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From: Denver, Colorado, United States
Registered: Oct 2008

posted October 29, 2008 06:29 PM         

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Hey Guys!

I need some advice in regards to a Pisces man and Leo female relationship.

I was with a Pisces man for two years. Due to family circumstances, my unfortunate controlling nature, and his need for space/"thinking time," our relationship quickly took a downward spiral.

It has now been eight months since the break-up. Frequently, we still hang out, and I personally feel there is flirtation (and have hooked up once... oops!) in the air. For example, when I am talking to another man he walks up and pretends to be punching or pinching me. When he is in the same room as me, he'll glance at me often. For weeks he will get close again; hanging out, watching movies, calling, and then he'll disappear for a month, until again I see him, and the cycle starts over. When I hear he's seeing another girl and say I'm happy for him, he defensively responds with, "She's not my girlfriend." Oh, and during our most recent “hang outs,” he brings up memories of the past… “Remember when we….” Not only that, neither of us have found another relationship since dating each other. Yes, it may be normal after truly devoting yourself to someone and it ending poorly, however, why do I feel like we continue to play games with one another? Why do I feel like we're competing to make each other jealous? Maybe my feelings are only one-sided.

At one point, I made the decision the Pisces man was not for me, however, especially lately, I realize my life is not the same without him (as corny as that sounds). My questions; A, does it seem (knowing a Pisces or dating one) that he still wants me or has feelings , and B, how do I win him back?

Anything will help. It's been on my mind quite a bit lately!

Thanks Ya'll.

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posted November 03, 2008 01:53 AM         

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Hi Welcome to LindaLand and Soul Unions. Great first post, I hope you get some responses. My personal opinion is that whatever real love was ever there is always there... but sometimes we fall in love with illusions and projections and not the real person so "love" seems to disappear. Whatever you shared that was real will always be there... it can just get covered up with painful memories.

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posted November 07, 2008 08:55 AM         

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Which came first, his need for space and time or your controlling nature?
I assume it's the latter you being a Leo and all!
It sounds like he still likes you.
The give away is the "Remember when we....

Have you told him you miss him in your life?
Why don't you do what you do best and control the situation?
Say "I miss you. Get back here now"

Yeah I know the Leo pride and all that but Pisceans are usually kind.
I think you may find he's just waiting for you to do just that.

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posted November 21, 2008 08:12 PM         

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Hi,

I am a Pisces male and I have some experience with Leo women. Since I have mars in Leo, most of the expereinces have been positive. I always feel a great deal of warmth coming from them and around them when I am with Leo women. I am an extremely sensitive person, too much so really, and sometimes they hurt my feelings ,but on the whole I like Leo women.
I had a very unusual experience with a Leo woman as a penpal.It started rather strangely but developed into a very beautiful friendship.It was all so strange and chaotic that I was prett overwhelmed by it. I was the first to make contact and was really way out of line doing so. I'm sure I came off as a crazy person and my letter really left no other option for interpretation. I had had dreams that I would encounter this person,but honestly it's not something you should act on because it really sounds crazy when someone approaches you like that. I should have known better.
Anyway, this Leo woman reacted very harshly and we fought a little,but actually became great friend. I really think my letters meant a lot to her and I was deeply touched that they did.
But I was a very wounded person at that time and had a childhood filled with dysfunction and a parent with terminal illness. SO I didnlt handle things well. I allowed myself to become too wrapped up in her and was obsessive. She was too I believe in a very different way.
It's all very sad to me now, because I don;t think there is anyway to mend the problems between us.
After I left the friendship I found she was doing something that really hurt me. I asked her to stop ,but she won't. I wish I could make her understand how much it hurts me. I'm not a perfect person either and I've made mistakes. I'm sorry for the things I did to hurt her. But eventually , two people that have the history we have have to part. She won't let go. I really don't know why. If only I could make her see how futile and damaging her behavior is. I feel a great deal of sympathy for her really. She must have a lot of pain in her past to act like this. I wish I could help her ,but I don't think I can. My pressence in her life has been both positive and negative I guess.
I can;t tell you how sad it all is. It's so rare in life that you find people who like the same thinsg you do and enjoy you and value your letters and ideas. I can honeslty say that no other person in my whole life wanted to be my friend as badly as this person. It almost makes me cry to think about it all. It's just become so crazt and surreal now and I don't know anyway to deal with it but to withdraw.
I really wish I had used better judgement and common semse regarding this whole thing. But what is done is done. I can never really explain myself adequtely or reddem myself from my mistakes.And she has much that she should not have done regarding me.
It was the strangest event of my life and I miss this person deeply,but her behavior prohibits any further contact. I'd give anything for it to have been different. Life just seems so brief to me and I guess I hate to say goodbye to people. My own losses from childhood seems so impossible and to meet people you like later on and then are forced to leave brings a sadenss that is unimaginable.Sorry to go on so much. Inever write anymore and probably never will again. My friend was the only person that ever inspired em to write and I learned to enjot it actually.
Whatever karma I have must be very harsh to ahev left me in this place. I only hope my friedn will find it in her heart to care enoug about me to let go. I feel bad for her too. I know her path has not been easy.For a brief time and in a very unusual way her path and mine merged for a while and ther are still some very beautiful memories that I will not forget.

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