust
In the psychopathic temperament we have the emotionality which is the sine qua non of moral perception; we have the intensity and tendency to emphasis which are the essence of practical moral vigor; and we have the love of metaphysics and mysticism which carry one's interests beyond the surface of the sensible world. What, then, is more natural than that this temperament should introduce one to regions of religious truth, to corners of the universe, which your robust Philistine type of nervous system, forever offering its biceps to be felt, thumping its breast, and thanking Heaven that it hasn't a single morbid fibre in its composition, would be sure to hide forever from its self-satisfied possessors? If there were such a thing as inspiration from a higher realm, it might well be that the neurotic temperament would furnish the chief condition of the requisite receptivity.
- William James
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Heart--Shaped Cross
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From: 11/6/78 11:38am Boston, MA
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posted March 28, 2008 12:38 PM
Little frog
Riding on a banana leaf
Trembling~ Matsuo Basho
Bring me all your dreams, you dreamer.
Bring me all your heart melodies.
That I may wrap them in a blue cloud cloth.
Away from the too rough fingers of the world.
~ Langston Hughes IP: Logged |
Heart--Shaped Cross
Knowflake Posts: 6921
From: 11/6/78 11:38am Boston, MA
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted March 28, 2008 12:40 PM
"Tenderness contains an element of sadness. It is not the sadness of feeling sorry for yourself or feeling deprived, but it is a natural situation of fullness. You feel so full and rich, as if you were about to shed tears. Your eyes are full of tears, and the moment you blink, the tears will spill out of your eyes and roll down your cheeks. In order to be a good warrior, one has to feel this sad and tender heart. If a person does not feel alone or sad, he cannot be a warrior at all... "The genuine heart of sadness comes from feeling that your nonexistent heart is full. You would like to spill your heart's blood, give your heart to others. For the Warrior, this experience of a sad and tender heart is what gives birth to fearlessness... Real fearlessness is the product of tenderness. It comes from letting the world tickle your heart, your raw heart. You are willing to open up, without resistance or shyness, and face the world." ~ Chogyam Trungpa  "There is a palace that opens only to tears" ~ The Zohar IP: Logged | |
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