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Topic: trying to understand aquarius a man
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broken dream
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posted September 17, 2008 11:47 PM
 
I was dating an aquarius man for two years. I never asked him for much just some of his time maybe once a week. i never asked to be his girlfriend. I thought i saw something special in him and i guess i wanted him to see something special in me. Im a libra so i keep trying to figuer out where i went wrong. I never meant to push him away but he never really allowed me to hold on to him. I guess i just want to know your thoughts. Should i try to get him back or should i give up on him------------------
I am a thousand shooting stars going to waste in his arms i will always be his wish but never his truth! IP: Logged |
Lana29865
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posted September 18, 2008 12:53 AM
Try to post this at the astrology section, you might get more answers...
I'll also check in later.IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
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posted September 18, 2008 09:40 AM
Did you stop to think its him and not you..IP: Logged |
GemGemGem
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posted September 18, 2008 11:24 AM
"I never asked him for much just some of his time maybe once a week. I never asked to be his girlfriend."Did you want more than once a week of his time? Did you want to be his girlfriend? If you really did want him, your actions seem to show you didn't care all that much whether he saw you or not, or whether he thought of you as his girlfriend or not.
If you wanted more from him, you should make it clear. People will treat you how you feel you deserve to be treated. I'm not saying be a demanding beatch, but if you wanted more time from him than just once a week, if you wanted more commitment than what he was offering, you should make it known. And if it's something he can't offer, then walk away...at least you stood up for what you wanted and deserved. Don't ever settle for less. I think with Aquas, you really just have to tell them what's on your mind. They are logical. If he thinks you don't want more, than he may just be ok with things the way they are. (But don't tell them in any kind of crazy, emotional way though, that might scare him away.) Good luck. Remember to always ask yourself, "Is this what 'I' want?" And not, "Is this what I think 'he' wants."
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broken dream
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posted September 18, 2008 02:36 PM
The logical part of me understands that it just might be him and not me. Tobe honest im not sure if i want or need more than once a week. I have my own friends and my own life. I just felt like he never had enough time for me. There was always something else for him to do. I guess i just wish things could have ended differently. The advice here is very honest i deserve more and i should be seeking more. Now if i could just place my thoughts and my emotions on the same timeline! Letting go is never easy!------------------
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Annepisces
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posted September 20, 2008 01:53 PM
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blue moon
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posted September 20, 2008 06:34 PM
Aquarians, at least the few I know extremely well, can have the annoying tendency of wanting you to be around for them when it suits them, but will resist any attempts you make to pin them down to do something if it doesn't suit them. This type of behaviour shouldn't be pandered to, in my view. It reminds me of cats. They come in and sit on your lap when it suits them, maybe they will give you a little attention if they want some kitty milk and biscuits. Pick them up to sit on your lap and they don't want to bother, they will just hop off and go scratch the side of the sofa instead. So, in summary, the cat vs my Aqua husband. I prefer the cat, they both know it. Cats are just cats, doing what they do. Aquas can be hypocrites. IP: Logged |
Little Miss Libra
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From: Pueblo, CO
Registered: Apr 2008
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posted October 14, 2008 08:08 PM
Broken Dream,I can very much relate to your situation with an aqua male! You know, being a Libra, it was a bit of a blow to the ego sometimes because he was so detached and he wasn't too fond of PDA so at times I would think it was me. Finally I asked him and he was more than surprised I thought that way. He set me straight. So bottom line, Aquas like directness, they don't like beating around the bush. If you're direct with them, they will show you the same courtesy in return. Don't be afraid! If this relationship has been going on for 2 years, he must be fond of you too! IP: Logged |
bunnies
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Registered: Mar 2007
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posted October 15, 2008 03:54 AM
I agree with you blue moon and I'm an Aquarian!
I have used the cat analogy myself.
I actually don't like cats and I think it's for that reason. I think "You ungrateful little b's. You just take and then swan off when it suits"And you are right. All that hypocrisy. I cannot bear anyone to dictate my time but I am quite surprised when people can't fit with my plans.
And I am the worlds worst flirt (with people in general) but GOD help any man I am with, who tries to do the same.
