posted October 17, 2010 09:59 AM         

Last year, one of my good guy friends introduced me to his best friend (the Capricorn - see chart at the bottom of post), and we hit it off really well. The first night we were out, my friends noted that he followed me around like a lost puppy, and would do so every time I saw him. I wasn't interested in him really, so I ignored many of his advances. One night we ended up kissing on a park bench and he wanted to stay over, to which I refused. He was upset, but left and he dropped trying to hook up with me.

In January of this year, we were out and I (rather drunkenly) got up the courage to tell him that I wanted to hook up with him. We did so continuously from January to May, but never once talked about our "relationship". He seemed almost obsessed with me, but from a distance. While he wouldn't talk to me everyday or say anything outright, people noticed (myself included) how he would admire me from afar at parties or even when our friends were having casual
get-togethers.

In May I went on a vacation for two weeks, and when I returned, I noticed some differences in his behaviour. We didn't really talk that much, and he never seemed to come out with us anymore. One night in July I ended up at his house after we were out and we hooked up again, but it was a little awkward. I saw him out the day after and he ignored me completely, which bruised my Aries ego terribly.

In August, the same friend who introduced me to the Cap introduced me to a new guy - an attractive Leo. We hit it off well, but I didn't pursue anything, because of the Cap (who we are both friends with). I don't know what happened, but within the month Cappy and I hooked up again and it was pleasant. He finally opened up to me more about his personal life, which he rarely talks about. Everything just seemed nice, and he was talking in a way that made me assume he wanted a relationship. I didn't really say anything, but it was nice to hear.

A week later, he had a party at his house, and his ex was there (she is now dating one of his friends). I didn't think it would be a problem, but he was still in love with her when I originally met him, even though they had been separated for over a year. I tried my best to make conversation with him and not be awkward, but once again, I kind of felt ignored. I told him that that night, and he got defensive and said I was the one ignoring him. We didn't talk after that.

The major issue is that last night I was over at my friend's house (who lives with Cap) and found out that he is currently seeing someone - from seeing her at their house! I didn't want to start anything in front of people so I texted him and told him how annoyed I was that he didn't tell me he was seeing someone else, and that I felt kind of like an idiot for thinking that something was there, and would ignore the advances of other guys (such as Leo) because I was worried about how he would react. His response? "I'm sorry. We're friends, we hooked up but I didn't know [you] wanted anything more than that either."

Above all else, what I really want to know is what went wrong? I understand that I probably could've communicated my feelings a lot better, but I felt like those were mutual and left unsaid. I almost feel like he's attempting to make me look foolish and like I'm overreacting, when he's the one who plays hot and cold.

Natal Charts

His
Sun Capricorn 19.10
Moon Virgo 25.52
Mercury Capricorn 29.59
Venus Aquarius 23.20
Mars Sagittarius 1.03
Jupiter Aries 20.54
Saturn Sagittarius 26.31
Uranus Sagittarius 28.12
Neptune Capricorn 8.09
Pluto Scorpio 12.13
Lilith Leo 16.03
Asc node Pisces 25.37