posted March 07, 2010 08:45 AM            

Scorpio's feel wounds deeply, and don't easily forgive. If she has any interest in making up with you, she will expect you to do the running and to put in a serious amount of effort to make up for the hurt. She will want your patience and understanding whilst she works through the issues, as it is the only way she can heal. Once she has healed she will move on from it quickly, and will unlikely hold a grudge.

If you aren't willing to do this, and to compromise probably more that you want to, she will likely completely cut you off - permanently - till the day she dies!

Rightly or wrongly, the onus is on you to put this right.

posted March 15, 2010 01:36 PM            

Have you apologised - sincerely and unreservedly, several times? That's the first step. Say sorry, and mean it, as many times as it takes.

I would suggest you harrass her - what have you got to lose? She'll make it very clear if you over-step the mark.

posted March 15, 2010 03:55 PM            

So, you have to fight for them, if you want them. It's like starting over in their eyes, and since you did/said something wrong, you must prove yourself all over again.

posted March 15, 2010 04:33 PM            

If she had truly cut you off she either would not have replied, or replied with cold indifference and would not have referred to any emotion on her part.

posted March 16, 2010 09:24 AM            

"she said she would just stop making time for him and have him leave her. well i had to go away for an extended period of time on business and the first few weeks were fine. but she became distant and eventually wasnt returning my calls."

posted April 23, 2010 07:08 AM            

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the internet is my only mode of communication and i dont feel i can express myself on here as well as spoken word especially in person

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Could you cam2cam on skype? (it's better than msn)

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i cant call her because of my work schedule and timezone differences and stuff

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Maybe you could stay up one night and try calling her anyway. I'm not sure..

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i'm willing to go through these things for her if she will have me back and this surprises even me because i have an arrogance to myself with women

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posted July 15, 2010 06:04 AM            

"she didnt want to jump back into a serious relationship and just take things slow at first"

I don't know what happened between you two. It appears you got very emotional and it surprised her. I don't know what you said to her that made her mad or hurt, but she is not taking you at "face value" anymore. She is willing to give you a chance, but you have to earn the right for her to let her guard down. Depending on her maturity (both mentally and emotionally), it could be a while before she "trusts" you into her heart again. I suggest you take her advice and take it slow. Be her friend, confidant, refuge, strength and THEN maybe you can become her lover again.

IMHO, the silent treatment is a way of her seeing how much you want her back and for what. Are you going to be persistant or give up? How much is she worth to you? She was willing to quit her BF for you. While that's not great for the other person, I think she was really serious about you.

I'm not going to blame you totally for the argument you guys had. I'm sure she had something to do with it -- especially since she was cheating on her BF with you. She knows that, but it's always a double-standard with most scorpios. To those, they EXPECT you to understand THEM, but they don't always give you that understanding. From where I sit, those scorpios don't think anyone knows as much as they do -- therefore, you are suspect.

Take that as wisdom on how to deal with her. Keep your cool. Don't lose your temper and don't let her provoke you into a negative emotional outburst. Love her with a knowing, disciplined, mature level of love. One that knows "what time it is", if you know what I mean (if you don't I'll try to explain). Don't be led by any fear or insecurity of losing her or that you may blow it. Be confident. Watch her as she watches you. Don't be overcome by her intensity UNLESS the time is right! Keep a stable, consistency about you. You want her, yes, but she's got to also want YOU.

She knows you are emotional. Whatever it was (not necessarily specifically, but in principle), that set you off before, WILL present itself again -- trust me. You have GOT to handle it better. Or you will have to repeat it over and over -- but not necessarily with her.

Have you learned anything about yourself during this time? Have you reflected on what happened and how you could have handled it better? Let whatever it was help you develop into a better person. You are being given a second chance to turn a negative into a positive. The second chance, yes, is with her, but not necessarily. You've been given a chance to walk out what you have learned and grow from it. I believe that is so valuable.

Ok, I got all philosophical there....and I said "not necessarily" alot, didn't I?

I think you'll be alright.

posted July 15, 2010 09:17 AM            

Is she able to see things from a higher Energy stand point....otherwise it truly is hard to say what a human will do when they are operating from there alter Ego....they have motivations that are hard to flush out because the Ego keeps them from being transparently honest or centered in an emotional response.
It is clear that she loves you though, and still has affection for you.

Another question (questions help me map Energy better)...you mentioned it but I just want to be clear. Has she left the other man for good now? Or are they still in a relationship?....because it seems that if they weren't she would be putting more of her Energy into you....your connection sounded very intense....what were the Venus-Pluto and Venus-Neptune connections in your Synastry and Composite chart. Its always best to look at what she is really feeling through the chart if communication is strained..you know?