posted September 08, 2009 04:55 AM         

As a cappy i fell for a cancer since our second meeting. I let go of him because of his nomadic life and met another cappy. A completely different type of relationship.

posted September 08, 2009 05:36 AM         

some say love is an emotion, some say a choice.

i say our hearts are huge, and can love many people, even at the same time.

posted September 08, 2009 06:59 AM         

It is everything and nothing at the same time. Harmonious and contradictory. It is the Divine Dichotomy calling us to see the true nature of what is.

Love is the biggest, vastest entity we can ever imagine to know. And, I agree with cpn's definition too because it is still part of the Alpha and the Omega, which encompasses all that is, including "little things such as crushes, and "bad" things such as obsessions. Everything is an expression of love, even those things that humans have deemed to be "not love" or the "opposite of love". There is no opposite of love or anything outside it. All there is, is LOVE.

*sigh*

posted September 08, 2009 07:57 AM         

Easy for your children, and even family, harder when it comes to others.

But how many times did you go to a party or bridal shower or some such event that you didn't want to? You went because you loved that person. (not saying if you did not go, you DON'T love them, there are always circumstances).

posted September 09, 2009 08:32 AM         

Unmoved and Starkiss:
I think there is an opposite of love - fear
We all prone of obsession at one time or another. Obsession rooted from selfish-love because we fear we lose love.
What do you do to get over with your obsession?

Gypsee:
I want to give you a hug for your kind word and offer on my other thread. Your feeling is (now partly) right. He contacted me again asking help with translation work so we become friends.
You are talking about another kind of love here, Gypsee...

One:
How do you love yourself?

I believe that the seed of karma is there waiting for the right time and the right place and the right situation to come when two people meet and then, perhaps by the time their eyes meet, their souls recognise each other, hello, is it you again? One heart connects with the other and the emotion and energy between them give birth to an entity known as love. When they make love as an expression of love itself and not only as body union, they burn the bad karma from the past lives...

posted September 09, 2009 09:17 AM         

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I think there is an opposite of love - fear

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Not the love I was talking about. Maybe it wasn't clear, but I wasn't talking about the emotion called love. I was talking about the Universe as a whole. It is something close to what oneruledbymars called an energy.

Energy is energy and it can be expressed in different forms, e.g. heat energy, light energy, emotions, matter, thought, and some energies are endothermic and exothermic energies, etc. So, what I call love is the "raw" energy that makes up all that we know to be our reality (and even that which we don't know). Fear(emotion) is as tangible an emotion as love, and although it seldom, if ever, exists in the same space as love (emotion), these two are basically the same energy, just directed in two different directions like two vectors of equal magnitude going in opposite directions; and because they are directed in opposing directions, they "reap" different results, but intrinsically, love and fear are one thing (on an energy level and not based on what results they reap)

I know the original post was probably speaking of emotional love, but I posted my view to show that there are all types of love, and none are greater or lesser because they all come from the same place. The problem may come though when an individual's expression of love is harmful to another, which is not fair- but in their world, unless they learn to see differently, most people see their way of expressing love as noble, even if it hurts another, as in the case of obsession.

posted September 09, 2009 10:18 AM         

The person who told you that you were not in love is a bit impatient. I say this because s/he might be right but only time will tell. S/he used his/her idea of what love is and imposed it upon you, and that's how they were able to say such a thing; otherwise s/he would have said something that made you explore your emotions further instead of being judgmental. But, since you're pretty sure that you're in love, that's all that matters.

About obsession:

Don't be hard on yourself. Obsession needs to be viewed as what it really is. It doesn't need to be romanticized or demonized. Obsession is just another emotion, natural or perverted as some may say it is. It is a charge, and like a battery it loses its energy after a while, if you do not keep recharging it. Also, like a battery, it loses energy faster if you use up the charge (energy).

So, don't be ashamed of your feeling.

A way to get rid of obsession is to: EXPRESS it, but to yourself and not to the object of your obsession. Express it in anyway, in all ways and just act as if it was alright to feel them. Write him a letter and don't send it. Write him a poem and don't send it. Speak to him (to yourself) or pretend he is on the phone. Paint, make music, dance or whatever way YOU express "love". When you think of him, think of him. Don't resist because it will persist.

BUT- do not stimulate these feelings with seeing him, smelling him(being in his vicinity), talking to him, etc. We don't want to feed the obsession, we want to drain it until it is no longer there. So, try to avoid him as much as you can. Just use what you have in your head to express your love, and don't add to the obsession by seeing pictures of him, or calling him.

Speak about him though, just as long as it doesn't irritate your friends.

You just need to let it out in whatever way you find is comfortable. And don't feel any shame for your activities. You are just letting go. You are purging the obsession, and it is usually not pretty or sane looking.

If you do what I say, you'll be bored with this feeling soon. this will mean that it has lost charge.