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bombshell
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posted February 25, 2008 04:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for bombshell     Edit/Delete Message
Hi everyone. This will be a long, but (hopefully for you) interesting post. I, a Taurus ( aries ascendant, leo moon, mars in gemini, venus in aries) was in a relationship for 6 yrs with a Cancer. For the last year of the relationship i secretly fell in love with his friend- a Libra. After over a year and tons of fun flirty chat with the libra, I told him how i felt. Things got weird but we still kinda spoke- him never revealing any thoughts/feelings. I broke it off with the cancer although we remain friends and even went out altogether a few times. Although it was a bit awkward, the libra and i never really spoke about things in person just ignored it. Everyday we were either talking for hours or fighting about the situation. We tried to not talk to each other but it never lasted- someone always cracked. Finally after months and nothing happening, as well as an exchange of harsh words i decided not to contact the libra again. About a month went by with silence and then he msgd me but i used the excuse that my mother was visiting and couldn't talk. It's been almost a month since then, and i never recontacted him, though he can see me online on msn. It might be a coincidence but often 10 mins after i log on he does- long ago in a chit chat we joked about how ppl stalked like that so i know he's aware. Anyhow, i think about him constantly- i have never felt so compelled and consumed by a person, and i sometimes think not talking to him makes me obsess more. What is the best way to proceed? Should i wait until he contacts me again? Should i make contact? If so, how should i keep it- friendly, romantic, dramatic, passionate ?! THANKS

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fieryscales
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posted February 25, 2008 07:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fieryscales     Edit/Delete Message
I suggest talking to him FIRST, so you can break the mould and not be stuck in one place.
Keep it friendly at first and see if he flirts first( we Libras love to flirt hehe). Once he takes the bait again, move on to how you wanna talk to one another ( but don't be rude).

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bombshell
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posted February 25, 2008 08:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for bombshell     Edit/Delete Message
thanks fieryscales! i'll try that- but first i need to find a lil courage (even though i'm a feisty taurus i can be a bit shy at first). Also, i'll try not to be rude- as a taurus i always stick my foot in my mouth (not intentionally at all- i guess i'm verbally clumsy- major faux pas for you libras, i know!).

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fieryscales
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posted February 25, 2008 08:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fieryscales     Edit/Delete Message
You shouldn't be nervous if you already know this guy, take a deep breath and RELAX.

All the best and please let us know what happens...

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bombshell
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posted February 25, 2008 09:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for bombshell     Edit/Delete Message
hey, so i did it. i didn't push the convo because i wanted to see how eager he'd be to continue it. it was brief, polite "how are you" ... when i didn't continue the convo because it came to a stop he waited a few minutes and then said "well it's been a delight catching up! see u around " (he may have also said that because i was by his school today, but didn't see him).... i know...pretty cold...no i've missed u (from either of us)... i guess that's over... :/

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bombshell
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posted February 25, 2008 09:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for bombshell     Edit/Delete Message
just to add:
after i first said hi he replied with "hi?". I guess because i haven't contacted him for a month since he tried to initiate conversation... i guess he's a bit confused... ?!?!?!... :s

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Geocosmic Valentine
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posted February 25, 2008 11:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Geocosmic Valentine     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Bombshell,

What do you want? When I ask that I mean for you to think about what you ultimately want from this guy?

Does he want the same thing? If it's friendship only, then be his friend. If you know that you have more romantic "relationship" type feelings for him then make that clear.

It seems that you have already made it clear to him and he didn't respond the way you wanted him to, even though you sense that he still has feelings for you.

It's very simple. You both need to clarify what you want from each other because it seems that you are now both collecting resentments over the dumbest minor issues of who texted who last, who called last, who said what and who didn't say enough. It's insane.

How old are you both? If you are teenagers, I can understand this, but my advice still stands. Clarity is power. Your shyness serves NO ONE!!

You'd be very upset if after that last text he finally notices some other girl and decides you were too wishy washy or played to many games to figure out what's going on.

I probably got some of this wrong, but it just gets really tiring reading about "What should I write to him, I'll say Hi, then he'll say hi, etc. ad infinitum.

Grab life by the horns and tackle it.

The water in the pool is cold, but just jump in. Just do it. Life is short, play hard.

I hope you guys make up, it sounds like you really care for each other.

OK, I'm off my soapbox now.

Geocosmic Valentine

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bombshell
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posted February 26, 2008 03:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for bombshell     Edit/Delete Message
hi geocosmic valentine,

I couldn't agree with you more! I guess that is what all this has been reduced to. I wouldn't normally carry on so childishly but because he is one of my ex's best friends (and i'm still close to my ex) it's a bit hard. Further, we have a very tight-knit group and i guess we both feel that news of us together will cause lost friendships and force people to pick sides in a way. I think that holds us both back. Hence the 'i'm scared to get too attached' feeling, as well as built up resentment like you said.

Also, I DO want to take life by the horns and DID when i told him about my feelings. Although it was a big release, I also feel like it caused me to lose a best friend. It was never quite the same again. So i guess that's made me overly cautious.

Thanks for all your advice!

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