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Topic: Advice About Male Cappy Needed
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MsScorp11
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posted January 18, 2011 11:23 AM
  
I'm new to this forum and thought I would give it a try in hopes of gaining better insight. I (a female Scorp, age 29) was recently reconnected with a male Cappy who was an acquaintance from the past. We reunited on a social networking site. We spoke for several weeks via online and texts. We established that there was enough of a connection through conversation that we should meet in person. This past Saturday we went to lunch. He was a complete gentleman with a touch of witty sarcasm. He found little excuses to be touch feely. He made mention that he felt that I might have been a little guarded. He also indicated that he was not in a relationship because he has not found a woman recently who has made him want to be in a relationship. He also said that he moves slow because when he falls, he falls hard. Towards the end of lunch, he asked if we would do this again soon and asked that I contact him later. I did by texting him later that evening thanking him for lunch and telling him that I had a good time. He said he enjoyed himself as well. Since that communication, we have not spoken.I was wondering if our minimal conversation is an indication of his lack of interest despite him saying that he wanted to see me again soon...maybe he said that just to be polite? Or, is the lack of communication over the last couple of days maybe a result of him moving slowly? Also, should I be a little more aggressive and/or open with him or allow him to pursue me? Thanks so much for reading and your advice! IP: Logged |
cappy1277
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posted January 18, 2011 12:46 PM
You didn't mention how long it has been since you all spoke or the last text. You should throw out his chart or placements if you know them.IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted January 18, 2011 12:53 PM
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MsScorp11
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posted January 18, 2011 12:55 PM
We texted once on Saturday after lunch. And that was it. We are both at work this morning. He just contacted me via Facebook, saying good morning and asking how I am doing. I cannot lie, I am slightly thrown off by him. I am used to men chasing me. He is definitely not chasing me. At least not in the way that I am used to. It makes me feel anxious and unsure. Ugh! If he were not interesed would heh ave contacted me just now via Facebook? I am not sure if it is an indication of interest or just being bored at work. Lol. No I dont not have his placements... IP: Logged |
MsScorp11
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posted January 18, 2011 12:56 PM
Thanks Randall!IP: Logged |
cappy1277
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From: philadelphia,pa
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posted January 18, 2011 01:16 PM
Coming from a cap woman in a relationship with a cap man, he's interested. We just wouldn't bother with any form of communication. We're slow in that we like to ponder things & take our time. Don't do the scorpio chase thing because that's a turn off for us. It feels like pressure (at least to me) and when I feel that way, I drop off the face of the earth & then you'll never hear from me. Be reciprocal in communication. If he contacted you via FB then in a few days send him a message. I kinda went through the same thing too with mine. After the 1st physical meeting, we kept in touch via emails & text and it was another month till we hooked up again.IP: Logged |
MsScorp11
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posted January 18, 2011 01:31 PM
cappy1277 - Another month!?!? Wow! I am such a Scorpio! Lol. OK, I need to slow down and like you said, reciprocate and follow his lead. Slow and steady wins the race. Lol. Ugh! I will just have to adjust...IP: Logged |
cappy1277
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From: philadelphia,pa
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posted January 18, 2011 01:39 PM
Well worth the wait....lol. : ) me and my cap have been together over a year and the its the most consistent loving relationship I've ever had.
Do you know his birthdate?IP: Logged |
MsScorp11
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posted January 18, 2011 01:49 PM
His birthdate is Dec 26. What does that mean??IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
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From: Pleasanton, CA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 18, 2011 02:13 PM
Great birthday  IP: Logged |
cappy1277
Knowflake Posts: 452
From: philadelphia,pa
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted January 18, 2011 02:46 PM
How old is he? Same age as you?
