posted October 19, 2004 01:50 PM           

I'm a Scorpio (November 20, 1979). Unlike typical Scorpios, I have more of a submissive personality, a follower, not a leader. A little opinionated and stubborn, definitely possessive and jealous. I'm more willing to give in in a arguement.

Question: 7 weeks ago, a friend told him I liked him and said he should ask me out. He told her he would. That day I was so embarrassed that I avoided him (and he came around alot). The next day we joked a bit about his motorcycle (I say drive, he says ride).

Over the next few weeks, we talked in passing or when I had to unlock a door for him, but not much else. One day he asked me to hold his tools while he went to lunch, when he had been (and has since) just put them down whereever.

Last Friday, another fried asked him if he was interested (cause they're supposedly about ready to leave), and according to her, he said "most definitely", but to give it some time, and that he'd call soon. He has a girlfried he's "getting rid of", and that "we'll be in touch". That was the day I found out he's a taurus, and since I've been trying to figure him out by reading a book my mom gave me when I was little, called "Sun Signs" by Linda Goodman, from 1968.

My boss (heavily into astrology, doesn't want me seeing mike, and a capricorn) says there's no chance because of our signs, and that I shouldn't even bother. I'm also a little worried that he just said that to get my coworkers to stop bugging him about me, or maybe he's still deciding.

I really don't know what to do now. Should I stay away, figuring nothing I do will sway whatever decision he makes? Last week and the week before I was putting little boxes of nerds (his favorite candy) on his stuff after he left, so he'd find it in the morning. Should I keep doing that, or would that make me seem pushy? (The last two were taped together and had a note saying that if he wanted to ask me out, go ahead, I'd say yes (cause I thought that was their last day)).

posted October 21, 2004 11:31 PM           

You said you need to fatten him up. Git to it!!

Don't think about it for too long, or you'll lose your nerve.

Just be impulsive... bop over there and invite him to dinner!

posted October 22, 2004 01:05 AM         

And in terms of the nerves?
What do you think makes the dating game so appealing or scary? I love that roller coaster. Rides my belly better than the best theme park ones.MMMMMMMMMMMm.. human dynamics. Love it!!!

posted October 22, 2004 09:30 PM           

You're right about not PUSHING... but you could gently nudge

posted October 23, 2004 07:21 AM           

I am a Scorp too, who is currently dating (well, I've been on four dates) a Taurean. I think he'd like to take the friendship further (he called it a relationship when we discussed it) but I'm taking things slow.

I reckon you should ask him to have lunch with you one day. It doesn't have to be anything glam - maybe just a sandwich and a coke, under a tree. He will like that, being earthy and all.

Asking him for dinner might be a bit scary for him, particularly if he is trying to wean off another girl. But, you can do lunch as a platonic friend with no strings attached. And everyone eats lunch, don't they?

BTW - I have a scorp girlfriend and she just married her taurus guy, who is an electrician. But, it took him 12 years to get to that point (marriage that is).

Cheers