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Topic: Leo had to have last word, unbelievable!
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Lavlee
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From: Yes
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted May 02, 2008 10:55 PM
  
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sunshine_lion
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posted May 05, 2008 12:35 PM
Unfortunately we are famous for having to have the last word. I really don't know why. The last guy I dated was a leo also and I told him it was over 3 times, and then like it was his idea, i get a call that we can't see each other anymore...duh... also my firstborn is a leo, when she and I go head to head it is a last word fest. Sorry dear, but with leo's it has to be OUR idea, and yes, we are famous for having to have the final word. not our most flattering trait.IP: Logged |
bunnies
Knowflake Posts: 314
From: u.k
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 05, 2008 02:46 PM
If you really want to tick him off Lavlee just completely ignore him.
They hate that.
He would have to send an e mail just to get you going again so that he could then have the last word but if you don't respond to that one.....
I should imagine to a Leo not being acknowledged is the worst thing!!
They think any attention even negative is better than nothing.And remember the opposite of love is not hate but indifference. IP: Logged |
charmainec
Moderator Posts: 870
From: on the other side of the rainbow
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 06, 2008 09:34 AM
Yes, I agree. I experienced something similiar with a leo guy and he too told me ( actually wrote to me ) not to contact him ever again!!My shock when he contacted me recently stating how sorry he was for his former behaviour and wanted to know if we could be friends ( and this is like 12 years later). I was amazed that he apologized and contacted me first. I replied saying that all is forgiven and that i moved on a long time ago and didn't want any more contact with him.And that was THAT. He didn't reply back so I guess he didn't get the last say - as he usually did  for now at least hehe. IP: Logged |
bunnies
Knowflake Posts: 314
From: u.k
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 06, 2008 11:07 AM
I have noticed a strange thing with Leo men. They really do not like confrontation and I think a lot of that roaring is to scare you off before you think about fighting back.
The couple of them that I have confronted shot off like scalded cats!
That's probably why charmainec yours didn't contact you cos you scared him off.
Whereas Lavlee (you a Libran girl?) was just too damn sweet.
Next time he has a go just say "Oi...back off or I will be forced to hunt you down and kill you (substitute your own threats as desired!)
And charmainec! You're on Soul Unions!!
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Lavlee
Newflake Posts: 2
From: Yes
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted May 06, 2008 12:26 PM
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MysticMelody
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 06, 2008 06:04 PM
What about the Aqua guy? Is this Leo thing just for closure? You just hurt his pride. And didn't give him what he wanted. Apparently, that's what it's all about with this guy. Satisfying his own needs, even at the expense of others he claims to care about. I would just write a letter/email saying everything you are thinking/feeling and everything you always wanted to say. If he is going to initiate and interaction with you and then try to just leave you hurt again, who cares what he thinks? Why worry yourself about it or let it bother you for another however many years? Just dump all of that crap into a letter and send it off. If you want to label it with a warning so he can avoid reading it if he chooses, go ahead. But don't just keep all of that garbage inside so it poisons your future relationships, or let it out on your future loves. Leo helped create it, he can help deal with it.
Maybe if he actually has to deal with both the pleasure AND the pain in relationships he will figure out why having one woman at a time is quite enough for one man to handle.
Women who just give men the good stuff without expecting anything from them hurt other women, and most specifically, cause harm to the man in the long run.High expectations bring out the best in people.
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Lavlee
Newflake Posts: 2
From: Yes
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted May 06, 2008 08:34 PM
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Lavlee
Newflake Posts: 2
From: Yes
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted May 06, 2008 09:17 PM
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MysticMelody
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posted May 06, 2008 11:47 PM
I should have worded that differently. I was being a dork and using "the good stuff" as a euphemism for having sex, which is what I assumed you were talking about when you said he had extra girlfriends on the side. It hurts the man if a woman holds him to no standards because if things come too easily for him his entire life, he learns to accept a lesser version of himself and then acts out when a woman holds him to a higher standard. This means he will treat women with standards badly, and end up with a women with very low standards who will accept his behavior or just constantly nag about it while staying and accepting it. Then he can convince himself that any woman is just a nag who doesn't "accept" him. This creates a dislike and mistrust of women and no woman (the ones with high standards OR low standards) are ever "good enough" for him. This makes it more acceptable to continue the self-defeating behavior. This is similar to super good looking people getting by on their looks while failing to develop as people. A lot of people who exhibit the above described behavior probably fall into this category as well. And what you said about the woman and attachment... biologically women usually become attached through sexual intercourse. There are attachment factors for both men and women, but it is much stronger in women. Here is some info on research in 2006 that confirms the attachment and explores a few additional theories. Here's a bit from this study: http://www.encyclopedia.com/doc/1G1-156736546.html Negative emotions that signal incompatibility with relationship goals "When one's sexual goals and desires are violated by a partner, distress and other negative emotions are generated (Buss, 1989a). This follows from the definition of emotion as a signal about environmental events that have consequences for personal well-being (e.g., Mandler, 1975, 1984). Because men and women had to cope with different adaptive problems in both short- term and long-term mating strategies (Buss & Schmitt, 1993), different events would activate negative emotions for men and women (Buss, 1989a). For example, women have evolved a more emotional-interpersonal orientation toward sex, associating sex with expressions of love and affection (e.g., DeLamater, 1987; Gagnon & Simon, 1973). Accordingly, women are more likely than men to expect partners to be responsive to their emotional needs during heterosexual intercourse. When these relational expectations are not fulfilled, reproductive success may be threatened and negative emotions such as disappointment, anger, and resentment, as well as preoccupation with relational concerns, may result. Behaviorally, these affects may be reflected in indifference and emotional detachment from the sexual event and partner (Birnbaum & Laser-Brandt, 2002). " About being thankful...
just ask yourself what you learned and be thankful for that. 
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pidaua
Knowflake Posts: 67
From: Back in AZ with Bear the Leo
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 16, 2008 04:57 PM
I'm a Saggie... I am married to a Leo (love of my life and best thing that has ever happened to me- although I have to say that as he is here with me  .. .kidding)Anyway.. being an Archer with MANY arrows.. I have yet to meet anyone that can have the last word LOL.... Know why? Cause I THINK it!! They may say it but I win anyway Archer Logic 101 ------------------
Loving it in Deutschland with my sexy Bear :D IP: Logged |
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