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Triarii78
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posted January 15, 2010 07:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Triarii78     Edit/Delete Message
Hello everyone! I'll try getting our charts on later btw. Here's the deal. I'm a Pisces male and I met this Scorpio lady online and we chatted for about 3 months. We then decided to meet. I took her to have a few drinks and I noticed her simply staring hard at me, not saying anything in between laughs and just talking. Long story short, I got about 3 hours of sleep the whole weekend!

Last Saturday we hooked up again. We rented a motel room and to be frank the sex is simply incredible! Monday I was supposed to take her home but I decided to ask her to come home with me, and she agreed. She's still here and it's simply been wonderful waking up with her and coming home from work to her. She says she doesn't want a relationship with anyone right now, but the signs I'm getting seem to say otherwise. Last night she told me she could easily fall in love with me. Then I guess she catches herself and says 'no relationship'. Ugh! I guess I'll stick to my guns and keep a methodical persistence going. Any thoughts are very welcome.

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PeaceAngel
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posted January 15, 2010 07:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PeaceAngel     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Triarii78

Welcome to LL.

It'll be good to see the charts. For stop-start influences, I'd be looking at Uranus. But it will help to see what influences she has in her chart, as well as the two of you together with the synastry.

Astrology aside, don't push. If she's falling for you, let her do it in her own time and way.

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Deux*Antares
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posted January 15, 2010 07:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Deux*Antares     Edit/Delete Message
I think it's because she knows astrology and has read everything about Pisces men.

Just kidding. LOL. I'm excited to see the charts.


Welcome to LL!

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eskimono
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posted January 15, 2010 01:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for eskimono     Edit/Delete Message
Sounds like you are having fun!!

I agree - don't push. She is probably concerned that you'll fall madly in love with her, and unless she warns you she's not ready for that, she'll end up hurting you. On the other hand, if she thinks you haven't fallen in love with her, she will be intrigued as to why, and will be drawn closer!

Don't play games, be straight, but don't push her.

Enjoy!

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vapor-lash
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posted January 15, 2010 04:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for vapor-lash     Edit/Delete Message
WELCOME

quote:
keep a methodical persistence going

Ok - where's the earth, fire and Scorpio in your chart? Spill!

What you said sounds a lot like, either:

Taurus Mars
Scorpio Mars
Capricorn Mars

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LetsDance
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posted January 15, 2010 05:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LetsDance     Edit/Delete Message
Relationships take time, and maybe she just doesn't have the time to invest in one right now. Time includes to mean: attention, focus, committment.

Scorpios can't really do anything half-ass, so it really depends on what she wants from you right now...and that could be FWB.

So listen to what she tells you about the "relationship" status, ok?

If you want more than she wants to give, you could become frustrated and feel a little rejected.

To avoid that, I would suggest you just relax and enjoy what she is geniunely giving to you. Her attention to you is pure and singular and as much as she is willing to give. Open your mind and appreciate what is given, not what you expect, and you may get more than you dreamed.

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Triarii78
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posted January 16, 2010 10:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Triarii78     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks for the insight! Now, how do I get our charts posted? I'd like to see what you experts have to say!

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vapor-lash
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posted January 17, 2010 02:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for vapor-lash     Edit/Delete Message
Triarii - you can get your synastry chart at www.astro.com. Save it to your computer and upload it on photobucket.com or imageshack.com.

You can then post the link here.. enclosed in [ img ] [ /img ] brakets - no spaces.

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Crabclaw
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posted January 19, 2010 12:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Crabclaw     Edit/Delete Message
From my experience don't push it or she will remind you later that you where the one who wanted something more serious. Unless you are ready to open a big can of worms and eat them. DONT GIVE IN. BE STRONG MY FRIEND!

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Triarii78
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posted January 19, 2010 10:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Triarii78     Edit/Delete Message
Ok here goes...this is Jenny's chart:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v319/OldVoice/astrochartjenny.gif

Here's mine:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v319/OldVoice/astrochart.gif

Hope I did this correctly!

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Triarii78
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posted January 19, 2010 10:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Triarii78     Edit/Delete Message
Wow! Her chart seems pretty 'confined'. lol (Or should I be scared?!) Mine seems to look 'well balanced' as a dear friend once said. (Like Alan, from Two and a Half Men, the only network show I think is funny!)

Anyhow I was talking to a Cancerian friend on facebook about her; he said "Be careful. She's either in it for fun, or she's going to become very attached to you."

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vapor-lash
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posted January 20, 2010 12:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for vapor-lash     Edit/Delete Message
Triarii - Here's what I think.. Hope it helps!

I think you're more serious than she is.. and much less likely to overreact or become aggressive in a discussion or an argument.. You're a very mature person with the Pisces Sun + Capricorn Moon and very down to earth (Virgo Asc). Probably more reliable than the average Pisces. I mention that because being a mutable water sign - The Fish can get quiet slippery lol

I think you see this girl as a TOTAL firecracker.. I can understand why you'd like that about her.. since you could use a bit more fire in your own chart. You're also pretty fascinated sexually.. because generally you seem very easy going.. and she adds spice - a LOT of spice.. sexually lol She has one of the most sexual combos around with her Scorpio Sun & Venus and Aries Moon.

Overall - I think you could be good for each other.. with the occasional flare-up.. But considering your Scorpio-Pisces connections - any problems you have are likely to end in passionate make-up sex.

