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societymaid
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posted November 02, 2008 10:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for societymaid     Edit/Delete Message
I am really confused regarding my feelings for my co-worker at this point of time.I am happily married to another person and so is he. We met 3 years ago and I was instantly attracted but as I was married , I just ignored my feelings.

Since the last few days though I am unable to deal with it and am not even able to sleep. I feel I am a horrible person to even think these thoughts and its very unlike me , but I dont seem to have any control.

Is this just a passing phase and will I get back to normal asap? Pls help me deal with this.

My details

18 sep 1979
10:27 am
Mangalore, India

His details

7th July 1976
time unknown
Bangalore, India

Any revelation is very much appreciated..

Rgds

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alma_pisces
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posted November 05, 2008 06:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for alma_pisces     Edit/Delete Message
All I can say right now is that you are not the only one...

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Scorpionic Web
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posted November 05, 2008 07:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Scorpionic Web     Edit/Delete Message
I'm never getting married in this world. To me, marriage is a trap and divorce is shameful.

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bunnies
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posted November 06, 2008 11:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for bunnies     Edit/Delete Message
Well I don't think getting married presses the OFF button and renders us immune to being attracted to other people. So you shouldn't feel guilty.

But I have a little theory here.
Do you have children with your husband?
Because I think if you don't, the powerful forces you are feeling at your age (a mere 29) is Nature with a foot up your backside saying "Procreate"

Now if you do have children then this may not be the case. But if you don't, maybe the fact that you have been married for 3 years and have not had children is making you subconsciously seek out another partner.

This IS just a theory but I do feel we are motivated whether we like to admit it or not, by fundamental urges.

I will swear to this day, that it was my genes that married my first husband and just took me along for the ride!!

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LetsDance
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posted November 06, 2008 11:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LetsDance     Edit/Delete Message
bunnies, you are something else.

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bunnies
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posted November 07, 2008 04:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for bunnies     Edit/Delete Message
I blame my genetics!

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cancerrg
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posted November 07, 2008 09:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for cancerrg     Edit/Delete Message
i think it is pretty normal .
and it is pretty normal to feel guilty too .

but the point is , if you should feel guilty ?
go search for the reasons that made you feel so strongly for your colleague and then decide , if you should feel guilty or not ?
at the same time , sometimes there are no reasons . there are no reasons bcos marriage especially in a society where arranged marriage is professed , probablity of getting your soulmate is far lower .

your husband might be very loving but he might not be your soulmate , may be your collaegue is . who knows !

there sre no sure shot answers to the question except your gut feeling .
and i somewhat agree with what bunny said .
this is something , that we tend to hear from our parents and this is something that we most of time declare crap .
but that theory could be correct too .

btw , when did you get married ?

(over to chart experts ...)

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ArmyWife81
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posted November 07, 2008 01:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ArmyWife81     Edit/Delete Message
Well,unfortunately I'm in nearly he same situation,only with me it's my husband's FRIEND!!I too feel extremely guilty,like I shouldn't be looking at someone other than my husband in "that" way.I've actually discussed it with my hubby,because he could just tell something was bothering me(I was keeping my feelings for his friend hidden).Come to find out his friend is attracted to me as well.So the confusion begins...I LOVE my husband,but I really really like his friend and can't stop thinking of him no matter how I try.Bunnies,what you said about children resonated with me,because my hubby found out recently he is infertile.I'm 27 and keep thinking of hubby's friend in a way like "he would be a good father to my kids...I wanna have his kids". HELP!!!

Me...May 17,1981(Birmingham,AL) 7:11 AM
Hubby...May 10,1985 (Villa Rica,GA)1:12 AM
His Friend...Sept.16,1984 (Atlanta,GA)12:02 AM

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Taurus Sun/Scorpio Moon/Gemini Rising
(AKA..."MoonDreamer81")

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societymaid
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posted November 07, 2008 02:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for societymaid     Edit/Delete Message
Guess what I just found out..his wife's birthday is exactly the same as mine..18th Sep !!!

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good girl
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posted November 18, 2008 11:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for good girl     Edit/Delete Message
Are you familiar with astrology? I did your charts and noticed you are going through transits that have long term consequences, disrupting your security and love life.(uranus is currently opposing your saturn, neptune is opposing your moon, and pluto has begun a series of squaring your venus).Change is on its way whether you facilitate it or not. But since the aspects are challenging I would lay back and go with the flow. Around December 27-29 the moon and mars line up with pluto so about that time, if you pay attention to what is going on those days you will catch a glimpse of the bigger picture that will be unfolding in your life over the next months. Uranus hasn't yet opposed your sun yet, but its head that way soon enough, causing you to feel like breaking old ties and acting in a rash fashion. This on top of the pluto square your venus won't be good for your marriage unless you work, work, work at it. Find another outlet for these energies. But even then there will be change. (it just so happens I am also undergoing similar transits--and I see that I'm not behaving my usual way, but it's hard to not act out.) I could go on forever, so if you have any questions let me know.

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deuxantares
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posted November 18, 2008 12:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for deuxantares     Edit/Delete Message
Good Girl & SocietyMaid


WELCOME TO LL!

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MysticMelody
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posted November 18, 2008 12:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MysticMelody     Edit/Delete Message
yes duex Society maid and Good girl, welcome to Soul Unions and LindaLand

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societymaid
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posted November 19, 2008 03:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for societymaid     Edit/Delete Message
Thank you all...I am new here..but already feel part of a big and loving family

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societymaid
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posted November 19, 2008 03:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for societymaid     Edit/Delete Message
thanks good girl, for your time to go through my chart. I am learning abt astrology and do understnad some bits and pieces.

You are bang on...there are lots of changes happening- all over which I have no control at all. My husband's job requires him to move to another country for 2 years, and I'll have to leave my job and travel with him. It a relocation and I am dreading leaving my family and friends behind..not to mention the job I love..

Its all happening too soon for my liking and something new is happening everyday .

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LetsDance
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posted November 19, 2008 12:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LetsDance     Edit/Delete Message
Yes, welcome societymaid and good girl.

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