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Topic: I need a little help understanding a cancer man
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cancergal36
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Registered: Sep 2008
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posted September 07, 2008 12:00 PM
 
I met this guy about 3 years ago and we instantly became friends. We are both cancers. Well over the course of time I began to have stronger feelings for him but I was always scared to tell him for fear of rejection. A little over a week ago while eatting lunch together (we work in the same department) he nervously asked me for my phone number and said he wanted to take me out on a date. Well, he hasn't called. We joke around at work still and talk about casual stuff. But never about dating or getting together. I expected him to wait a few a days but not 9 days. I know he has been divorced for about 10 years and his ex cheated on him repeatedly. I recently found out that about 4 years ago he was dating a lady and he was head over heels for but she didn't accept his kids so it ended. So I know that there are fears he is dealing with but aarrgghh he is so hard to read. I am used to being able to read people and I can't read him. Being that I am also cancer I can't get myself to just call him at home and ask what's up. I've tried but when I dial his number on my phone I can't push send. LOL. Does anyone have any advice. I have been reading most of the posts on cancer men but I am still a little confused. IP: Logged |
cancerrg
Knowflake Posts: 2793
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Registered: Dec 2004
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posted September 07, 2008 02:55 PM
how was your reaction when he asked for the no.?
do you in anyway feel , he might have felt that you are not interested 'in that way' ? For God' sake , talk to him . he needs .
the same time you met him , i met a cancergal too and i still regret my silence (i dont know if she does too ) so my advice , talk to him if u can .
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Lucia23
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Registered: Feb 2007
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posted September 07, 2008 03:40 PM
Maybe you can ask him to a nonthreatening event--like inviting him to a party or picnic or other group thing, or offering him an extra ticket to a play--and then he'll know that you are interested in him "that way."IP: Logged |
cancergal36
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Registered: Sep 2008
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posted September 07, 2008 03:44 PM
cancerrg thank you for responding.I don't think I made him feel like I wasn't interested. I immediately gave him both home and cell number. He suggested that we keep it a secret that we are dating because of the fact that we work in same department and it could possible cause problems for us. I agreed with him because if found out one of could be transferred to another department and we both love where we work. The rest of the day I was on cloud 9. We would catch the other staring at the other. When we work next to each other he brushes his arm against mine. Subtle things that are not too noticable. You can almost feel the electricity between us and the connection. He just hasn't called. I'm not sure weither I should call him or email him. I don't want to seem to needy or pushy.
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deuxantares
Knowflake Posts: 495
From: Dubai
Registered: Nov 2006
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posted September 07, 2008 04:08 PM
Sis, just be patient. It's only been 9 days.  Do you have his birth info? Maybe we can get clues from his Mars placement (how he pursues a girl).IP: Logged |
cancergal36
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Registered: Sep 2008
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posted September 07, 2008 04:12 PM
His b-day is 7-14-65. I don't know what time. Mine is 7-19-72 at 2:41pm Houston, TX as place of birth. He was born near Corpus Christi, Tx.Thanks to everyone for you help. I don't really have anyone I can talk to because we have the same friends and we all work together. IP: Logged |
deuxantares
Knowflake Posts: 495
From: Dubai
Registered: Nov 2006
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posted September 07, 2008 04:22 PM
Preliminary investigation shows the following findings: Sun Cancer
Moon either Capricorn or Aquarius (we need exact time of birth for this)
Mercury Leo
Venus Leo
Mars Libra Now, go to www.cafeastrology.com and read up on Venus in Leo and Mars in Libra. Read also both Cap and Aqua moons. You've known him for 3 years, you should have an idea which one fits him more.  IP: Logged |
LetsDance
Knowflake Posts: 131
From: Where there's dancing...
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted September 07, 2008 04:45 PM
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He suggested that we keep it a secret that we are dating.... I agreed with him ...
Ok, so you both consider yourselves "dating" each other. I don't think I'd call him since he asked you for your number to specifically Ask You Out.  Since you see him everyday and the interaction is pleasant and electric, he may be planning a special date and just hasn't finalized all the details, i.e.: place, finances, conversation, etc. I'd give him all the time he needs, while still having a good time with his attention at work, etc. He still could be feeling you out, so take that into consideration and keep checking him out as well. You are both are cancers so it seems you two understand the way it is.
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deuxantares
Knowflake Posts: 495
From: Dubai
Registered: Nov 2006
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posted September 07, 2008 04:49 PM
If he was born after 5:10AM his moon is Aqua.Now i know why you seem unable to relax. Your moon is in Scorpio. LOL. Sun Cancer
Moon Scorpio
Mercury Leo
Venus Gemini
Mars Leo IP: Logged |
cancergal36
Knowflake Posts: 5
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Registered: Sep 2008
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posted September 07, 2008 04:52 PM
He seems to fit the Moon in Cap. Thanks for the website it was informative.IP: Logged |
cancergal36
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posted September 07, 2008 05:01 PM
Thank you everyone. I really appreciate all the input. I guess I was getting worried a little too soon. It just that I have liked this guy for so long and then to see has interest in me I guess I just wanted things to move a little faster. So I am going to take a deep breath and sit back and enjoy the ride.IP: Logged |
cancerrg
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Registered: Dec 2004
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posted September 08, 2008 12:44 AM
as lets dance say,he might be planning something .
Also , a call means more private and may be he is just a bit apprehensive ,maintaining your privacy in a very weird way giving you respect .i know bcos i did it too . Rock onnnnnnnnnnnn...... IP: Logged |
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