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posted May 23, 2008 05:32 AM         

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I met my crab in February, we clicked strait away, and things have been going well, we talk or sms everyday. Seemed to have the whole communication thing working for us, I have been following all the threads on Cancer and following everyone’s advice, taking things slow…. really really slow. (and I am not the most patient person on earth). Then WHAM, Wednesday he was supposed to come over for dinner, but sms’d at the last moment that he had double booked himself. So told him we could postpone till Thursday, but he said he had other plans. I was upset, I had spent a fortune in making the evening a special one. Now I have not heard from him since then and it is killing me. But being the stubborn Virgo I am, I think he should contact me and apologize for the way he treated me. Am I being unrealistic. What should I do??? This man has gotten under my skin in a bad way! Normally I would just walk away, but with him I just can’t seem to let go!!!!

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posted May 23, 2008 01:02 PM         

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Oh girl!!! I am a virgo like yourself and completely understand your need to make him apologize for the actions...also the lack of patience! I have a thread called Cancers...oh my goodness, you should check it out. My only advice is to just keep it cool...just relax and take it in stride. They are very slow movers and you can't chase him the whole way. He did let you know he couldn't make it...so maybe just send him a message and let him know you are around otherwise try and move on a bit.

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posted May 24, 2008 02:04 PM         

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:::, I think he should contact me and apologize for the way he treated me. Am I being unrealistic.:::

I would say , infact there are strong chances when he meets you next , he will apolgize .
so dont be diheartend (for this matter )

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posted May 27, 2008 02:34 AM         

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Hi Virgo81 & Cancerrg,

Thank you for your replies.
Virgo81, I have been following your thread, and find myself in a similar situation. I did break down and sms him, and he did sms back but nothing since... I think I am going to just leave it be for the moment. The silence is killing me tho, we normally either sms or phone each other 3 to 4 times a day. How are you doing with your crab?

Cancerrg, I was hoping you would reply. Your advice on some of the other threads was very insightful. At this stage I am just hoping that I will see him again. He seems to have retreated into his shell.

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posted May 28, 2008 06:20 PM         

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I think with a Cancer it would have been ok to let him know that you felt disappointed and that you had went to such an effort to make the evening special. That would have shown that you "care" and that he hurt your "feelings", which would have invoked a response of some sort... either a sorry or the urge to either set another date, or even to tell you that truthfully he is not interested (if that was the case) etc. Since you are a Virgo you might not show your feelings as often so my advice to you is to not hold back any feelings you do have when interacting with the Cancer. Unless the feelings are super negative, of course. Then use the usual caution.
Hope you hear from him.

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posted May 29, 2008 04:16 AM         

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Hi Mystic,
You are right about me not showing my feelings, at least not until I get to know someone really well. I did let him know that I was disappointed, but got no response. He sms'd me on Tuesday and then yesterday again... no mention was made to last week. I have decided to let the whole thing go, and just try to get back to how we were. That is gonna be the hard part....

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