He would be out the door before he knew what hit him! Quite frankly we expect people to understand our need for complete freedom but are simply unable to extend the courtesy to others. You think Leos expect the world to revolve around them? At least with Leos you get something back! But oh dear, when we get what we want, who can resist... Funnily enough I am just reading a book about Paula Yates and Michael Hutchence (Taurus and Aqua) Yeah! Like that was ever going to work. He admitted that he loved her above any woman ever but was forever drifting off.
But when he came back his attention and focus on her was so much that it just blew her away. She had never experienced anything like it.
Sadly she yearned for Taurean stability and they ended up destroying one another.
A salutory tale. IP: Logged |
MysticMelody
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posted October 15, 2008 11:48 AM
"kitty milk and biscuits"AHhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
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ahahahahahahahahhahaaaaaaa sorry. whew-  carry on
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Lara
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From: London
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted October 15, 2008 02:55 PM
LOL Mysticwhat if the guy is a leo sun and aquarian moon, leo venus and aquarius mars!
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broken dream
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posted October 16, 2008 02:47 AM
I understand that auqarius like it when you are direct with them. I told my aquarius how i was feeling and still he was afraid to hold me too close as if i could some how take up all the space in his heart and in his life. I Tried to make sure that he knew that i just wanted some of his time not all of it. Maybe he thought i wanted to clip his wings to keep him grounded but the truth is i just wanted him to land for just a littel while maybe lay his thoughts next to mines.------------------
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broken dream
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posted October 25, 2008 09:49 PM
Im having a hard time letting go. I let him back in thinking that things had changed he made me feel like he was a safe place to fall instead i fell into my past. I keep making the same mistake a thousand times over. Its not often that i am this emotional its just that my ego has been bruised. I feel almost ashamed for shedding one tear it feels like such a waste of time and emotion. Sorry for the rant im not use to feeling this emotional.------------------
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hippichick
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posted October 26, 2008 10:25 AM
The only way to handle and Aquarian man and keep your sense of self-esteem and self-respect intact is to let him go...They certainly feel your energy and whilst close, physical proximity makes them uncomfortable, energetcially they can run from our thoughts of them as well. There is such peace in letting go of anything, especially the Aquarian man. IP: Logged |
Snow_Dream
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From: Wichita, Kansas USA
Registered: Jun 2007
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posted October 26, 2008 02:26 PM
Amen, Amen, Amen, hippichick, I couldn't have said it better!!! I wasted twenty two long years in a marriage to an Aquarian man. Not only was he heartless, he was the most prolific womanizer I have ever known. Run the other way as fast as you can and don't look back.IP: Logged |
bunnies
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From: U.K
Registered: Mar 2007
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posted October 27, 2008 03:43 AM
I was married to an Aqua for seven years (I too am Aqua)
I knew little about him when we married,only what he chose to reveal, even though we had known each other on or off for 13 years.
After 7 years I knew NOTHING about him...at all.We split up one day. He moved out. It was as if he had never happened.
I can't even recall anything about the marriage and it only ended 18 months ago. Wrap your head around that one!! IP: Logged |
broken dream
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posted November 04, 2008 08:02 AM
Thanks for the kind words ane beautiful advice hippichick. You are right about my sense of self essteam at some point enough is enough. Things between the aqua and i are very intense in a way that is intense for air signs. Though we both feel emotions very deeply we dont express them very well. I like the fact that he isnt very clingy. I dont like to feel trapped but i would like to feel like i mean something to him. We cant meet in the middel on the emotional stuff so i have to let him go.------------------
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ListensToTrees
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From: Infinity
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posted November 04, 2008 09:01 AM
Some people are afraid to feel, whatever sign of the zodiac they may be....whatever sign we are...people are people. I'm beginning to wonder whether I personally can handle relationships, because I'm over sensitive, over-analyze things and am easily hurt. Being a Gemini, I'm meant to be the one who struggles with commitment, however, I've always found it to be an issue with the people I've gone for as opposed to me. The only thing I do fuss over in a relationship is a deep sense of connection, so I guess I can be a perfectionist in that way. But I am not worried about commitment....just finding the right connection. (Or perhaps those two things are interconnected after all? lol).  Back to the subject, I think people are afraid to get close to somebody sometimes. They know it can open Pandora's box....of vulnerability and emotions. Or they just need to live a little more and longer, find out more about who they are, before they are ready to make a commitment to somebody. IP: Logged |
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