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Topic: Unrequited Love
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praecipua Knowflake Posts: 560 From: england Registered: Aug 2007
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posted May 01, 2008 06:26 AM
i found this website dealing with the pain of unrequited love in a "funny" way: quote: Agony and RaptureWelcome to "Unrequited Love: Agony and Rapture", your guide to suffering through an intense unrequited crush, whether it is still a secret from your Adored One, or already revealed. This largely-sarcastic catharsis was inspired by my own many wanderings through the halls of misery (the 2001 installment in particular) and by "I Just Want To Be Friends", Joe "Logon" Loong's classic WWW tribute to supposedly-platonic friendships. I created this site mostly for myself, as a way of taking command of my emotions again after being sent through the wringer, but I have three objectives as far as what I hope the site can do for other netizens: First, "Agony and Rapture" is supposed to be funny. Those suffering through crushes are often in desperate need of a good chuckle. Laughing at oneself is healthy, and poking fun at this subject can give we who suffer some perspective on what we're doing to ourselves and, sometimes, to the ones we care about. Second, this site is a giant, rancid heap of pain and empathy. Everyone goes through this from time to time. By reading the anecdotes and tips here you can at once wallow in your own misery and also be comforted by a sense of communal misery. And third, I want to give the Adored Ones a window into the hearts of those that care about them. Communication and understanding form a positive-feedback loop, but it can be very difficult to get the ball rolling. Hopefully this site can teach people how to deal with being fancied in a productive way. Although I want the site to be entertaining, I've written very little which I do not actually mean. Some sections are almost entirely sarcastic while still being in many ways true, actual advice. Other sections are low on jokes and are offered in hopes of actually helping readers find perspective. And some of my comments are complete nonsense. It all comes and goes depending on my feelings on the sub-topic and my level of inspiration. I don't delineate the site with <facetious> tags, so you'll have to trust your own instincts on what my goal is with any given statement. With that all said, here's a look at what the site has to offer. Each section contains a collection of short items, humerous and otherwise, that have been written by me, the webmaster, or submitted by friends or random visitors to the site. Eventually, I'd like to include anecdotes from both sides of the issue (that is, the adored and the adorers) in order to make the site more useful.
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praecipua Knowflake Posts: 560 From: england Registered: Aug 2007
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posted May 01, 2008 06:57 AM
quote: The worst thing is holding on to someone who doesn't want to be held on to.*** Days continue to pass, stars continue to shine. Why do I have tears in my eyes today when he was NEVER mine? *** Love... Why does it hurt? Why does it ache? Maybe because we love too much and too deep that somteimes we forget to keep a little for ourselves... sad but true. *** "To fall in love is awfully simple, but to fall out of love is simply awful." -Bess Myerson *** I thought I'd forget you, but I guess I forgot to. *** It was all love on my side, and all good comradeship and friendship on hers. When we parted she was a free woman, but I could never again be a free man. -Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, The Adventure of Abbey Grange
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SunnyRains Knowflake Posts: 85 From: Registered: Apr 2008
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posted May 01, 2008 02:52 PM
That is very deep. Brought tears to my eyes since I'm going thru something similar. It's easy to go into a relationship and say that you aren't going to develop feelings for that person. But if there's one thing I've learned, it's not to trust my heart. When you are head over heels in love with someone and they don't love you back it hurts like hell.IP: Logged |
winky_winky Knowflake Posts: 249 From: SPAIN Registered: Oct 2007
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posted May 01, 2008 04:14 PM
Or.......... you are head over heels and they dont love u they way u want to... i dunno what is worse.............sunny if u dont trust ur heart what else will there be left? honestly, think about ur normal life back and forth from work, and the routine, and those strong, painful feelings when u are in love... WE are in touch then with ourselves and we feel ALIVE... just try to learn as much as u can... but it will happen again and u have to face life upfront and forget about the bad times... I FEEL FOR U i know u are going through a bad patch LIGHT up we love u here in the forum and u know it IP: Logged |
ListensToTrees Knowflake Posts: 4364 From: Infinity Registered: Jul 2005
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posted May 02, 2008 12:03 AM
Sending you hugs, love, and light. IP: Logged |
SunnyRains Knowflake Posts: 85 From: Registered: Apr 2008
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posted May 02, 2008 01:13 PM
Thanks Winky and LTT! I really do appreciate your compassion. It means a lot to me. That's one of the things I love about this site. Everyone seems so caring and it feels like family. It does get better with time and I know that. It's just that sometimes..like last night I saw his picture and just couldn't shake him. I haven't felt like that about someone since I was about 23 and was so low on myself and felt like my heart was ripped out. So when I re-married, I knew that I wasn't in love with him. I did that on purpose to protect myself from being hurt again. And that lasted 10 years. So when I met this guy, I didn't see it coming. It was like a train wreck lol. And it's just the way it ended that gets me. It was more one sided too, but he never came out and said he didn't want me around anymore. He just quit responding. Which is torture to me! I just wanted to hear the words for closure and he couldn't be man enough to say it. Anyway, I just wanted to say thank you and ended up writing a book lol. Thanks for reading my rants and thanks for caring! IP: Logged |
ListensToTrees Knowflake Posts: 4364 From: Infinity Registered: Jul 2005
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posted May 02, 2008 01:48 PM
I understand what you mean, SR. Been through similar stuff myself. IP: Logged | |