posted September 04, 2009 05:03 PM         

I've been thinkin about this alot lately, and it occured to me that the main relationships I was around, were, my parents, my grandparents, and my aunt and uncle.

I then realized that all three of those relationships were people that were neighboring signs.

I think there is alot to be said for relationships with your zodiac neighbor, yet it always seems like someone has the upper hand.

Sooo, in my life, I go either way, to the Scorpio's in front of me, or the Capricorns one the other side. Curious, isn't it?

I grew up in an enviroment of high tension, high drama, DEEP feelings that swung wildly from love to hate.

I swore that would never be me, as I didn't think my nerves could take it, but here I am.

posted September 05, 2009 03:00 AM         

i guess what I am asking though, in seeking a mate, so you think that your models creep in there? Whether you are concious or not.

posted September 09, 2009 10:02 AM         

My father is shorter than my mother. And now it is a joke in the family that i am the rebel daughter and my brother being the good son, he takes the role model of our parents his wife is taller than he is. Everybody knows that before, there was no way he would accept a gf taller than he is.

Family patterns?

posted September 09, 2009 03:26 PM         

then again, my family isn't much in my life the last 20 years or so, that might also factor in.

i wonder often how it is that childhood is such a short time in our lives and yet so much of our adult lives come back to things that happened then...it just goes to show you how very important those formative years really are.

posted September 10, 2009 02:07 AM         

It can be both ways.

Like for example, my mother made me her slave of sorts, and her babysitter.

I swore I wouldn't do that either. Now I've got an expectant daughter who can't boil water or wash her own clothes, cause I went so over board trying to not be my Mom.
Sometimes we overindulge with what we didn't have.

Now I wonder if my daughter will raise her kid super strict, the opposite of me, and like her Grandmother, thereby starting the whole dang cycle all over again??

posted September 10, 2009 02:24 AM         

I like to think that if I ever have children, I would like to take the good things of my childrearing and mix them with other good things that I never saw/experienced during my childrearing...such as new tips you learn in books and things like that.

But, I grew up in a very unstable home, child abuse and domestic violence and to this day, I still have no desire to get married or have children.

As a matter of fact, I like change, movement...if things are too good between a significant other and I, I want to stir things up or just leave that person and wander off...

I am way too scared of history repeating itself so I rather die alone and child-free.

I think that for history not repeating itself, a person has to be aware of the damages and the obsoleteness of certain aspects of the way you were raised...but not everybody goes over they way they were raised, therefore, these people don't make a conscious effort to improve themselves or improve and think of better ways to raise their children.