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Topic: Loving Too Much
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hippichick
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Registered: May 2009
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posted November 16, 2010 11:17 PM
  
~~~when the love for someone else is all-too-encompassing~~~when one feels like love is consuming... the time when one feels that the love he/she gives is giving everything he/she has... a point in life when emotional love is affecting one's be-ing... the place in life when someone just has to let go.... ~~~ and to be the one who was let go.... IP: Logged |
esheep123
Knowflake Posts: 142
From: brooklyn, ny usa
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted November 17, 2010 08:03 PM
I hate loving too much. If it isn't reciprocated, it's really horrible and hurtful to the soul and psyche.When it's all encompassing, one has to really dig down deep, and see the wrongness in that... You can love someone, but they shouldn't become God in your eyes. It makes me question how much value one puts on their love, and how much they value themselves... IP: Logged |
T
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posted November 17, 2010 08:25 PM
Yes. It can't be one-sided. The other person has to give you love too. Or else they are just draining your energy. People need to be loved back too.IP: Logged |
T
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posted November 17, 2010 08:26 PM
& love to you, dear hippichick.  IP: Logged |
iliketurtles
Knowflake Posts: 46
From: 2099
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted November 19, 2010 02:46 PM
i agree that reciprocation is the key to love <3<3IP: Logged |
bunnies
Knowflake Posts: 418
From: u.k
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 19, 2010 05:20 PM
There is a French proverb
"In every relationship there is one who loves and one who is loved"
And never a truer word said.
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teasel
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posted November 19, 2010 06:12 PM
Sometimes it's reciprocated, but having the intensity be the same for both people, seems to be a rare thing. IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted November 20, 2010 01:01 PM
thank you beautiful people.realizing that one had to let one go cause one was loved too much is such a humbling thing.. reciporication was never the issue...as much as what he could offer me (in his mind) like i said, to be the one who was let go [of]... humbling~~~ IP: Logged |
Got Gemini??
Knowflake Posts: 114
From: The Planet Mercury
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted November 21, 2010 08:24 PM
Check out "limerence" on Wikipedia AND YouTube. Its a VERY interesting concept. Im not at all saying that's your situation, but I came across it a few days ago and wanted to share it here.------------------
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saronna
Knowflake Posts: 325
From: Australia
Registered: Jan 2010
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posted November 23, 2010 09:39 AM
Has anyone read lovesick and want to discuss lovesick the marilyn syndrome it's about loving too much and fatal attraction and how to overcome love addiction. Are you in a lovesick relationship. Here's a tip from the lovesick book 'Play the truth game'The cartoon of milk exercise Ask the one you love if he/she will pick up milk that is out of their way and if you are to afraid to ask that's a red flag that they are not as nice as you think they are. Here's another tip to test them if they are really nice or not that is a red flag 'You know something for sure' for example you know that they have been emailing and flirting online. Ask them if they have been flirting and emailing online if they answer no than you know that are not honest and that's a red flag for not being honest ever. It hurts the truth and nobody is asking their love one for perfection but if they are not honest there is nothing to build on and the relationship is dead A regarding honesty. Another truth game is communicating a real feeling and see how they react if they ignore or reject you that's a red flag for emotional maturity and a red flag for verbal abuse. The last truth game is 'what does he/say say to you. Notice what they say and how you feel red flag for a verbal abuser put downs about weight, appearance etc are a red flag for physical violence. The truth does set one free as you can make your own choices to what accept or not accept form the beginning of the relationship if you are a man or woman who loves too much. But, if you are in a relationship test the truth game to see how healthy your relationship is or not. In a nutshell it's about awareness, acceptance and action. IP: Logged |
saronna
Knowflake Posts: 325
From: Australia
Registered: Jan 2010
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posted November 23, 2010 09:46 AM
PS the author of Lovesick The Marilyn syndrome Why women become addicted to the wrong men and what to do about it, is Elizabeth Macavoy and Susan Israelson. Also, even though the book is geared for woman it's also relevant for men who love too muchIP: Logged |
saronna
Knowflake Posts: 325
From: Australia
Registered: Jan 2010
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posted November 24, 2010 12:49 AM
Mental illness is different from lovesick addiction that is from one's experience living with a mentally ill mother and not knowing about mental illness until March 2007. I didn't know the ex is mentally ill but reflecting on mental illness there is something wrong with his head. I think one red flag for insanity from experience is that they keep doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different and is a red flag for insanity but not necessarily mental illness. Mental illness is when someone doesn't know or understand in one's mind the fine line between insanity and sanity it's all blury and confusing. It's really difficult to distinguish clearly the red flags one is mentally ill or not but one sign is they are pathological liars they lie for no reason but it's part of their mind makeup that they can't tell the truth or between what's real or not real regarding honesty with self and others; also people, places or things. Something in their (mental illness) mind where there is a disconnection is missing and the mentally ill need extra help and support like 12 step programs like Grow program for the mentally ill. Al-anon is for the those who can understand the fine line between insanity and sanity but not have the knowledge or awareness, acceptance and action tools etc. Al-anon is not for the mentally ill and as it does not focus on the special support and needs of the mentally ill like the 12 step grow program. Al-anon is for depression but the type of depression that one can distinguish between the fine line of sanity and insanity. Al-anon is not better than grow but it has a different focus and support network. IP: Logged |
hippichick
Knowflake Posts: 630
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Registered: May 2009
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posted November 24, 2010 10:55 AM
thank you all for your replies, but again, the original statement was not about obsession, not about non-reciporication, not about stalkers and mental dis-ease, but about an individual's inability to love fully, hence him thinking he is loving too much...all of the above-mentioned are not love at all... t~~~ IP: Logged |
Virgo-AriesArtist
Knowflake Posts: 305
From: Michigan :)
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted November 27, 2010 09:49 PM
I think I know what you are referring to, hippichick...like in the song "Scars" by Papa Roach"I tear my heart open,
I sold myself short,
My weakness is
that I care too much,
My scars remind me,
that the past is real,
I tear my heart open,
just to feel" IP: Logged |
saronna
Knowflake Posts: 325
From: Australia
Registered: Jan 2010
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posted November 28, 2010 12:45 PM
wow i like papa roach scarsIP: Logged |
heavenlyhera
Knowflake Posts: 129
From: Jax, Fl, US
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted November 28, 2010 09:50 PM
"In the end, the love you takes is equal to the love you make."-The BeatlesIP: Logged |
Got Gemini??
Knowflake Posts: 114
From: The Planet Mercury
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted June 04, 2011 09:06 AM
After reading up more on limerence, I realize how total BS this theory is. Dr Tennov is taking everyday NORMAL experiences and turning them into something bad. So if you really like someone, and you don't end up with them or they don't like you back, you were in limerence according to her. Total effing hogwash if you ask me.------------------
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