posted September 27, 2008 04:54 AM         

he had asked me many times before what i think of him and i said he was younger than me so i dont even want to think about him.
then he wanted to know if he asked me out would i go wht him, i said no!..i mean i was on my gurad because i have had a past relationship with a scorpio and didnt want another one!.

today he has finally asked me out on a date set for next week..i want to know what am i getting myself into..i am a bit scared since he hasnt clearly said he likes me or anything like that..we both are attracted to eachother and can sense it..we enjoy eachothers company and comments and the slient killer gazez we give each other..infact this is the first man who has such a sharp gaze very similar to mine!..

o yea,when he asked me out i was honest enough to tell him if it is about getting physical then i am not his date! i am not the girl for him and he should look else where..but he insisted its just a date and that it!...pls help!....i show him that i am not intrested and stay calm when he is around but inside i am like going bonkers for him ,i simply cant resist his charm, yet i stay calm!!.....but is it time to panic yet???

he is :-
sun -scorpio
moon - cancer
mercury - scorpio
venus -scorpio
mars - aqua

posted September 27, 2008 08:56 AM         

However... I will say... and I'm admittedly a bit biased, being a Scorp female with a Cancer mooon... you might have just hit the jackpot with this guy... you didn't post his chart so we don't know if he's got any awful aspects .... but with that caveat in mind - he's still got some awesome basics - sounds like the kind of guy who will not mess with your heart ... a Cancer moon will make him a nurturer and probably very mushy... my guess is the silly comments that ran hot and cold were just surface nonsense, the typical mental games the Scorps play in the beginning.

posted September 27, 2008 12:29 PM         

well thanks honey but the thing is i dont know the time of birth yet
hmmm i will find out soon.
i am just worried abit about my reputation..i mean we work at the same place and i dont want him going around and telling collegues that i went out wth him n stuff...u know wht i mean..i have a really clean rep at work.

posted September 27, 2008 03:58 PM         

A Gemini/Scorpio/Pisces doesn't sound all that
harmful does it? But turns out he is...
I think with Scorpios, and for any other sign for that matter...even if the sign descriptions show that this person has depth or whatever, unless they're evolved the description is nothing.

Confused gemini,
go on this date, have dinner, talk, and have fun. Just don't go anywhere dark and private!

posted September 28, 2008 06:37 AM         

To be able to look at the girl and say: I dont even want you haha! and treats you as if you are nothing more than a prey/goal/toy...He's ruthless, likes to crush and even boasts about it.

Yet ultimately, he's not wise. who talks about strategy before war? :|

If i were you, i would quit thinking about him too much. a normal friend would do...

posted September 28, 2008 02:47 PM         

This guy sounds like a serious mixed message Scorpio. I've gotten entangled (or not) with two of these guys over the past couple of years (I think because I was coming out of a longterm relationship and was very vulnerable--I had happy-ish relationships with Gems and Libras up till then!) Now, there are Scorp men who are kind and wonderful people--I'm friends with several, they rock. These mixed message guys, on the other hand, are just immature and insecure.

He keeps women on the leash--and thus keeps control--by building them up, then taking them down. Instead of just letting you know he likes you, he leaves you confused. And then you start to confuse your confusion with an obsession with that Scorpio.

Also, these guys pay close, careful attention to how to manipulate you. They look for what works. It's because they feel very very vulnerable inside and want to protect themselves. (The Cancer moon would heighten that.) A mature Scorp will test you at first to see if he can trust you, and once he knows he can, he'll be very loyal. An immature Scorp will play with, seduce and reject a lot of women to make himself feel safer.

Saying, "when i like a girl she cant escape me..i always make sure i get my girl!i dont like you otherwise i would have made you my love by now, infact i dont even consider you as a girl that attracts me'--well, that's not flirty! That's just mean! Imagine if I (a Leo) said the equivalent of that to some guy who was interested in me? You know he doesn't mean it--if he really weren't into you, he wouldn't say it--but it's a very immature, grade-school way of dealing with his interest.

