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Topic: Virgo Not Ready to Commit?
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hikoro Knowflake Posts: 106 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 21, 2009 11:22 PM
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MysticMelody Moderator Posts: 473 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 24, 2009 10:00 PM
Ask him if he wants to be "exclusive" and if he doesn't, start dating other people since that is the "status" of your relationship. If he wants to change the status to exclusive, he can let you know. Until then, don't limit yourself because he isn't limiting himself unless he states that he wants to be exclusive with only you.IP: Logged |
LetsDance Knowflake Posts: 65 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted July 25, 2009 01:09 AM
I agree with Mystic -- if you must have a committment or else. Although, I don't think I'd be asking for a committment with only a month of seeing someone. I'd let things happen gradually, organically. I don't know your ages, but unless you are very mature in age and experience, you may need more than a month to find out if you two are even compatible. And compatibility doesn't just mean romantically... but states of mind as well. IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask Knowflake Posts: 2039 From: Bay Area, CA Registered: May 2009
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posted July 25, 2009 02:37 PM
One month? That's not a very long time... slow it down and get to know each other. Virgo men (ok, I hate just saying 'Virgo men'.... take his WHOLE CHART into account too.) do not commit quickly, I can assure you. And they are mutable, and us mutables don't like being boxed in at all. And they can get weirded out by someone who displays excessive emotion too quickly (these things take time).If he tells you he doesn't want a commitment, then step back and let things grow. There's no reason why you should not be seeing other people. IP: Logged |
hikoro Knowflake Posts: 106 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 25, 2009 04:20 PM
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hikoro Knowflake Posts: 106 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 25, 2009 04:32 PM
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pire Knowflake Posts: 1263 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 25, 2009 08:22 PM
I didn't understand the last paragraph it sounds a bit too strategic to me. I mean I see your concern about law school. That is an issue. It is very important. I don't know how to handle that. The rest humm, about upper hands and the rest... Phewwww, it's too complicated there. IP: Logged |
hikoro Knowflake Posts: 106 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 25, 2009 09:05 PM
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woah city Knowflake Posts: 578 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 25, 2009 09:56 PM
aww, it's just your taurus moon talking. you wanna feel SECURE, and NOW, right? i've got one of those too..i don't think it makes you look like a pushover. i can't read his thoughts, of course, but him knowing you want a commitment probably won't change his feelings of respect toward you, even if he does not want one right now. i understand that it hurts to feel rejected in that way though. he knows how you feel but if he isn't ready now, he obviously still needs time to get to that point, if he will, so i would just proceed as normal, if i were you and concentrate on the here and now with him and enjoying yourself. my guess is that if he feels pressured, he'll feel less inclined to commit and may start backing away, just cuz that's the way things tend to happen, not because he doesn't feel for you. commitment is just a word. i mean, you're exclusive and spend your time together as if you were, right? what difference does a word make? i've wrestled with this one a lot and am FINALLY free of a word i consider to be illusory. commitments are chosen moment to moment. IP: Logged |
hikoro Knowflake Posts: 106 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 25, 2009 10:12 PM
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hikoro Knowflake Posts: 106 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 25, 2009 10:15 PM
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cat lover Knowflake Posts: 43 From: Nottingham, UK Registered: May 2009
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posted August 07, 2009 04:27 PM
hikoro I know a virgo man who acts like peterpan!He used to play hot and cold with me and got close to me when he felt like it, he and definitley didn't want commitment. Dont wait for him, if he wants to be with you then let him come to you, dont chase him. Guys can play silly games and if you genuinely feel this is the case then dont give him the time of day cus its giving you mixed signals. IP: Logged |
Virgovenusleo Knowflake Posts: 251 From: unknown Registered: May 2009
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posted September 02, 2009 12:05 AM
