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Topic: Mr. Fun versus Mr. Serious ?
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aqumoon
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posted June 13, 2009 04:38 AM
 
Have been getting close with this guy (let's call him Mr. Fun) for the past 2 months. It's been nice, but I am really not sure where it's heading...? At the same time, there is another guy (let's call him Mr. Serious). He appears to be more of the "wanting to settle down" type. But somehow, I just don't find it as fun chatting with him... Help! Below are the synastry charts (me on the outside). Me & Mr. Fun:  Me & Mr. Serious:  * I don't have Mr. Serious' birth time, so please ignore the house positions for the 2nd chart.
Would really appreciate any comments and thoughts from you all!
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Virgovenusleo
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posted June 13, 2009 07:44 AM
No wonder you have fun with mr fun you have venus conjunct mars double wammys and his neptune hits your vertex..IP: Logged |
Virgovenusleo
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posted June 13, 2009 07:46 AM
mr fun and you got alot of attraction indicators you and mr seriuos dont seem to have too muchIP: Logged |
aqumoon
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posted June 13, 2009 08:46 AM
Thanks so much Virgovenusleo! This is exactly how I feel.The thing is, Mr. Fun doesn't seem to want to get serious... Sure, we are having fun for now, but I don't know how long this can last? I am really looking at settling down, and don't want to waste time on relationships that lead to no where... Is that going to be the case with Mr. Fun? IP: Logged |
Virgovenusleo
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posted June 13, 2009 09:22 AM
his nepetune is conjuncting your vertex does this feel fated with mr fun? and theres a nothernode conjunct saturn going on this could be long term or for some odd reason not get off the ground in the first place but imma be an optimist and say it will be long term. OHHH and i just noticed one of the venus mars conjunctions is in the 12th past life connections i see.IP: Logged |
aqumoon
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posted June 13, 2009 11:56 AM
With Mr. Fun, to be honest in the beginning I did not see it coming at all...For one thing, he's 5 years younger than me, which is something I normally wouldn't consider. But after we started chatting, we just can't stop since then! At some level, it feels like we are two of a kind.
From time to time, we'd have little fights, and he kept on surprising me by still hanging around the next day... The biggest issue I see is his unwillingness to settle down... I don't know, could it be his own problem? Is there anything in his personal chart that points to this trait?
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Azalaksh
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posted June 13, 2009 12:07 PM
His Saturn on your NN and squaring your Moon could be a challenge.....
Are YOU ready to settle down??
In general, I would be more likely to pick someone that I can talk to. What's left when the passion wanes is what's most important to me -- I want a best friend that I can always feel free to express my feelings with.....
I don't find age gaps a problem. Don't let society's stupid mores on the issue restrict you!! As long as you are emotionally similar, who cares how old he is??  IP: Logged |
aqumoon
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posted June 13, 2009 12:41 PM
Thanks Azalaksh!Can't agree more - someone I feel emotionally in tuned with and can talk to easily is what I want most. Haha - actually, I am the one on the outside. So I guess you meant to say "is HE ready to settle down?" Ah, so it is true then, he's not ready...?
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Azalaksh
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posted June 13, 2009 12:51 PM
Oops, I should have noted the Pluto (and Moon) positions 
No, regardless of astrology I still meant, are YOU ready to settle down??
Are you looking to make a decision *right now* about the person you want to spend the rest of your life with??
Were I you, I might date both thru the rest of this year, get to know them both much better, and see how you feel in 2010  IP: Logged |
Virgovenusleo
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posted June 13, 2009 01:58 PM
Yeah I knwo how you feel. I was like that with someone it was amazing.. We would talk and text alll day ...IP: Logged |
aqumoon
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posted June 13, 2009 10:38 PM
Haha... Azalaksh, you are right, tieing myself down to one person for the rest of my life is scary! I guess I am more or less being pushed into wanting this b/c of traditional society views (I am turning 33, so parents nagging me to get married...). You mentioned that his NN on my Saturn squaring his Moon can be a challenge. What kind of issues would we need to overcome with this influence?
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aqumoon
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posted June 13, 2009 10:51 PM
Virgovenusleo:For me, it's almost like it "feels better" after talking to him that day... And I think it's the same for him as well? He once told me that we've got so much more to talk about compared to the other girls he knows, so I guess that's a good thing? Sometimes when he's in the mood, he can be very sweet and romantic, while sometimes he jokes around talking non-sense which annoys me a bit (I think it's b/c he's busy so didn't have time to come up with creative things to say, but still wanted to chat to me). In fact, I rather that he just be himself - just a simple "hi" and "how was ur day" from him does the trick already...
