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MelissaAR
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From: Crestwood, KY USA
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posted September 04, 2005 12:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MelissaAR     Edit/Delete Message
It was love, or was it lust-at first sight for both of us. But it seems the stars, and circumstances, are against us. Should I continue to fight for this guy who is so gorgeous he makes my head spin, but who is 9 years younger than me and in a loveless marriage? Not to mention that he lives in Wisconsin and I live in Kentucky, although he is trying to get a job here. I can't believe I have even gotten involved because my own 14 marriage failed because of faithlessness, but years ago, I asked God to send me a man who would know me on sight as I would know him on sight, and you know what, it seemed to happen!! We were both snookered!! According to everything I have read in astrology-though-we are doomed! He is an Aries and I am a cancer. Can this relationship work????

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Randall
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posted September 04, 2005 07:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message
Welcome!

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Pop Producer
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posted October 11, 2005 09:49 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Pop Producer     Edit/Delete Message
Welcome

You are not doomed, only that Aries and Cancer like to be in command. In order to make it work you will have to know when to let the other one take control...

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AcousticGod
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posted October 11, 2005 05:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
I strongly recommend dropping it/him. Sorry.

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MelissaAR
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From: Crestwood, KY USA
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posted October 11, 2005 05:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MelissaAR     Edit/Delete Message
To Acoustic God

Why???? do you say that? I'm looking for advice here, but need instruction as to why you say drop him.

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AcousticGod
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posted October 12, 2005 01:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
He's married.

He's 9 years younger than you.

He lives in another state.

He's an Aries.

You are a Cancer.

Both Cancer and Aries love their families. Both want to and do lead the family. The Aries leads through bullying and attempting to inspire through acts he considers to be acts of heroism. The Cancer leads through nurturing and emotional manipulation. Both signs are loyal and devout, and will spare nothing in defending their families.

Both signs know how to make money, and have goals with regard to money. Aries energy and drive keep them employed. Cancerians relationship skills and intellect keep them employed. With a Cancer the focus for money will always be family and security. For an Aries, the focus for money will be toys and selfishness (and by selfishness I mean that they will use the money to start a business, make a business speculation/gamble, whatever is unproven, but could conceivably work they will throw money into). You will likely want to try to control the Aries spending habits, and that will lead to tension, resentment, and possibly competition to see who's right in their thinking. God forbid you find yourself with a gloating Aries.

Both Aries and Cancer are very proud and stubborn. You both have plenty of suggestions for how the other should live, but neither of you are particularly receptive to the others thoughts.

I'm starting to think that Cardinal signs amongst one another have a difficult time just being friends. We're great at being lovers for one another, but there tends not to be a deep rapport amongst Cardinal signs for whatever reason. As I think about it now I can't think of a single great friend I've had who is also a Cardinal sign like myself. MY best friends have been Fixed or Mutable. I think a long term relationship without that real friendship is ultimately going to be impossible.

So, in summary, I believe your relationship is a matter of attraction, but not depth, and once you encounter each others true nature you're really going to have trouble.

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I know Cancer and Aries really well. I've dated mostly Cancers, and I have more Aries in my life than I could ever know what to do with.

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AcousticGod
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posted October 12, 2005 01:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
Oh, and he's married, and involved with you. That should almost be reason enough in itself.

My current boss admitted that he too cheated on his first wife. Now he's in a long term marriage of over 20 years, but I have a substantial suspicion that he's got a woman on the side as well. He's even said as much in jest, which I suspect wasn't truly jest as he presented it.

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MelissaAR
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posted October 12, 2005 04:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MelissaAR     Edit/Delete Message
Thank you; although against the relationship, that is exactly the kind of advice I am looking for. A lot of it seems to hit the money too.

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sue g
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posted October 12, 2005 04:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
Hey AG

Whats with the 9 years younger than her.....do you dissaprove of older women and younger men then?????

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AcousticGod
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posted October 12, 2005 04:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
Oh, I'm surprised to reread my post and notice I didn't say that my boss is an Aries. Would make more sense that way.

I'm glad it hit home for you. Right now there's a Cancer in my life who's dating an Aries, though she not-so-secretly likes me. She recently felt guilty telling me that she's started dating the Aries again, but I've told her that there's no telling whether or not they will work out, and there's also no telling whether her and I would work out (so she really shouldn't worry too much about it).

I love Cancers, and I fall for them fast. Unfortunately they never seem to work out in the end. I'm a Capricorn, so I'm the opposite of Cancer. We're supposed to be attracted to one another. I think the problem is in power struggles, and the inability to really be friends (and not just lovers). Now I'm hoping that maybe an alternate water sign would be good.

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AcousticGod
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posted October 12, 2005 05:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
Hey Sue! Nice to see you here.

No, I pointed out that he's 9 years younger simply because she did. I think her subconscious is sending her a message through her own writing. I don't think she'd have mentioned it if it didn't mean something to her. I wrote down all the reasons that she wrote, because I think she wrote them for a reason. The only one of her reasons I elaborated on was the sign combination, though, because I know a lot about Cancers and Aries.

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MelissaAR
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From: Crestwood, KY USA
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posted October 12, 2005 08:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MelissaAR     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks Sue G for being my champion, and Acoustic God for your new response. I am a novice in this astrology world but am fascinated by it and by Linda Goodman most of all. I have 3 of her books.

AG, maybe you are right about the 9 year difference thing, I didnt think it was an issue, but maybe it is. I generally date younger men, and coincidentally, I had a 2 year relationship with a Capricorn. Frankly, in many ways he was one of the best loves of my life, if not the best. It ended when he was transferred to Atlanta and it just petered out due to inactivity. But overall, I think it was an excellent relationship and had very very few problems. I would be thrilled to have another relationship with a Capricorn because of it.

But anyway, he was 7 years younger than me and it was never an issue. Maybe I am subconsciously thinking that 9 years is just pushing it a bit. I am 45 years old, after all, though I look younger and he looks older and we seem about the same age. Maybe I am worried about what will happen when age does catch up with me.

I think I should probably be with a Scorpio, for one, but I did date a Scorpio several years back and he got on my nerves after only a couple of weeks. Maybe I just like the challenge of the fire signs (my ex husband is a Leo!).

Thanks again and always for your advice.

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Girl of the Water
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posted March 23, 2006 05:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Girl of the Water     Edit/Delete Message
Well, Cancer and Aries usually get along at first but they butt heads later on and can't stand each other in the end... that's what most horoscope/compatiblity sites will tell you. But you also need to take into account yours and his moon, mercury, mars and especially venus signs, and it wouldn't hurt to find your numerology numbers as well. Just because your sun signs don't match up well doesn't mean you can't be together. Astrology is a deep study and sun signs are only the very surface of it.

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