posted May 04, 2008 07:44 PM         

It is easier to see a person objectively when there is some distance between the two of you, but once you get closer, get involved, and life happens, you become less objective. How do you tell if the one you're with is your Soulmate, or just one of your many soulmates?

posted May 04, 2008 08:20 PM         

In 2004, I was about to make a huge mistake that would take me far away from him and from 'us', and as I was on the threshold of that mistake, he asked me, "What if we're Soulmates?" I was stunned, and didn't have an answer for him, but the question haunted me as I searched desperately to find some definition of soul companion we could be, who might not end up together - I tried to convince myself that perhaps we were Twin Souls not meant to be together, even though my heart told me that I loved him deeply and could not imagine the rest of my life without him. In spite of myself, I got plunged into an empty, dark world without him, and spent 2 miserable years aching for him, bitterly repenting my foolishness.. It was then I realized that I had given up my Soulmate when I should've fought as hard as it took to ensure an "us", instead of taking the easier way out.

After 2 years of paying for my mistake, I managed to crawl out of the hole I'd dug myself into, and what can only be termed a miracle put me back in the same sphere as my Piscean love. I was amazed to find the deep feelings I'd had for him, had not gone away, and I came alive in his presence. I was also amazed to find that he had not moved on in my absence, and that he too still seemed to have feelings for me. While he seemed to welcome me back with an open heart, some of the defenses he'd built up over the years apart, got in the way of him allowing things to happen. I decided that this time it was my turn to wait patiently for him, and love him unconditionally.

Finally, a few months ago, he came around, admitted to me that he realized there was still something there, and that he was ready to give it a chance again. We decided to go slowly, instead of rushing headlong as we had before. Invariably though, as before, our hearts have led the way for a while, and we've been finding ourselves back in the same place. We're realizing though that the challenges we'd had before, have not gone away entirely, and there are bound to be difficulties again in the way of us making it official. This time, however, I'm determined to give this my all; I won't accept defeat easily. Still, it's a daunting process working through it, and there are times when I wonder if it is worth it to disappoint/hurt other people and put mine & his happiness above theirs. We are proceeding a bit more slowly since realizing the challenges still exist and I feel rather disconcerted that it seems like we're back to square one.

posted May 05, 2008 10:50 AM         

Go for it! Go be with your Pisces!

posted May 05, 2008 06:29 PM         

I do have email; please do write me at sunshine9@unc.edu!

posted May 05, 2008 06:33 PM         

And you're right, I would totally regret it for the rest of my life if I were to give up on him and us again. I won't give up on us this time.. I will fight for us!

posted May 05, 2008 06:47 PM         

I'm a Cappy (Sun/Moon/Mercury/Mars in Cappy) with strong Piscean undertones (Venus in Pisces in 4th squaring Neptune in my Ascendant). That latter aspect is probably the reason I'm prone to want to sacrifice for my family and why I did so in the past. This time around though, I've learned my lesson so I will not give up easily.

I guess I'm questioning my decision because when I turned to my cousin hoping for her support recently, she got on me about not having a sacrificing attitude, and how my parents would never get over it if I did move forward, and what if their health were to be affected by my actions?! I was pretty ticked off and upset, but not enough to want to give up the man my heart tells me IS the One for me. I've had other family members lecture me on this sacrifice bit, and they have even brought religion and spirituality into the issue, telling me that I'm giving up everything for the sake of a temporary romance if I marry him. While it isn't making me change my mind about him (my feelings are strong enough), it does give me pause. But then again, I doubt any of them would give up their Soulmate if they were in my shoes. Oh gosh, I must take strength in that!!

I just need to be brave and take the plunge. We've already lost so much time together, and I don't want us to lose any more!

posted May 12, 2008 02:52 PM         

the universe gave you another chance, not many get those second chances, consider yourself blessed, do not let your fears get in the ways of love

posted May 12, 2008 03:41 PM         

Maintain Truthfull to You Heart and you will never regret the Path it leads You - your SM also suffered great loss when he wasnt with you.

Dont need to ask how we recognizes one another - you already know the answer.