You say you can't resist his charm, but that kind of stuff doesn't sound too charming. More likely, you can't resist all the manipulative hooks he's putting out.

If you can stay light and just enjoy his good looks/sexiness and not get too involved/obsessed, maybe things will go okay for you? (In my case, Leo Sun/Cancer Moon/Cap Rising, I take everything seriously and get hooked to a guy and just have to be careful.)

posted September 28, 2008 06:59 PM         

'only a mad man would fall for a crazy girl like u' or 'i rather die than ever propose to u'

posted September 29, 2008 02:46 AM         

its an emergency so i am gonna be traveling in 2 days,hearing this he asked me out for lunch right away...so i went out with him..and .....and.....and...!!
he confessed that he is married and has a 1 year old child too!!!...he showed me their pics and said no one at work knows about this but i am telling you..!! what the %&*$#%!#^
and he had the nerve to say that he wished he had met me before his wife and that he is crazy in love with me!!!...i was shocked and told him..all ths time he was married and kept flirting with girls and dating them..even after knowing he has a kid!...wow! you are shameless! disgusting person..what will your wife think of all this?..he calmly replied she doesnt live with me so it doesnt make much of a difference...
well what can i say except that what a scorpio man this turned out to be!
thanks for warning me guyz and taurus and jugular yes now i know what that aspect you mentioned can do to a person!..ssheeeesh i really pity his wife.

however the end of story..i told him i cannot offer a married man anything more than friendship!..

posted September 29, 2008 03:27 AM         

Very few Scorpio males who are given what they want will ever cheat. To be in a loveless relationship inherently promotes cheating.

If there is no love, who is to care?

Who has the right to care?

Scorpios may be seen as complicated, but we learn early in life that people don't understand us, so we tend to ask very little of other people.

posted September 29, 2008 06:19 AM         

Sorry this Scorp thing ended the way it did, although I'm not sure the guy is evil and disgusting, and deserving of being villified, but then again, the composition of my personality makes me very very different from the norm.

I do think he sounds like he could use some lessons in manners and social graces, he sounds rough around the edges. And also confused, yes.

posted September 29, 2008 12:52 PM         

I've been the role of "the other guy" once or twice before and I hated it. Most recently a Sag girl very well could've liked me more than her current man, she felt unloved and stuck in her situation.

She was nowhere near married to the guy, but when there is no love, a marriage is nothing more than two rings and legal documents.

posted September 29, 2008 12:52 PM         

To me, this guy sounds very toxic and manipulative. His mixed messages and insult/flirtations are very inappropriate. given that he's not single and that you are in the workplace.

If I were you, I would just internally send him a kind thought and move on, even just as a friend. He doesn't sound like someone it's healthy to be involved with in any way right now. He has his own personal stuff to work out--lots of it!

posted September 30, 2008 11:59 AM         

Uh, I would say you are setting yourself for a lot of CONFUSION and tears. I understand why you would want to go out with him though...the intrigue and mystery, blah, blah, blah.

I'm with Lucia23, he is manipulative, and is playing games with your mind. As soon as you say you will not go out with him, he asks you out. You say you don't want him..he uses the stare. You said you will not let it go to any physical level... now he's going to try to get into your pants. It's about conquering, and the challenge. You've already lost 2 battles!

Mars in Aqua men are very clever, and have the ability to get whatever they want using their intellect and mind tricks. The ones I know are very insincere. (Not saying they all are, but just the ones I know)

Be careful, he'll have your pants and bra off, before you even know what happened!
If you want to win the game, make sure you stay true to yourself and to what you want. Say what you mean...and be consistent. Don't tell him you would never date him, then the next minute, accept a date from him. That is inconsistent. He is testing you. Don't bend to his will, and don't be so willing to do what he asks...