posted June 01, 2008 01:06 PM         

I'm so sorry to hear of your pain.. I'm going thru the same thing, so I can relate. My guy who used to have so much faith in us, in our love, and taught me how to love unconditionally, is now going through something, and says now it would be too hard for us to make it work, given all our differences (background, culture, religion) - this is the same guy who told me 6 years ago that he loved me and I underestimated what he would do for love, a guy, who at 23 said he could see us married with a family, who would NOT let me give up on us no matter what, and now that I'm on board and I'm here and ready to do whatever work it might take, he's afraid of all the challenges we would have and would rather give up.. We had this conversation yesterday so I'm in a lot of pain and not ready to move on.

Do you really feel ready to move on? Do you feel he is the one for you? How long were you together?

I wasn't able to pull up your chart (the link has expired) - if you post the birth times, I can take a look at it. Or you can write to me if you like at ... I will leave this up for a few hours before I take it down. I'm here for you if you want to talk... Hang in there, love!

posted June 01, 2008 03:17 PM         

do you study at UNC by any chance??

I studied there in 2005-06 as part of my study abroad program at my British uni. I loved Chapel Hill! and miss it still...such a lovely place. I had an amazing time there.

posted June 01, 2008 03:24 PM         

I looked at your synastry, and saw that you have his Sun/Chiron sextile your Moon (traditionally a good aspect between a man & woman). His Sun/Chiron trine your Neptune, which explains the effect he has on you - when he expresses his Arian identity, it inspires an almost mystical, selfless love in you, which is probably healing for him. His Sun/Chiron also trine your Saturn, which would be a sign of stability, a desire to commit. However, your emotional expression (Moon) reminds him of his need for freedom/independence (Uranus) - this is Moon trine Uranus. Your expression of your Capricorn Sun causes this as well, by squaring Uranus. I see that your Sun/Mercury square his Mercury, so that might cause some communication issues. Your Mars squared his Pluto would've led to a magnetic relationship, but also one with perhaps explosive arguments.

His Vertex on your DC (Avx on your AC/Jupiter) would've made for a fated quality to the relationship. So also his NN/SN on your MC/IC axis - that is a sign of long-term stability in marriages. Your North Node sextiles his DC (and SN trines it), and this is intimately tied to wounds you carry from your past (Chiron conjunct SN), and the relationship would've had a healing effect on you. Your Jupiter also loosely conjuncts his Venus/Mars/Saturn, and your relationship would've been very feel-good for him, a source of joy.

I see a lot of good aspects in this synastry, and also a few that challenge the relationship. Perhaps he is responding to his Uranian need for freedom, and that is why he needs some space. This must be hard for him too - his Sun/Chiron oppose his Uranus, and oppositions cause a lot of challenges that cause one to flip-flop between two extremes unless the individual learns how to handle the energy well.

I'll take a peek at his progressions & transits to see what's going on for him..

posted June 01, 2008 03:27 PM         

I am indeed at UNC-Chapel Hill; I love it here too!! Isn't Franklin St. a great place to hang out? What program were you in here? Are you back in Kent now? Done with school? I'm finishing up my degree this year.

posted June 01, 2008 03:43 PM         

Just looking at his chart, I see that he has some complex oppositions natally - his Moon/Neptune conjunction in Sadge oppose his Venus/Saturn/Mars conjunction spread between Taurus/Gemini, in addition to the opposition to Uranus I mentioned earlier.

Let me explain how this works by giving you an example of what my guy has going on - my guy has his Sun/South Node in Pisces opposing his Moon/Saturn/North Node in Virgo. When we met, he was excessively Piscean, with an open, loving nature that led to outpourings of love and devotion to me. He has now swung to the other extreme and is now expressing more of the Virgo nature, being more cautious & reserved, and having Uranus transiting his Sun and an impending Saturn Return are causing all these imbalances in him. He probably feels like he's being pulled in 2 directions. It's so hard to see his Virgo nature be critical of his expression of love, and he pulls back & retracts, censors himself. When you have an opposition, it poses you the challenge of learning to balance the demands of all those sides to your personality, without going to either extreme.

Now, what your man has going on, is a challenging Saturn Square which is squaring this opposition of Venus/Saturn/Mars opp. Moon/Neptune, and this probably has him feeling very low, very unsettled, like the ground under him is shifting. You would've just gone thru a Saturn Return yourself - you know how this kind of transit can be..

I would say, just give him time to come around.. in the meantime, try to focus on other things - yourself, your career, your friends and what brings you happiness.. I can tell you are already probably on the road to doing that. He might yet come around; he just needs time to figure things out as we've seen - this is indeed a tough time for him and it's not surprising he wanted to pull back on the relationship (much like my sitch). Looking at his chart, I'd say that if he could rely on the expression of his Arian Sun/Mercury conjunction and his Libran Pluto to offset the tensions of the opposition I described, it could be the key for him to come out of this transit in one piece. Hopefully, you will both be able to overcome all these challenges and get together again.

I hope this helps shed some light on your situation..

posted June 02, 2008 05:15 AM         

I was an American Studies Major and so did a lot of classes within that departmet. Oh yes i loved Franklin street, especially Deep End and The Martini bar. I also miss Yogurt Pump. Brings back great memories. I also loved the pit, i used to hang out there alot with my friends. Is the Green Bean still there?? (I think thats what its called...)

Whats your major??

posted June 11, 2008 04:03 PM         

Also, I am not aware of Linda's teachings, but I am not convinced there is a "one", I think one can experience real love more than once. I am not so sure about the whole soul mate thing...

posted June 11, 2008 04:09 PM         

I agree with this whole heartly, I know that it hurts, but it really will show you whats what and if this is really real..