posted June 09, 2009 04:18 AM         

What made that switch (even if its gradual), and did you find the change very intriguing, because you cannot understand it?

posted June 09, 2009 08:34 AM         

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Then one day it just changed; I saw him in a new light. I think somewhere in mid air there was a fireworks of realisation. Epiphany, if you must. The sexual attraction came very very much later. If you'd ask me if I would even want anything physical then and there, I would have puked right on the floor.

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posted June 09, 2009 08:36 AM         

Anyhow he pursued me for months and I would say "Leave me alone I find you repulsive"
I could say this because he was extremely pushy, I found him obnoxious and it just bounced off him.
He once turned up at my house and I shut the door on him because truth be told I couldn't bear his face!
Truly his face made me sick!

All I can say in my defence is that copious amounts of alcohol were involved one night.
I woke up the next day horror struck...horror struck.
I slid beneath my sheets going "Oh God what have I done?
He had left by then. Mortification was immense and I contemplated a nunnery or AA.

When he rang the next day chirruping merrily I told him most sternly
"This will never happen again"
He laughed.
I refused to see him for 2 weeks and then one day as I was brushing my teeth I looked at myself in the mirror and said out loud and most unexpectedly
"I'm in love with him"
Well dear reader......I married him.
We were obssessed with each other for seven tumultous years and he left a permanent dent in me.

I know!!! I haven't a clue either!

posted June 09, 2009 08:41 AM         

My then-boyfriend was not too much of a social type and he was happy for me to go along to parties with him.

We would talk and laugh all night and I never thought anything of it for a while until this one time about a year into the friendship that he wasn't able to come to a party and I missed him so much. But it wasn't anything more than "Where is my kind friend? I feel much more secure and at ease when he is here".

At another party six months after that he got blind drunk and took his hat off his head and put it on mine and said "Not that this will make you any more beautiful as it's not possible" and so I stewed on that one for another six months, had some dreams about him where we were going at it like crazed animals, and I felt very very guilty about it. But you can't stop dreams from happening and they just kept happening. Then, and only then, did I find him attractive physically. Even though he's a handsome man, I think what you said about it being a spiritual connection first rings true for me (as it has with all my other relationships actually). Friends first.

At yet another party (my own Halloween party) he knew I was coming dressed as the Wicked Witch of the West (with ruby slippers) and he came dressed as the Witchfinder General in a big monks robe etc and was chasing me around the house, persecuting me and shouting "Burn her!" etc. We had a right laugh and at one point we were crying because we were laughing so hard. It was brilliant. And then at the end we hugged each other and it lasted a beat too long.

Couldn't get him out of my mind after that. And whenever we saw each other we were just really shy. I remember this one particular conversation which went "Hi! How are you?" and then he said "Yes fine, how are you?" and I said "I'm really well, how are you?" and he said "Still fine, how are you?!" Excrutiating.

I split up with my then-boyfriend and he left it a month before he started visiting me, but we both knew what he was there for. Certainly the best thing ever to happen to me, as the build up was so long and the outcome so wished-for.

posted June 09, 2009 08:52 AM         

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"You are a singularly unattractive man, go away"

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posted June 09, 2009 11:11 AM         

So here we have it.

My best friend was very ill for a few years before he died. He had chirrossis (sp?) anyway, he knew he was gonna die, but as many do, refused to stop drinking. So his wife decided since she had to work and keep up with the house an stuff, to appoint my friend a "babysitter."
I am at work one day, bartending, and in walks my friend with this guy that literally looked like he just ate a mouth full of cactus. (turns out he's a scorp, take that as you will) anyway, my friend introduces us, and I mean it was palpable dislike. And not the sexual tension kind, just the "I can't stand him" kind.

posted June 09, 2009 11:31 AM         

Wheels of Cheese - I can imagine the scenario of the witch and witchfinder. It def. sounds like he was subtly pursuing you. I know that feeling - my guy did something like that on me too.

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I remember this one particular conversation which went "Hi! How are you?" and then he said "Yes fine, how are you?" and I said "I'm really well, how are you?" and he said "Still fine, how are you?!" Excrutiating.

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This sounds very scorpionic for some reason. I had a similar sort of convo with a scorpion.

You don't want to hear my story, cheese. It didn't have a good ending. hahaha. I was just really wishing to ge back the friendship I had with that guy (rewind it and erase). It's no fun breaking something precious towards another direction that got messed up. Just wish nothing ever happened between me and him. I was pretty sure something triggered it, and I allowed it. Shouldn't have. Darn

posted June 09, 2009 12:32 PM         

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He still looks like he eats cacti for breakfast

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posted July 09, 2009 10:17 PM         

(Fleurelis) 'I was just really wishing to ge back the friendship I had with that guy (rewind it and erase).'