posted January 03, 2009 09:10 AM         

But there is an old saying
"Passion and reason cannot co-exist"

True for women. We can't compartmentalise like men. They can go to work, forget about you until they have a space in their brain TO think about you!
Unlike women where everything gets shoved out of our brain lobes to make way for.....HIM...
Relax. It's the way we are wired. Even the most hard nosed female will drift off when in love.
I once asked a friend of mine who was suffering untold agonies over a broken romance
"If I could offer you a pill that would stop this pain and make you forget any feelings you had for him would you take it?

posted January 03, 2009 11:07 PM         

Besides the pain is good, its a by product of inner alchemy at its most productive stage, really who does not want there soul refined and there frequency tuned and raised, but thats getting off the subject. Anyway if they do leave, more than likely you will be better off without them.(and then you find that the Universe has been trying to get you to see that all along) But in any case you didn't incarnate on this Earth to "please" another soul Kaira. Your Soul is way more precious than that, and so is your energy.
You need only to realize that, to know how absurd it is that you would even try to "please" another Soul in a soulmate connection. Who you are should please them, and if it doesn't then so be it. Trust me there is someone who will, until then walk your lifepath and continue to perfect yourself and your connection to Heaven and Earth and the conductions of those energies however they manifest in you.

But bunnies is right. Age does play a factor. Even though it makes me wince to say this sometimes wisdom does come with age. I hesitate to say that because I have found that many young ones incarnating at this time are much wiser as they carry over many of there South Node traits and memories without a second thought (IE: Indigo Children) and therefore I see no reason why you couldn't be better at balancing out your energy level in your relationships, awareness has no age.
How old are you by the way? lol

posted January 04, 2009 12:58 AM         

Ok. Two things come to mind.

One:
Be with someone who doesn't hold back on what they do in life. As long as they're not counting on your service to help them along the way, you'll be able to go your separate ways when it comes to stuff you both want/need to do individually.

Two:
Go for someone you're less passionate about. It sounds bad I know, but it's pretty sound logic. Part of your desire to please your partner is because you're simply too into them. You don't want to experience rejection, and you want them to love you as much as you love them, so you cling to pleasing them fearing that if you do otherwise you might harm your relationship.

If you're with someone you feel more friendly to rather than passionate about, you'll feel more comfortable doing what you need to do. Part of what the more friendly relationship will offer you is an easier means of communicating. For some reason communication between passionate lovers gets muddled easily. There's lots of potential for hurt feelings and misunderstandings. When you're slightly less vested, the communication has less passionate overtones, and it's easier to communicate effectively.

posted January 04, 2009 05:08 AM         

Oh but so what?
I'd prefer to be that way than worried about mortgage payments, council tax, my latest gas bill (which is equivalent to the national debt of a small Balkan state)the plunging UK economy, the horsetail cracking my driveway.....Zzzzzzzzz....

posted January 04, 2009 01:08 PM         

I think its like we were so full of love, and we wanted so badly to love someone, and it kept getting trashed and trashed and yet we kept giving it like little robots, only to have it trashed again only to give it.....one more pitiful time.....and what do you get...well in my case trashed again! lol But its cool because then I decided I better figure out whats going on here. Whats wrong with this picture, and that forced me to wrap my mind around something higher, and higher, to deal with each successive layer of karma.
You know I think that we had be hurt, so that we would look into ourselves and refine ourselves, vibrate at higher frequencies, in which we only attracted more intense relationships, but as we moved through each dimension of reality, we certainly never looked back. At least I didn't.
...maybe thats why I don't miss that "Crazy In Love" part. In fact I remember in the last 5 years, when I was in the initial stages of relationships, I remember thinking, "When can we get to the good part", yet the good part never really came, only the trashed part, lol. But Soul growth did. And I held on to the Spiritual side until, last time, I just never let go of the Spiritual, I feel like I no longer need, the physical love, its nice but its not necessary anymore.
Its necessary for me to do what I came here to do.
My Divinely chosen path.
The rest will fall in place.
I feel like the reward will be great though in the end, no matter what this Universe has in store for my life path and I guess thats why I don't look back.
I am nothing, defined by nothing. I am not my soul connections, I am not my material possessions, I am not my opinions, I am merely Carbon, Hydrogen, Nitrogen, and Oxygen.

When you look at it that way, you don't miss love because you are love. You are the love that you feel for yourself. Love is a one way street....

posted January 06, 2009 10:01 AM         

Bunnies:
Isn't that the truth.
Self realization is one of the most beautiful energies on this planet. (when its not working on your) lol