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posted May 21, 2008 05:10 AM         

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This is a two parted question.
I have been wondering about this for awhile. When we consciously trying to "attract" someone that is when our venus is at work right(attract not seduce)? Well isn't that the Venus for a guy is representative of the kind of women he is attracted to or reflects his feminine qualities thus finding her desirable? If that is the so then if we are trying to attract a guy who's venus we know should we be try to display or play up the qualities depicted of his venus sign instead of our own? Or perhaps consciously try to combine the two so we are being true to our sign?

My second question is about venus vs. sun. For example, if someone's sun is in Libra with venus in gemini and the guy that they like has his sun in gemini and his venus in libra then which sign should you play up to? does that make sense?
Should you try to display strong sun signs to trigger his venus or should you concentrate more on playing up your venus in order to appeal to his sun sign?
What do you think?

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posted May 22, 2008 02:37 AM         

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Just be yourself. If you connect, great. If not, move on and don't waste your time. There are other fish in the sea that you are compatible with. You shouldn't have to "be" someone else to impress someone else. After a while, that gets tiring and your real self come out anyway.

I know you didn't ask for a lecture in morals and values and that is not what I was trying to give you, i'm just saying, be yourself and you'll attract the right person.

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posted May 22, 2008 03:32 AM         

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I agree with you Gemini. I would never try to be someone I know I'm not. I guess what I meant to ask was more along the lines of channeling the traits that we know we already have from a certain sign. Does that make sense?
I know when my venus is at work cause I start acting very aqua like in my flirting which can sometimes overpower my more reserved cap nature. I usually try to blend the to but I doesn't always work out. I know I can sometimes confuse guys because at first I will either present myself as a reserved cap and then on next meeting my bubbly, quirky aqua appears or vice versa. Lol its almost like I have two extreme different personalities, especially when the Leo moon kicks in, oi!

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posted May 22, 2008 04:16 AM         

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I understand what you're saying. I have found myself doing that before I got married and was dating. The thing is, when you are doing that, you are being yourself. You just don't consciously realize it at the moment. I still don't recommend trying to act like someone else's sign to attract them though. In the end, you will find that you have only sold yourself short.

If you and the other person's Venus are compatible, then you just being yourself is going to appeal to the other person (of course if you are the other person's type).

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posted May 22, 2008 03:18 PM         

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I agree with what has already been. I wouldnt recommend to mold into something you are not. And I think in reality that attempt would fail miserably anyway, you'd just seem strangely unnatural and tense. But if you have everything in your repertoire as with your example and we are purely talking astrology then I would think appealing to a man's venus sign might be a bit more important in the first phase, when you are still in the process of trying to spark the man's interest. The hook :-).

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posted May 23, 2008 02:40 PM         

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Yes I agree with both of you! I would never try to be someone I'm not, especially for a guy. You either take me for who I am or not at all. I know I have two different sides to my personality, crazy and goofy and then reserved and serious. I was just curious as to which side I should try to control or present more prominent, just in the first phases to spark the attraction some more you know? I dont want to scare him off by being to much of one. I want him to see that I have two sides. I'm just trying to appeal to the side that will help me reel him in, lol. But yes I have never agreed with being someone you are not in order to attract anyone. I am a strong believer in being yourself and not care what anyone else thinks. However if you know you poses a certain quality then what is the harm in emphasizing it? As long as you are staying true to yourself and the other person then I don't see the harm

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