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Topic: My Dilemma
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nathou20 Knowflake Posts: 11 From: fort lauderdale fl Registered: Nov 2008
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posted April 02, 2009 02:06 PM
My First love came back after years I recently got reunited with my first love. We know each other since middle school. Called it destiny I searched for this man for 4 years. And last week, after signed up on some online site and his pictures were there on my face. I was so happy, I cried the whole night. But anyways, like I said, years later here we are; me with a daughter and he is married and has a son. I spoke to him last night, he's more mess up than I am. I taught I was crazy for holding on to his memory for so long. I think he was probably drunk, he still remembered every little details of stuff we went through .He told me that I probably put some curse on him because he can't ever be happy. He told me he searched for me for 3 years, even did a background check on me & kept called my old jobs. I am so confusing. I don’t think we can’t be together, but I want us to be able to move on. I am in great relationship right now, but from what he told me he sound bitter. We talked about how we had loved each other, felt so much passion. He told me how heartbroken he was when I went off to college.... I often think about him and the purity of our love. But the closeness I felt to him last night over the phone was more than I feel today for my current BF. By the way he is a Taurus and I am a scorp.He lives in NY and I am in Florida. My current relationship is the most stable ever, wonderful guy very support and loving. But not so intense feeling as the one that I am feeling for this guy. Last night it was like all the feelings came back. I was short of breath thru that phone call. We talked the whole night. He said now that he found me he will never let go of me. He is on my mind all the time; I am worry about his well being. Any advise any one? What should I do IP: Logged |
nattie33 Knowflake Posts: 842 From: USA Registered: Aug 2005
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posted April 02, 2009 05:00 PM
Sounds like a soulmate/twinflame connection. There's a lot about it here on this forum. here's another link also http://indigolifecenter.wordpress.com/2008/02/19/twin-flames-sacred-sexuality/ IP: Logged |
MysticMelody Moderator Posts: 5288 From: Registered: Dec 2005
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posted April 02, 2009 05:01 PM
What if you both told your partners the truth now that you have told each other the truth. Maybe you'll remember why you became intimate with your partners in the first place or you'll break the final straw that was holding you together and you can move on. Just be prepared for the possible result that your partner will leave you, and he and his partner will get even closer from the situation. Say your prayers and participate in an honest life. Be kind and love with all of your heart when you say goodbye to make sure it is genuine and not just a passing impulse. God bless.
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ListensToTrees Knowflake Posts: 6063 From: UK Registered: Jul 2005
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posted April 02, 2009 05:14 PM
MM's advice is very good....I am a strong believer in honesty. It can be incredibly difficult at first, as words are limited and easily misunderstood. Sometimes we can't always get people to understand how we really feel and what we really mean. They are suspicious of our sincerity; life in general has made them cynical. I know how hurtful this can be as I have had so much stuff to work through with my boy's father.Anyway, enough about my problems- I just wanted to help you to feel that you are not alone. So many people I know are going through similar things right now. It is so incredibly painful. But there are ways to work through it, I know it does take time. Please be strong. If you need someone to chat to then I'm here. I can give you my email if you wish. The way I see it, with the lessons I've been learning- is ultimately humans can find a great strength when they find a way to be happy with themselves, ready to appreciate companionship without needing it too desperately. I'm working on this myself. There are some interesting threads here which may be of some help/ comfort. Peace.