Virgo is the eternal bachelor of the zodiac theres more bachelors born under virgo then any other sign I dunno why we are like this.IP: Logged |
Virgovenusleo Knowflake Posts: 251 From: unknown Registered: May 2009
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posted September 02, 2009 12:05 AM
Virgo is the eternal bachelor of the zodiac theres more bachelors born under virgo then any other sign I dunno why we are like this.IP: Logged |
Master_Zeromus Knowflake Posts: 56 From: Stockholm, Sweden Registered: Jul 2009
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posted September 02, 2009 05:47 AM
Maybe he's bisexual? He's Sun is in a feminine sign with his Moon. Venus and the rebell Mars in Leo square Saturn. It seems like he's not unsure about his sexual orientation. I surely don't hope that he plays some nasty mindgame of manipulation with you(AC Cap he has).About Virgo men in general I don't care about too much except of those Zhna Virgos. Ooh, miss Mira from Papa To Kiss In The Dark is so hot that I could marry her/him eternally anytime. Most Zhna Virgo men are transgay you see. And even if not gay, they still go for a Cancer or Sag girl rather than outsiders. IP: Logged |
starkiss1 Knowflake Posts: 412 From: Registered: Jul 2009
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posted September 08, 2009 09:44 AM
Hi, Hikoro. He said to you if he was ready to commit, you would be a POTENTIAL girlfriend?! How insulting. Ditch, ditch, ditch...IP: Logged |
Lucia23 Knowflake Posts: 1517 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 08, 2009 08:20 PM
Hikoro, sorry you're going through this. quote: But.....his words kill me. I even asked him what he felt for me. He was not able to answer.
The thing that really strikes me in his chart is that Mars-Venus conjunction in LEO in the 7th house. I know that Virgo has a rep as the "eternal bachelor", but this guy? I really feel that with that Mars and Venus, when he's madly in love he knows it. Double-Virgo or not, he's got Venus in Leo. This is the kind of thing a Venus in Leo says when he's keeping a stand-in relationship at arm's length. One of two things seems to be happening. Either he is not madly in love with you, and is therefore keeping the relationship more distant till his feelings change or he meets someone he's crazy about...OR (and I see this as a real possibility, given that you are exclusive) he finds your desperation to use him for stability highly taxing and stressful as he tries to get his own life in order. And so he is really pulling away from you for that reason. The whole thing where you don't have relatives around and you're too on your own, etc etc, and you want him to love you and call you his girlfriend for a sense of stability? A HUGE cold shower for a Cap rising, double-Virgo guy who is trying to make his life stable and successful...he would be wanting just the OPPOSITE of that...someome very secure and independent. Your 7th house Saturn widely conjunct his Jupiter and Uranus could play out as a wet-blanket, heavy, anxiety-creating energy for him...unless you had already had your 1st Saturn return and found real power and independence. quote: Hi, Hikoro. He said to you if he was ready to commit, you would be a POTENTIAL girlfriend?! How insulting. Ditch, ditch, ditch...
I know this is probably a really, really un-fun time and I'm sorry...it sounds pretty hurtful/embarrassing and we have all been there. But I have to agree. He sounds like the wrong guy. The thing to do would be to stop seeing him, and let him know that you are open to dating again if he ever wants something serious and you are still available and interested. Some of what he's said is insulting and hurtful, but at least he's being honest with you and letting you know what he wants right now, instead of pretending. The challenge of a 7th house Saturn is to not look outside yourself for stability and security. IP: Logged |
hikoro Knowflake Posts: 106 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 09, 2009 01:14 AM
Hi, Hikoro. He said to you if he was ready to commit, you would be a POTENTIAL girlfriend?! How insulting. Ditch, ditch, ditch...I asked him this though. IP: Logged |
hikoro Knowflake Posts: 106 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 09, 2009 01:45 AM
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Master_Zeromus Knowflake Posts: 56 From: Stockholm, Sweden Registered: Jul 2009
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posted October 01, 2009 02:25 PM
Ah, so his putting you on place eh!Well I see of his Saturn conjucting your Sun. Your Moon signs are positive together. Your Mars signs in opposition aren't that impossible if your Venus signs agree. Your Jupiters in Pisces respective Sag has very easy going streak on. Well, well but his not the right guy for you. Saturn conjucting Sun is never ok! But thankfully no Virgo are above the mighty Cancer god like me and in my Fravashi they are heavenly seraphs, o peris for my personal service and pleasure. IP: Logged |