posted July 08, 2009 11:55 AM         

Have started dating a scorpio (16/11/83) whom i've known for a year. I'm Saggie (26/11/83) We got together last week cause we always liked each other and things happened fast. So going well, spending time together. I got ill and he was very caring.

So then I was surprised to discover he was in Prague! He left for a week without telling me, I only found out through inviting him out to something.

As a saggie, I hate lying or deceit. Why the hell didn't he think to tell me? One text is all it would have taken. He's gone alone to Prague which makes me think he might be cheating.My intuition is telling me its not good. There he is telling me we are boyfriend and girlfriend and he loves being with me etc.

I don't believe any of it.

posted July 08, 2009 01:26 PM         

I told her I wanted to see her more than once a week because I feel like we have no chance to make the relationship grow and that it all feels rather inert. I said I felt like I was only a casual fling for her. So she broke up with me yesterday, saying she just doesn't have time for me or a relationship.

I think it's all a bunch of lies, but in the end I will never know if she was cheating.

You probably won't ever know if your boyfriend is cheating, either.

Finding trust is nearly impossible for me, and until that unlikely moment occurs, I generally expect women to lie and cheat.

posted July 08, 2009 03:16 PM         

He could be cheating (that's always a possibility) or he could just be taking some time. I can almost guarantee you that when/if you do ask why he didn't tell you, he'll say you didn't ask. Technically speaking, he didn't lie or deceive you. He just didn't say anything.

Even though you've known each other a year (were you friends during this year or just acquaintances?), you've only been seeing each other a week. Give it some more time. He may not be at the stage where he wants to share everything yet.

posted July 08, 2009 03:44 PM         

My Chiron is in Taurus in the 10th, it opposes my Venus by fewer than 3 degrees and my Sun/Jupiter by about 5 degrees.

posted July 08, 2009 05:47 PM         

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"...if we see Moon/Pluto at the IC we can be sure that there lies an unresolved fear of being swallowed, or betrayed or abandoned be the person we need the most"

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I'm not sure if this is the solution but here it is... When you see your partner as the person you need the most, you are not able to live without that fear. Would it work if you designate yourself as the person you need the most? It sounds cliche but true: we are whole, we do not need another person to complete us.

If we expect too much from our partner, if we give them the responsibility of making us happy, if we need them too much, we set ourselves up for heartache and more disappointments. Putting them in this role is giving them too much power over us, which is never a good thing.

posted July 08, 2009 08:57 PM         

No, you don't "sound preachy", but your comments are truly spoken like someone without such a natal aspect as mine...

...See, now I don't mean to sound preachy, but I'm always surprised at the lack of relativism on this website, which is rather ironic for a site dedicated to the study of myriad human personalities. I consider Relativism to be astrology's greatest lesson.

It is my intense need for another person that fulfills my chart (my Self) and makes me who I am; a whole, singular being!!

posted July 08, 2009 10:15 PM         

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Would it work if you designate yourself as the person you need the most?

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posted July 08, 2009 11:02 PM         

I'm going to continue this on another thread. I have a question to ask of the Scorpio men myself. Let me just say though, I'm glad someone else is on the same page. My Chiron is in Taurus, 7th house, opposing Sun/Venus/Jupiter/Uranus and inconjunct Saturn/Neptune/Pluto/Asc.

Sag,