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coconutcancermoon
Newflake

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From: Brooklyn, NY
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posted December 20, 2010 01:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for coconutcancermoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Have any of you ladies read this book? The title is somewhat off putting but its an excellent and empowering read, it certainly taught me alot about self reliance and learning to not make guy my whole world in the relationship. I realize now its because of my self esteem issues that I need to resolve. Anyhow, I've applied some of the rules in my personal life and they really do work. I truly understand that men want strong independant self reliant women with their own lives and agenda, not a puppy.

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Lyra
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posted December 20, 2010 05:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lyra     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yeeaaahh, unfortunately some of them do work - they work right across the board with people in general, too, not just men. Sadly, life rewards bad behaviour - curious logic, but that's about the way it wraps up.

But I think ultimately a bloke will love you if you are confident about who YOU are, not what a book tells you to be. If you are fun and confident and sparky and can hold a good conversation, the attraction levels go up big time. So I would say if you want to attract a guy, ask him a bit about himself - show you're interested in him - because like it or not, lurve is a two-way street and blokes actually don't want a woman who's ALL about herself, but takes a bit of an interest in other people as well. But that should come naturally, of course (she says)

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coconutcancermoon
Newflake

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posted December 20, 2010 07:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for coconutcancermoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You're right! I noticed, though when I started to become clingy, he started pulling back more, which is what both men and women would do, who wants someone thats clingy?
I however, am coming more into myself as a women (and I'm 30 about time right?) and loving me more and putting me and my happiness first

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Lioness
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posted December 20, 2010 09:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lioness     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I admit guys and ladies fall for what seems to be the "jerk".... Its a challenge..

But honestly if this is not the real you, is it worth it in the long run?

If a guy cant accept you for who you really are, then he's not worthy of you or your time...

I say be yourself, But I do agree not to be clingy and have confidence in your self..

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coconutcancermoon
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From: Brooklyn, NY
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posted December 21, 2010 07:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for coconutcancermoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That's the funny thing about the book, yea some of it is game, but her 60 something rules are all pretty much common sense when you're a woman with self confidence.
LoL she has a rule called "monkey see, monkey do" for example if a guy says he's gonna call you and he doesn't, make yourself unavailable for a little bit and it will drive him crazy and make him think that you may have found someone better . . .
Last night when he called, I finally picked up after like 2 days and he was all "Where've you been? I was so worried about you! Were you avoiding me on purpose?
Truth is, I really was busy and I changed my focus, instead of incessantly thinking of him and the intense feelings I have for him, I focused on me and it does feel alot healthier.

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LetsDance
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posted December 22, 2010 04:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LetsDance     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So a ***** is a woman who does what?

Isn't clingy.
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Is independent.

?

Who doesn't make the man her whole world.

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Who plays *** for tat.

?

am I right so far? please continue...

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coconutcancermoon
Newflake

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From: Brooklyn, NY
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posted December 22, 2010 11:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for coconutcancermoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That is the author's definition of a "b*tch" yes, not technically one, I think it was to give the title a little edge. It was effective, since the book is super popular, but truth be told, when I first glanced at the cover in Borders, I though "eeel what a dumb looking book". I assumed it explained why men love nasty, crude and evil women :P

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LetsDance
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posted December 23, 2010 01:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LetsDance     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes, it does give the title a little "edge"

Well, we do call men "dogs" (at times), so, it may make sense ... lol

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iliketurtles
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posted December 25, 2010 10:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for iliketurtles     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Real bitches also fetch and obey orders on command.

A "b*tch " will always be just a female dog.

dam censor thing!

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ScorpSag
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From: New York, NY USA
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posted December 26, 2010 04:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ScorpSag     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I hate this book and the idea, honestly. its bullcrap. ive been one of those "bitches" all my life and Im pretty sure it repels the hell out of men. im not mean, ive just never needed to have a man in my life. i show interest, but im not all over them. being this way has led me to having all but one man ever stay interested beyond the second date....and im 29.

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