posted April 20, 2008 10:18 PM         

We have some of the same friends, and I often see him out at the Pub (a weird coincidence: our regular watering holes are the same) or at parties, and I want him, but I can't say anything. I never get this way! I'm a Leo Sun/Leo Rising with a Sag moon sign and Libra all through my chart, yet I go to pieces when I see him. I get so shy, I can't even speak. I almost avoid him, and by almost I mean do.

He doesn't speak to me first, but if I ever get the nerve to talk to him, he smiles and never acts uninterested. Even his friends say that's just how he is: quiet. He even told me to stop by his current class anytime, and took the effort to tell me it was "always great to see me." But no move! Is he just an ultra-shy Libra? The Libra man that doesn't notice I have a whopping crush on him? Should I just go for it? My friends say I should. He's eight years old than me, and the speculation is he just doesn't think I'd want him. I over-analyze everything terribly. I can't think straight over it anymore. I also say such stupid things when I do talk to him! Do Libras really just not notice?

We have the same moon sign (Sag,) and in Chinese astrology we are the horse and tiger, which work wonderfully well romantically, and there is just something about him. Also, he is a Libra 2, and I'm a Leo 3... I read that was fantastic.

posted April 21, 2008 12:36 PM         

I'm a college senior desperately attracted to my former graduate student teacher.

I left my number on my portfolio. He told me he never reads the portfolios. (Null & Void.)

I want him.

I can't say anything.

I avoid him.

The speculation is he just doesn't think I'd want him. (Who is speculating this?)

I understand your saying that you're usually not like this, but thought it might help if you got the full impact of what you're doing and not doing.

The truth is that you have no idea what he's thinking or how he's feeling. There's this thing called Communication that is vitally important to relationships. Did you know that people can have the greatest physical chemistry in the world, but if their communication doesn't work, the physical will die in the water.

You never addressed whether he is actually available or not. That needs to be cleared up as well.

There's also the subject of how you like to be approached. It may be that somewhere inside of you there is a deep belief that the man is supposed to approach the woman. Some people may criticize it as being old fashioned, but the truth is that it really is a valid deep belief and deep desire for many women. It's right for some women and wrong for others. Whichever you prefer may be what works for you.

Some women believe that if a man won't approach them, it is just the tip of an iceburg of future behavior. It may be suggesting his fears in other areas. You may be the kind of woman who thinks that it suggests that he won't take the initiative in other areas of his relationships and suggests that he lacks ambition in other areas.

I could write a book on that one, but anyway, I just wanted to point some of those things out. But if you are the kind of person who can, at some point, approach him, don't wait. If he is available, he might not be tomorrow. Someone else who isn't scared might just come along and scoop him up.

Which reminds me, I met this really gorgeous graduate student teacher yesterday and I think I'm gonna ask him out tomorrow...

...what are you waiting for. Life is happening now. You better get to him before I do.

Geocosmic Valentine

posted April 21, 2008 02:22 PM         

He is available, and I am going to go for it. I do prefer to be approached, because it just lets me know someone wants me, but I want him, and that should be good enough, right? You are absolutely kind to help. Thank you, thank you.

posted April 21, 2008 04:54 PM         

You already said that he told you he doesn't read the portfolio's so he doesn't have your phone number. That's what I meant by "Null & Void".

There's always going to be something to be worried about or afraid of, but life is about risk. Just imagine how wonderful your reward will be especially because there was risk involved. You can also put a notch in your belt for a time in your life when you were couragious.

If his answer is no, you still get to put the "Knotch of Courage" into your belt and show it off to everyone.

posted April 22, 2008 05:27 AM         

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Which reminds me, I met this really gorgeous graduate student teacher yesterday and I think I'm gonna ask him out tomorrow...

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Ha!