posted February 11, 2010 08:10 AM         

Im new here and wonder if anyone has any advice for me?

Early last year I had Uranus trine Venus transit and met an Aqua guy online just as it was kicking in.. We dated happily for 7 months until he stated he didnt want a r/ship and I then called it off. Havent seen him since but the Uranus/Venus trine is picking up strength again in my chart and I now find I CANT GET HIM OUT of my mind.

I was doing well up till now and dont know why he has reappeared in my thoughts, my dreams, my whole consciousness... We had amazing synastry Venus trine Mars, Venus trine Pluto, Venus Sextile Neptune and Venus sextile Jupiter (all within 1" orbs) and Sun trine Mars exact too

In the composite we had Venus sq Mars and Pluto, Sun conj Venus, Merc and Jupiter and eek! Moon opp Uranus

Its like he is haunting me!! He does text from time to time and he did last wknd.. but I feel so LOST and bereft again

Sooooooo do any of you wonderful peeps think that when the Uranus trine Venus transit passes at the beginning of March I can finally move and consign this guy to the past? Thats is what Im hoping anyways..

Me: 18/10/1970 17:50, Northants UK
He: 03/02/1973 Unknown, London UK

posted February 11, 2010 02:41 PM         

I'm still not very good at chart reading for others, but I suggest you to post the synastry chart and the composite chart here so other members that are more skilled can take a better look at your case.

posted February 11, 2010 05:08 PM         

I will have a go at fetching the charts, don't hold your breath tho lol!

posted February 11, 2010 08:57 PM         

I wonder if your venus in scorpio was a bit too intense for all his air/earth/fire, but no water chart.

He would need to feel completely non-smothered. Even if you didn't do anything smothering, he would sense that you felt that way, and that is enough for a air/fire person to run.

I have no idea if this is what happened, it's just a thought by looking at the charts.

Do you have any idea where he was born? The houses would be good to know, because maybe he has a water AC or a lot of planets in a water house.

posted February 12, 2010 04:56 AM         

I think he was a commitment phobe to be honest, he had all the classic signs, never had long term r/ship and very much a 'bachelor'. The r/ship for me was about learning a different way of relating (yep not smothering lol) which I was learning through dating gurus such as Paige Parker and Mimi Tanner, who advocate not contacting guys but letting them chase etc and it worked fine in this case as he did most of the initiating

But yes, the scorp venus in the 7th leaked out lol, it was actually me who 'ran', he had calmly stated we were weren't 'casual but not in a r/ship', tho he wanted it to continue, well the scorp venus and aries Asc didnt like that one bit, and I told him that wouldnt work for me as long as we were being intimate etc

I guess I would have liked him to fight for me a little but no, he replied he would always think highly of me, he understood and respected my decision, hoped we could stay friends ba bla bla, he did try to backtrack a bit the next day but I was too far gone I guess by then

Within 2 weeks he was back cruising on the dating site we met on and that was a kicker so I eventually did the same and any time he has contacted me I have been merely polite, I notice he is on there often but don't see what he is so obsessively seeking that he didnt have here but oh well!!

I take it you mean his time of birth? No I dont have it unfortunately so thats a shame

Thanks for your insight though, it really helps, I have felt like I am going crazy this past two weeks and there is no one who understands, if I try and talk about it to family or friends they just say I am better off without him etc and none of them are into astrology either.. so I really appreciate you taking the time to help

xx

posted February 14, 2010 12:00 PM         

i say do what you feel is best for you. whatever happens, at least you know you gave it a shot and tried to do what you could on your end to make things happen.

i think a lot times, people get caught up in other people's opinions on a situation that only that person can truly understand. i think things always work out for the best when you do what you should do on your own.

i hope things work out or that you come to a peaceful conclusion with this.

posted February 25, 2010 08:09 AM         

I have read many times that nothing good ever comes of r/ships with composite moon opposite uranus and that it always ends badly and this worries me, as does the lack of saturn aspects in our synastry chart. Also I have an ugly saturn opposite chiron transit coming up which isnt hopeful and I am slap bang in the middle of a yukky neptune sq venus so rose coloured glasses are on, tho its waning a bit right now but not done with me yet.

posted March 01, 2010 04:48 AM         

Yes- your'e right, proceed with caution and I have decided not to proceed further.. After our date I discovered he has created another profile on the dating site and was active online on friday, just two days after our 'date' last weds. I confronted him when he contacted me yesterday and he said he had been upfront about being on there, which I must have misunderstood. Said he was confused about my intentions blah blah. needless to say he asked again to be just friends but I declined. I am upset today cos I sold my precious car yesterday and could have used a hug this wknd. He can get lost!

posted March 11, 2010 05:44 PM         

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He has lots of travel plans coming up ...

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This is a line straight out of the Aquarius dating book.