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nathou20 Knowflake Posts: 11 From: fort lauderdale fl Registered: Nov 2008
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posted April 02, 2009 07:25 PM
Thanks for all for the repliesMy thing is I totally cannot continue like that. I am in turmoil, I am tried to move on but he is not helping. He said he wants to get a divorce so we can be together. He said he even Google me right before he got married. He got married for his son. He was raised without a father figure. He went to the court and got married because he did want to do a big wedding thing unless it’s with “the woman of his life“. And that in his heart he knows that I am the love of his life and that we will be together. (Like what do one say after that , I was speechless, I beyond confused LI told him that my current boyfriend talk about having a family , I almost got engaged last year and my excuse was I am too focus on my career but I know deep inside I was not ready for that step. He is such a good man I don’t want to marry him unless I am ready to give him all of me. It will not be fair for him when he could find someone that loves him. I don't think I can be this guy friend; it's going to mess up his marriage. I told him we are too late for each other and that we will always have special place on our heart that he need to work on being happy/comfortable with his family. It’s awful to build happiness on others misery. He said that I should not make the mistake that he made, that being comfortable make you depressed. I don’t know what do. He said he is 40% happy and I think that’s comfortable enough. I should separate myself from him completely. My best friend said we both living in the past because people do move on J. We can’t seem to get closure …L I feel like I am in too relationship. One Is long distance…it just painful ::::::::L IP: Logged |
Mama Mia Knowflake Posts: 3099 From: Registered: Jun 2005
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posted April 03, 2009 09:48 AM
Keep in mind Venus is in Retro right now, I would just be still until it goes back, then you will be able to see more clearly whats really going on here..IP: Logged |
nathou20 Knowflake Posts: 11 From: fort lauderdale fl Registered: Nov 2008
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posted April 03, 2009 01:12 PM
Is that what it means? I'm not sure how this works, could someone please enlighten me?.. This guy from NY is a taurus with HIS VENUS IN ARIES, who out of nowhere waltzed back into my life (any feedback on that would be great too)...
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katatonic Knowflake Posts: 1499 From: ca, usa Registered: Jan 2008
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posted April 03, 2009 02:17 PM
this guy got married for his son. so what happens to the son when he gets divorced? do you want that on your head/karma/whatever you call it?? be careful and maybe wait till venus comes back forward, you may have found by then that there are other reasons to be apart...or NOT!!IP: Logged |
nathou20 Knowflake Posts: 11 From: fort lauderdale fl Registered: Nov 2008
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posted April 03, 2009 06:45 PM
Yeah that what's he claimed he had to do. He is Bull, just like us scorp Stubborn, nobody tell us what do unless we want to do in the first... Now He has given some stories, :-) We'll see. I am in no rush .. If it meant to be it will.. IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask Knowflake Posts: 3472 From: Florida for now Registered: Sep 2008
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posted April 04, 2009 02:45 PM
Yeah, Venus Rx would bring back the exes for sure from what I'm seeing! Another thing is that often, I've found, when we're in a relationship which is stable and good, sometimes someone from the past comes in to rock the boat. Maybe it's a test. I also think sometimes that exes who we were close to have alarm bells...can feel our souls receding from our lives....and they try to grasp and make us stay, when it's time to let go, and release, and forgive. I sounds to me like he needs closure, and release. I've been on the receiving end of such phone calls and I've also made them. Obviously he's the only one that is responsible for his own closure, but maybe he just needed to voice certain things before you both move on.....IP: Logged |
nathou20 Knowflake Posts: 11 From: fort lauderdale fl Registered: Nov 2008
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posted April 04, 2009 04:38 PM
He def need closure, like today when I spoke to him, he told he kept a card that I gave him when I was 15. I told he was lying. So He sends me a picture of it. I gave him that valentine card with lipsticks were all over it. He read it; He still kept it oh my god that made my day. I am so hopeless . Help me somebody, anybody pleaaaaaaaaseIP: Logged |
LetsDance Knowflake Posts: 344 From: Where there's dancing... Registered: Mar 2006
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posted April 13, 2009 08:48 PM
"And last week, after signed up on some online site and his pictures were there on my face"what kind of online site? IP: Logged |
nathou20 Knowflake Posts: 11 From: fort lauderdale fl Registered: Nov 2008
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posted April 14, 2009 06:56 PM
HI5.com similar to myspace/facebook.. but more classic NO DRAMA IP: Logged |