The only thing that concerns me (the absolute and ONLY thing - because it looks great overall) is her Retrograde Venus. This can be a tricky placement. It's not easy for her to love and be expressive about it. A lot of things are turned inward. I often find that the romantic partners of a Venus Retro person find it difficult to understand them and sometimes interpret their detached behaviour as "rejection". The Venus R. person can be morbidly afraid of romance. This may be because they're never entirely sure that the other person truly likes them. There's this quirky insecurity there. What makes this side to her even stranger - is that overall she comes across as a very confident Femme Fatale Type.

But - OK - You're a triple Pisces so you know this: We all come with our good points and our bad points.. Nobody is a perfect package.. and while this Retro Venus stuff won't be the easiest thing to "work through" with her.. I really think you're perfect for the job. You have a Venus/Mars trine in Pisces and Cancer so you're basically happy sexually. You feel comfortable in your own body - you like sex.. you don't have huge problems in this area.. and you don't have problems expressing affection&love through sex.

Due to your easy-going watery nature that is well-matched to her own Scorpionic waters.. I think she'll open up in time. I think she feels safe with you. She is not very relationship oriented.. but she probably won't be as scared to take the plunge.. with you - as she may be with other people.

I agree with everyone who said to take it slowly for now. She isn't someone you want to seem controlling with.. She'd prefer to stir the relationship in her direction. Being highly mutable I don't think you'll mind going with her flow. Basically be YOURSELF.. Don't be someone else.

Don't suddenly morph into a man who must have an official relationship RIGHT NOW.. because this isn't normally you. Right?
But maybe you're very in love with her so this was your reaction to meeting her ^
Take a step back.. and just be *you*
She'd prefer the laid-back you.. because she likes to feel in control.

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vapor-lash
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posted January 20, 2010 12:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for vapor-lash     Edit/Delete Message
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I was talking to a Cancerian friend on facebook about her; he said "Be careful. She's either in it for fun..

Hmm I don't really see this.. The Aries Moon could be a bit immature.. but the rest of her chart is fairly level-headed. I don't think she's in it for "fun" only.

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or she's going to become very attached to you."

Attached? No. Possessive? Definitely. Once you're hers - you're hers. Scorpio doesn't see grey areas and don't expect an open relationship. Honestly though, would this bother you?

The legendary Scorpio possessiveness doesn't usually become a problem in Scorpio-Pisces relationships.. not for the first few years anyway. You're both too preoccupied loving each other lol and - Common you know a little part of you can't wait to be possessed by her

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Triarii78
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posted January 20, 2010 07:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Triarii78     Edit/Delete Message
Thank you so much vapor lash!!!

Last night she called...needing someone to talk to and she fell asleep!. She said I'm 'soothing' to her. How sweet!

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Triarii78
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posted January 20, 2010 06:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Triarii78     Edit/Delete Message
That was an awesome evaluation vapor lash! Triple Pisces? Hmmm...what exactly does that mean?

I simply love asking about love and talking about it. I took her home Sunday evening after an entire week of her. I'd keep offering to take her home and then when the time would come, she'd change her mind and want to stay another day. No problems there! One night cuddled up in my bed she said "I could easily fall in love with you." (BTW, she has insomnia, but she slept like a baby in my arms the whole week.)
After dropping her off I was driving home and she calls; she said that she already missed me, and that this was bad because it meant she was starting to have feelings for me. Now she's sending me all her music on facebook and has called every evening this week. I dunno...she keeps saying 'no relationship' but these signals I'm getting say otherwise. Yep, I'll stay laid back and see what happens.

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Ami Ann
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posted January 30, 2010 04:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Ann     Edit/Delete Message
Dear Triarii
You sound like a doll. I think she needs to fall for you slowly at her OWN pace. You cannot push it or you will scare her away.
If she feels that warm and cuddly like that, THAT is a big letting down of boundaries.She needs to take trust and intimacy slowly. If you can do that, I think she can be your girl. Ami

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Triarii78
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posted February 10, 2010 07:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Triarii78     Edit/Delete Message
Well here's an update. She's staying here with me again...sound asleep in my bed actually. Yesterday she told me to check my plentyoffish messages she sent. (How we met.) The reason was she had deleted her account!
Now she's officially saying she loves me...

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Ami Ann
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posted February 10, 2010 07:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Ann     Edit/Delete Message
That is great.I think you must be going slowly and letting her trust you slowly. She wants to know you can be strong shoulders and also a strong individual within yourself.
It is really hard to navigate both parts of a relationship but you ARE doing it as evidenced by her sleeping next to you! Ami

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LetsDance
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posted February 11, 2010 07:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LetsDance     Edit/Delete Message
Triarii78,

Good luck to you!

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Triarii78
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posted February 19, 2010 06:42 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Triarii78     Edit/Delete Message
Things are definitely starting to become serious between her and I. I'm not sure if it's just the initial stage of being in love, but both of us simply hate being apart from each other. She left me a word document to read whenever I'm missing her which stated that she's never met anyone like me before, and that I make her feel loved and wanted.
Now I'm beginning to stay with her family on the weekends and her Mom has taken a liking to me. I've also met her two boys who are likewise taking a shine to me.
The only trouble in paradise I'm coming across is to never, ever tell even the smallest lie to her, even when I'm trying to not hurt her feelings. It's best to just be blunt and lay it on the table. (LOL Linda was right on that issue.)
Aside from times she can be moody, we seem to be sharing something very special here. As she told me, "you seem to complete me." I was thinking the same thing.

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