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Topic: Please help before I mess things up with Virgo guy
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hereisgone
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posted February 02, 2007 12:51 PM
A little about myself: I'm a Scorpio Sun/Gemini Asc with little self-esteem. A little overweight, definitely plain in looks, and very socially awkward.Him: A Virgo Sun/Scorpio Asc, classical musician, and a little shy at first, but opens up after he knows you. We had a few dates, emails, and phone calls in the past month since we've met. Tonight, he's invited me to come and see him play and hang out with his friends afterwards. Problem: While I really want to, I'm terrified that his friends will make fun of me afterwards (childish I know, but a HUGE issue for me  ). His female friends are beautiful and outgoing, nothing like me. (How could he ever like me?!) However, I think inviting one to hang out with his friends is a big step in a relationship, and if I say no (after I've already said yes) then he will get upset. I don't want to lie, but don't want him to know how self-conscious I am either. It's great when it's just us; I don't feel uneasy at all. I just don't know what to do. I've heard that once a Virgo decides to move on, there's no turning them back. He's really a great, sweet guy (the first in a long time) and I don't want to lose him. Any advice please? IP: Logged |
Motherkonfessor
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posted February 02, 2007 05:26 PM
Act classy.You don't need to be the most beautiful or thin girl in the room to impress this guy. I have Virgo Sun/Scorp Asc. If he has already gone out on a few dates with you, he is interested. If his friends talk smack about you after- he will most likely look at them with scorn, not you. It is doubtful he would maintain any kind of friendship with people who would act like that. Yes, he will evaluate what his friends think of you- however, he will listen to his own counsel. You are a Scorp, too- feel your own personal power. You have the ability to manifest your personal strength and impress others. If you feel socially awkward, just focus on listening to people. This is really the trick anyway, to have people respond positively to you- people love to talk about themselves, and if you just stand there and listen, they will think you are the coolest person they ever met.
This way you learn about his friends, and him also. He isn't ashamed to be with you, if he invited you. Have a good time- buy something new to wear that makes you feel good. Good luck- and report back  MK IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted February 04, 2007 10:50 AM
Superb advice.  ------------------
"There is no use trying," said Alice; "one can't believe impossible things." "I dare say you haven't had much practice," said the Queen. "When I was your age, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast." Lewis Carroll IP: Logged |
hereisgone
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posted February 09, 2007 02:41 PM
Thanks for the advice. The night went great.  His friends seemed super nice.Motherkonfessor, can you tell me a bit about your Virgo/Scorp so I have a better idea about what to expect? (I don't get to see him in between dates since he lives 2 hours away and only comes in when he has to play - about every 2-3 weeks so far, will be more when spring gets here). I did notice his hotel room was kinda in disarray (stuff thrown about) and so is his car, which is a trait of an unhappy Scorpio. I'm assuming that is overriding his Virgo need of order? Me being a Scorpio (and a nervous one at that!) I know that I have a strong jealous streak, and am trying to keep it under lock and key as not to scare him off. (The "B" or "G" words have not been mentioned as of yet). Which is hard cause since I rarely hear from him when he's not here, I have to constantly remind myself that he performs with 3 symphonies in 2 states and travels alot, and also has other friends. Anyway, sorry for the long-winded post. Anyone feel free to give thoughts, good or bad. I prefer to avoid mistakes rather than learn from them.  Thanks! IP: Logged |
babeefoxx
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posted March 11, 2007 12:59 AM
Let me give you some advise from an Aries who's been in love with a Virgo for almost 2 years and still going strong:If he likes you, he LIKES you.
With a Virgo, getting into a relationship or having a friendship is like signing a contract. Any secrets he tells you or his dreams are in that contract and clearly states that you will keep it confidential. They like to have trust in any relationship. It took me a very long time for my boyfriend to tell me some significant things that have happened in his life. Sharing such things is a huge step for Virgo. In the situation you are in, don't worry about the thoughts of his friends or himself, because self-pity is what ultimately turns a Virgo off. He'll understand what you coming from since he has a Scorpio ascendant; that's a very wonderful thing for you! Just be confident but not self-centered. Classy but not boring. Just be yourself <3 . Good luck with everything and I hope this brought you some insight. IP: Logged |
nattie33
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posted March 11, 2007 10:34 AM
As a virgo women i can tell you from my own experience. We are in it for keeps. I have friends who are also virgos and for the most part virgo's make serious commitments and don't play head games. Very deep lasting relationships are usually made. Also as a virgo i never bothered to go out with someone i didn't like. So if he is seeing you you can bet he lkes you.IP: Logged |
hereisgone
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posted March 29, 2007 03:01 PM
Thanks for the responses! Just wanted to clear up one thing I had wrong in my OP. He in fact does not have a Scorpio asc, but a Gemini asc instead, with a Taurus moon.  IP: Logged |
amthebest
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posted April 05, 2007 02:47 PM
Hi...
I entered this site to know more about Virgo guys... since i am in the process of getting along with one of them. Reading your entries made me feel more comfortable coz i discovered that its not only him, all virgos r like that!!! And it appears that he's a typical virgo. I am really feeling relaxed, coz i like him but at the same time i was worried that he's not open and he have this wall between us... now the question: how did u groke this wall with ur virgos experiences?
IS there any solution or keywords?
PS: I am new here... and i am also new in the world of astrology.IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted April 07, 2007 11:24 PM
Welcome!  ------------------
"There is no use trying," said Alice; "one can't believe impossible things." "I dare say you haven't had much practice," said the Queen. "When I was your age, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast." Lewis Carroll IP: Logged |
alanabelle86
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posted June 02, 2007 08:34 PM
Scorpio Sun/Gemini Asc with little self-esteem
^ That's your problem. Gotta love yourself before you can even possibly begin to let someone love you. We attract people who respond to what we project so if you project this negative view/attitude about yourself...what kind of people do you think you'll attract. You are BEAUTIFUL. I don't need to see you to know that. Because everyone is beautiful.
One thing I've learned about MOST men is that they love a girl who's herself no matter what. Who knows she's beautiful, who knows she's powerful, and knows what she's capable of. THATS the scorpio "sexiness" everyone preaches about. It's not looks. It's attitude and personality.
Think about it...Scorpio and Virgo mix. Both two of the most honest signs in the zodiac. Do you think he'd be with you if he didn't see anything he liked? And it goes way beyond a pretty face. Be proud of what you have in  not <--- here. Cuz one day <---this will be gone...but <---this last forever
How are things now?
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"I eat success for breakfast-- with skim milk!"
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