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aqumoon
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posted December 07, 2009 07:25 AM
In the end, I've dated Mr. Fun for 3 months, before he agreed to give it a try (a serious relantionship with me). That "trial" lasted 21 days. I was very insecure the whole time, and he ended up dumping me with a txt msg... It's been 3 months now after the breakup, and still I am struggling to get over him (while I think he's moved on to dating other girls already). This experience really frustrates me... That someone who seemed so "fated" with the perfect synastry, can also turn out to be a failed relationship :-( IP: Logged |
wheels of cheese
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posted December 07, 2009 08:34 AM
Ahhh, nuts. I'm sorry to hear that. It seems like your instincts about him were bang on the money though. I really really don't like that he decided to tell you by text. That is major a-hole behaviour in my book, and I don't care how old he is. That is disrespectful crap, and do you really want to dwell on someone who is that insensitive? You've spent 16 weeks with this person and deserve better. I know it's hard, but try to keep really busy doing things for yourself. And try to chill about what society/family expects from you, your feelings are what counts. One day you will meet someone mature who doesn't behave as badly as this. Try to be patient. It sounds like you may be paying too much attention to some sort of ticking clock which could be making you feel you have to rush things and *may* freak the other person out a bit. I do understand that pressure, believe me. IP: Logged |
aqumoon
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posted December 07, 2009 09:01 AM
Thanks wheels of cheese =)Yeah, I am 33 and he's 28, so... The break up incident involves him going to this show with his friends, and then joining them for an after party. I was mad b/c he was telling me how he may not be able to spend time with me on the weekend (and yet he has all this time to hang out with his friends, including this girl who I thot has a crush on him). So when I sent him a txt to confront him about it, he sent back a txt to break it off... I regreted making a fuss about it soon after... And yet, my response at that very moment was real - I was unhappy in that relationship - very insecure and did not have the time together and attention I wanted... Painful - to know that someone u care about so much doesn't give a damn about u :-( He says he wants to stay friends, and sends me these "how r u" messages on msn, and asks for my advice for his new business (I was involved in helping him with coming up with the biz idea and the initial setup). The more I speak to him, the more I am not sure I am okay with it... I came to realize that the only reason that I have not deleted/blocked him on msn is perhaps some wishful thinking he might want me back... Sigh... Really, enuf is enuf... when loving someone leaves u with such a bruised ego, it's just too much! I just wonder though, since our synastry seemed so "right" to begin with...
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MysticMelody
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posted December 07, 2009 11:40 PM
Someone suggested this psychologist/astrologer guy in another thread and I was intrigued and had to check out his site. I went to this article (below) and after reading what your final post says about fated synastry I immediately thought of what I just finished reading. So, here is the link if you are willing to read the article. ♥ http://www.aaperry.com/index.asp?pgid=80 IP: Logged |
Cybele
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posted December 08, 2009 07:16 AM
Hey, I'm new to this forum... just read that article Mystic Melody, it resonated with me very much so and I found it very insightful! thanks so much for posting the link http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/icons/icon1.gif IP: Logged |
MysticMelody
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posted December 08, 2009 09:49 PM
I'm really glad, Cybele!  I love it when I find great links here thanks to others... and when someone else finds something worthy that I helped pass on, well, that is what LindaLand is all about to me. Welcome to Soul Unions and LindaLand.  IP: Logged |
aqumoon
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posted December 11, 2009 10:00 AM
Thanks so much Mystic Melody!Reading the article helped with easing my going around in circles, and over analyzing why it didn't work out. It's not because "he wasn't that into me", or "we are not compatible", it's simply because the efforts we invested to make the relationship work wasn't enuf! Especially on his part - it always felt like he had a wall around him... not sure if it was because he was going thru a major career change..? Or his approaching his Saturn return...? Anyways, it doesn't matter anymore - time for me to move on~ I am sure in the near future, I will meet someone who is willing to invest the effort to make things work - just as much as I do. =) Thanks again for sharing with me =)
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Nine
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posted December 11, 2009 12:47 PM
Charts?If you have to invest too much effort at the beginning of a relationship chances are you'll burn out before the going gets good. Having some experience with Synastry I can assure that the relationship most likely had a short life span. Most likely progressed moon-pSun matchup. IP: Logged |
aqumoon
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posted December 11, 2009 12:58 PM
Thanks Nine.You referring my synastry chart with Mr. Fun? If yes, wow that's an insight I haven't heard before... Though it's all water under the bridge by now, I had always thot my synastry with Mr. Fun was bloody good! Not true? IP: Logged |
aqumoon
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posted December 11, 2009 01:01 PM
progressed sun-moon matchup - as in the progressed composite chart?IP: Logged |
Diana
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posted December 11, 2009 10:25 PM
>>>>asks for my advice for his new business (I was involved in helping him with coming up with the biz idea and the initial setup). >>>>>
If you decide you want revenge you could probably sue him for earnings from the business since it was your idea and you help him set it up. I'm not a lawyer, so take with a grain of salt, but I've heard of similiar cases.
Also, keep in mind that if you want revenge you should dig two graves.
I'm not saying you *should* sue him, it's just funny you may be able to! You may be able to turn him into "mr. serious" afterall. hehe
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MysticMelody
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posted December 11, 2009 10:27 PM
aqumoon, you have such a positive and wonderful attitude! I had to skim through the article again to remember why I posted it. It IS a good article, isn't it? Wonderful luck and love to you!
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Nine
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posted December 12, 2009 09:29 PM
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progressed sun-moon matchup - as in the progressed composite chart?
Person A's pMoon conjunct Person B's nSun/pSun, or vice versa. And since the Moon is the fastest moving object, and by correspondence, the pMoon. These connections are often short lived. Natal to Natal synastry shows potential of a relationship. Progressed synastry shows the when/why and how long of the matchup. IP: Logged |
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