Its relevant in that it will provide some insight into his tendencies. Not everything is written in stone but nonetheless it can provide valuable information.IP: Logged |
cappy1277
Knowflake Posts: 452
From: philadelphia,pa
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posted January 18, 2011 02:52 PM
If you look at his moon & venus (if he is the same age as you) he has a capricorn moon & venus aquarius venus. My boyfriend and I both have venus aquarius. Friends first, lovers second would be the best way to sum it up. If we can't be friends we can't be lovers. He's my best friend and I am his. We both like to intellectually stimulate each other and we do have a witty sarcasm about ourselves.IP: Logged |
MsScorp11
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posted January 18, 2011 02:57 PM
He is 30. I looked at our natal charts. It looks like both our Venus is in Sag. My moon is in Libra and his in Virgo.IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
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posted January 18, 2011 06:45 PM
I'm a Capricorn born December 26 with moon in Virgo. (I'm 38)I think reciprocating his speed is a fine idea. I don't know what to make of the slowness. Maybe he is trying to ease into your life or something. Maybe he's trying not to be too pushy. It was a holiday weekend, so it's possible he was just busy. I think you can be a little more aggressive if you like. Maybe he's not certain he has your interest. You scorps are known for your poker face. IP: Logged |
MsScorp11
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posted January 18, 2011 07:06 PM
Thanks so much Acoustic!! I will try matching his tempo at first and if things become too slow i might become a tiny bit more aggressive...IP: Logged |
LetsDance
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posted January 19, 2011 12:11 AM
Welcome  Has he started talking about sex yet? IP: Logged |
MsScorp11
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posted January 19, 2011 02:13 PM
Yes he has! I was kind of shocked because I thought Caps are really reserved. He brought it up and made it very clear that he is physically/sexually atttracted to me. What made you ask?IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
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posted January 19, 2011 05:33 PM
We are really reserved to most people. Most people probably don't ever consider me in a sexual way. Maybe it's that we're trying to keep our reputation clean. Men that talk sex all the time seem uncouth. Amongst people we can trust, though, we're a little less inhibited.IP: Logged |
LetsDance
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posted January 19, 2011 11:02 PM
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Originally posted by MsScorp11:
Yes he has! I was kind of shocked because I thought Caps are really reserved. He brought it up and made it very clear that he is physically/sexually atttracted to me. What made you ask?
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Originally posted by AcousticGod:
We are really reserved to most people. Most people probably don't ever consider me in a sexual way. Maybe it's that we're trying to keep our reputation clean. Men that talk sex all the time seem uncouth. Amongst people we can trust, though, we're a little less inhibited.
I guess he feels he can or wants to trust you. He opened up to you and told you how he felt about you prior to. The menz thinks about sex alot, you know. Ok, I take it took you off guard. Yeah, it would! lol Did you get offended? If you did, he's probably embarrassed and it will take him looooonnnnngggggeeeerrrrr to open up when you think he should trust you. It's twisted maybe, but some caps are! lol idk, it's a touchy subject. He could have been testing you. Who knows? Have fun. Dont always take him so seriously. Jeessh, they are serious enough for EVERYbody. IP: Logged |
blonderiverkat
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posted January 20, 2011 01:20 AM
[QUOTE]Originally posted by LetsDance:
Have fun. Dont always take him so seriously. Jeessh, they are serious enough for EVERYbody.lol Lets...My second husband is a Cappy, and a guy I dated a few years ago as well...I adored him, and I know was a soulmate...but...geeez, talk about serious, and taking your time! I am Libra, but have LOTS of Scorp...great friends, but a mismatch for me...Ironically, the guy I dated was a few months before I found my true love...with the same name, a musician as well, and lived a few blocks from each other...I think there may have been a mixup in energies or something!lol Kat
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LetsDance
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posted January 20, 2011 02:27 AM
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Originally posted by blonderiverkat:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by LetsDance:
Have fun. Dont always take him so seriously. Jeessh, they are serious enough for EVERYbody.lol Lets...My second husband is a Cappy, and a guy I dated a few years ago as well...I adored him, and I know was a soulmate...but...geeez, talk about serious, and taking your time! I am Libra, but have LOTS of Scorp...great friends, but a mismatch for me...Ironically, the guy I dated was a few months before I found my true love...with the same name, a musician as well, and lived a few blocks from each other...I think there may have been a mixup in energies or something!lol Kat
Wow, how eerie is that! You think you met an imitation first as a test and then the "real" one came along cos you passed? LOL IP: Logged |
LetsDance
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posted January 20, 2011 02:28 AM
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HappyCap
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From: MN, USA
Registered: May 2010
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posted February 08, 2011 10:25 PM
haha i just had to reply because i too am born on the 26th. great thread but if anything i like to think we prefer to be pursued because trying to find the right mate can become quite a chore. IP: Logged |
Lucia23
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posted February 09, 2011 12:34 AM
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After the 1st physical meeting, we kept in touch via emails & text and it was another month till we hooked up again.
GAH! I'm a Leo/Cancer. If some guy wanted to wait more than a week before seeing me again, I'd be really hurt, unless someone very close to him died or something. I also don't use social networking stuff. I think seeing each other in person and touching each other physically are dating essentials...if I want a pen pal who doesn't write very often, I'll get a pen pal. My Cap Sun friend (female) likes to see the guy she is dating once a week or so. I don't get that!! To me, that means having sex only one night a week (since they aren't seeing other people.) I like to have sex every night, unless I am very ill. It shows how different people have different speeds. How is this one going? Has this Cappy re-emerged? IP: Logged |
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