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Topic: What do you do When????
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Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 64
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Registered: Feb 2010
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posted May 28, 2010 07:26 PM
 
Two souls are connected so deeply and one person is spiritual and understands and the other person is well clueless. What do you do when there is a metaphysical relationship but not really a physical relationship. What do you do when you just feel stuck??? Hmmmmmm IP: Logged |
mercuranian
Knowflake Posts: 210
From: the 12th house
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 28, 2010 08:24 PM
when you find out could you please let me know?  IP: Logged |
Writesomething
Knowflake Posts: 1249
From: meet me in montauk
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 28, 2010 09:35 PM
I understand what you mean, all I can do or anybody can do is be patient, and let time show them how strong/deep the connection is. I had to learn and hurt a lot to realize I couldnt make the other person understand it. Time is the only answer(to almost anything really). IP: Logged |
Amphitrite
Knowflake Posts: 90
From: Australia
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted May 29, 2010 08:20 AM
I think it's a very frustrating situation when there is clearly a strong connection between two people, so much so that even others recognize and comment on it, but one of those two people chooses not to acknowledge it. Or they are continually on the push-pull cycle. It hurts and it's very disorientating and you never know where you stand. I have just come out the otherside of one of those connections, and it feels very empty. But you can't wait forever because the pain gets more and more difficult to manage. Set yourself free and you will gain forward momentum. The right path for you will shine
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Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 64
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Registered: Feb 2010
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posted May 29, 2010 10:30 AM
Yeah I know better then to try and make anybody understand anything. Every time I decide to let it go here he comes back in my face to build the connection stronger. I don't think he does it on purpose I really do think that he cares for me alot its in his eyes his body language he is just not ready for this kind of connection. Ive been here once before so I got a few up on him. I keep getting he likes you even heard that he loved me, but he is just not ready right now. Its hard pulling away especially when I can feel his emotions towards me. One day last week I got mad at him and told him off and for two days he could not stop thinking about me and what I said and us and I felt every ounce of it. Finally I just text him and asked him if he had something on his mind that he wanted to say bc I got tired of all the pulling. Anyway, im just venting. IP: Logged |
ekf
Knowflake Posts: 99
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Registered: Nov 2009
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posted May 29, 2010 12:45 PM
mama mia,
yep. you and i definitely on the same path.
i'm in the middle of the same thing - though this is my first time and I've been learning how to deal with it myself.
even managed to stay away with no contact for three months but at the first chance he came back.
i can't resist and am now torn on whether i did the "right" thing or the "wrong" thing.
i don't know if you have already, but you should read some of the blog posts from Steve Gunn. They help me to recenter when I feel I'm about to lose it again. IP: Logged |
Lioness
Knowflake Posts: 188
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Registered: Mar 2010
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posted May 30, 2010 02:41 AM
Mama MiaIm also in the same boat.. The connection and the pull is extreme, and has been an emotional roller coaster, of ups and downs,and disappointments... IDK why us women feel it much more than the man, or they are just emotional stronger and able to deal with it better... (shrug) who knows.... Well anyways I got to the point (Thanks to Uranus conjunct my ASC... lol) I FINALLY decided Im no longer going to settle for his way, either we can come to some sort of compromise or I have no choice but to just walk away.... Well he's only willing to do things his way.. So I said goodbye.. Im sorry but I can no longer have any contact with you....
I immediately deleted his number,pics,and texts... I have no way to call him now.... Even though I do see him all the time, I just give him a fake smile and keep walking by with my head held high.... Once I did this I actually felt better. I felt empowered... It's still painful, but its no where near as bad as it was with the emotional see saw I was on.. Good luck to ya... Huggsss IP: Logged |
StarrofVenusGirl
Knowflake Posts: 640
From: Down the Rabbit Hole
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted May 30, 2010 01:22 PM
I don't know Mia. I am discussing this relationship on Lindaland with another thread, so the irony of seeing this thread is extreme...It hurts to be with him, it hurts to be without him. We're just STUCK. He can't give me his all, I won't accept anything less. When I tried to be healthy and walk away, he came running back after 2 months of no contact. I feel it in my SOUL when he is hurting for me, missing me. He can probably feel it too, although I try not to project because I know how it feels. I need a solution, a resolution. I feel sometimes like the only way I'm going to get over this guy is if I leave the planet LOL. Not die, but literally leave the planet! Sigh. I've decided this relationship has all the classic qualities of an addiction, and as the Neptune-ruled, that makes it especially hard for me. I just don't know Mia. IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 64
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Registered: Feb 2010
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posted May 31, 2010 09:07 AM
"I FINALLY decided Im no longer going to settle for his way, either we can come to some sort of compromise or I have no choice but to just walk away...."Thats how I Feel as well..And like you I to have to see him, he is a train conductor and gets on my train in the morning...Usually he's looking through the window to catcha glimpes of me and smile. Last week he came and sat down with me and when it was time to get off the train next thing I know we were kissing. But I have decided to not have a inviting spirit when he gets on the train and looks for me. I will just smile wave and turn my head..Body language says everything. Change up the eneryg.
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Lioness
Knowflake Posts: 188
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Registered: Mar 2010
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posted May 31, 2010 07:24 PM
I dont even smile at him anymore.. Just fake half smiles... He causes to me confusion for me,which Im having a hard time understanding and dealing with... I have no choice but to totally severe the tie.... Its been challenging since I have no choice but to see him all the time. He has tried to reach me via eyes, but I refuse to look..... He's probably saying "she's tripping" LOL...
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LanaofAugust
Knowflake Posts: 95
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 01, 2010 02:30 AM
Sadly, it is a rare Aqua man who is able to make compromises... :-(They are too fixed and like so many other men they don't know what's best for them! ;-) IP: Logged |
Nephthys
Moderator Posts: 197
From: California
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 01, 2010 01:16 PM
You can't force any soul to do/be anything before his/her own time. You just have to realize that "they are not ready yet" and move on. You can still love them.  IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 64
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Registered: Feb 2010
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posted June 01, 2010 01:41 PM
Nephthys:Absolutely...I am all for free will, I don't like to be pushed into anything that I am not ready for. This just puts me closer to a soul that is ready when the time is right..Its the process that is difficult right now..Been down this path once before and like that time I will make it through to where I am to be real soon.. IP: Logged |
Nephthys
Moderator Posts: 197
From: California
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 01, 2010 04:22 PM
The Saturn thread next to this one is kind of similar, see my replies there. IP: Logged |
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