posted July 06, 2004 07:40 PM           

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I get married with an american man four months ago, but right now we are dealing to much problems: he is in disabbility from long time ago (almost 2 years) and he is looking for a new job, but nothing is happening ( and for the moment the money is few.
As well he has several health problems...etc I want to tell you that I found him that he liked to chat online with other women (online dating sites), I caught him and I told him that please donīt do it anymore, it is awful, really hurts me!
And I am trying to think that if a choose the right person, or if I did a mistake ??
He said that he loves me, but sometimes I feel him very far from me, he said that he has to much problems, buy really I DONīT KNOW.
I Feel that he loves me, but in a strange way to love somebody...
I really love him and I want that our relationship be better and finally settled down. I want to have babies with him and I want to be with him all my life.

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posted July 06, 2004 10:35 PM         

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Welcome to the site!

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posted July 06, 2004 10:51 PM         

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Welcome julieha

Actual mistakes are few and far between.

Perhaps you need to have a very intimate talk with your man and share your concerns and desires with him . He has his answers and talking it over with him may result in the clearest answer.

I certainly wish you both the best

juniperb

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If having a soul means being able to feel love and loyalty and gratitude, then animals are better off than a lot of humans. ~James Herriot

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posted July 07, 2004 01:07 PM         

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Talk to him, but not with an angry tone. Honesty and openness will work wonders.

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posted July 07, 2004 03:49 PM           

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Randall and Juniperb,
Thanks a lot for your words. Itīs thrue I need to speak a lot with him. We need more communication and I know that we are going to be fine, we are in this moment begining a long life together and maybe he feels with me a little bit pressure. But both ( he and me) need to improve.
Thanks again my friends.

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posted July 07, 2004 05:37 PM         

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Keep us posted and here`s an to carry with you!!

juniperb

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posted July 11, 2004 10:24 AM         

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Are things any better?

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posted July 13, 2004 10:06 PM           

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I wish you well and my prayers are with you daily. I know how your situation feels. I agree that you need to speak with him however I know that he may not listen.

Listen to your higher-self and you will find the way. And remember that you can always post here for some kind words, advice and love.

-Irish

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posted September 01, 2004 11:33 AM         

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Have things improved?

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